Post # 1
I thought this might be a fun topic. Did you have a plan for your life – marriage, kids, house, career? Did things go as planned? For better or for worse?
For me, getting married was definitely not my plan! I’m 22 and in my last year of undergrad so my plan was basically to go to grad school, maybe study abroad (I’m studying traditional chinese medicine), and just continue my bachelorette lifestyle :p I am still starting grad school this fall but I got married, and we are moving across the country in a couple months. I never thought I would settle down this early (if at all) but I’m definitely much happier.
Post # 3
Not even close. I’m 32 and have just been married for a year – no kids.
I was going to graduate from college and be married within a year to two. Two or three kids before I was 30 and then maybe back to work.
Thank goodness I didn’t marry the guy I was dating then! I couldn’t be happier with the way my life worked out, but it was a little rough trusting that I’d make it here eventually. 🙂
Post # 4
Mine’s sorta far off. I planned to go far away for school but planned to get married around 23. Instead I go to school 2.5 hours from home, an hour from FI and are getting married when I’m 21. Hopefully kids by 25! I know his plans are very far off from where he is now, but I think we’re both happier:)
Post # 5
Nope! I thought I’d go to college, find the man of my dreams, get married right after graduation at 22, have kids a few years later.
I’m 35, got all of my undergrad and grad school done and I met the man of my dreams at 30. I’ve explored and travelled as a single and have enjoyed my companion adventures too. Next year we’ll get married and keep on having fun together. No kids are planned for us so that’s a big change from my original plan. So yeah, things are different but things are amazingly rad too.
I love to compare what my “ideal” life was when I was 19 or 20 to what my real life is now. It’s really so much better than I could have imagined. Many of my friends feel the same way. Most are quite content with their plans changing a bit.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Blue Horse Farm
Mine isn’t really how I planned it either but I couldn’t be happier! I had originally thought I would be a news reporter or some type of journalist that was always traveling and constantly working! Marriage was never up front in my plans… I always figured I’d get married some day but not until I was closer to 30 and settled in my career.
I’m now 24, getting married next fall, and work as an IT Project Manager lol. Never in my life would I have thought I would work in IT as I have NO technical background. I just kind of fell into it and found out I really love it and am good at it! I am happy to say though that I have advanced in my career very quickly and am already at a senior level – so I will be ready to have kids much earlier than planned I think. And I NEVER wanted kids, but that all changed when I met my fiancee. When you love someone so much you can’t help but be inspired to create another human out of your love 🙂 Plus he will be an AMAZING dad!
It’s crazy how life turns out, but I wouldn’t change my life for anything 🙂
Post # 7
Not at all. I figured I’d get married a few years after college (after I met someone to marry LOL) and have kids. I never had a career goal really – it’s not that I didn’t want to work, I just didn’t know what I wanted to do.
Instead, I ended up moving to the big city by myself, finding an awesome job that’s turned into a 14-year career, and being single from my mid-20s to my late 30’s. I didn’t WANT to be single, but that’s just the way it turned out! I met H when I was 37 and we got married 11 months later.
Since I’m 40 now, I’m not sure we’re able to have kids, but I think I’m OK with that. I firmly believe that life turns out how it’s supposed to.
Post # 8
I don’t think I ever had an exact age or plan that my life could deviate from, other than going to college, but I feel like my life is right on track. I’m 25, married 2 years to a wonderful man, I own a house in the suburbs and a little sportscar, make pretty good money in the field that I studied in college, and have teeny little dogs like I always wanted (though I’m not sure I always pictured having 3 tiny dogs, the more the merrier!).
Maybe I’m just in an especially good mood because it’s the Friday before a holiday weekend, but I’d say my life is just as good or even better than I expected
Post # 9
@ErinC6: Fun question! Depending on when you would’ve asked me, mine is pretty far off.
When I was little, I definitely imagined being just like my mom. Graduated college, immediately getting married and having kids. Also, at that point, I wanted to write books.
When I was in high school, I had a long-term relationship that broke off. Because of that, I really didn’t plan on getting married. I definitely didn’t want kids. My plan was to go to an ivy-league, and become a very famous reporter.
After some time with AmeriCorps, I was accepted at both an Ivy League and a public state university. I chose the state school because I missed being near my family, and it was a well-respected school in its own right, especially for journalim. Through my time there, I met and fell in love with DH. He proposed during my last semester, and we got married 3 months after I graduated. During all of that, I landed my third internship of my college career at a non-profit. That totally changed my course of action, and I fell in love with working in marketing and communications for the non-profit sector. Hence, where I’ve ended up!
Post # 10
Not really, and I’m turning 19 in a few weeks! When I was 17, I planned on going off to college, acing my journalism studies, and meeting a bunch of awesome girlfriends and (probably) douchey boyfriends (deep down, I knew any guy I’d meet at the beginning of college wouldn’t be a good match; I was right in that aspect, at least).
But two months before I graduated, I started talking to DBF, a boy two years below me in school with whom I had shared only one semester-long class. The Tuesday before my senior prom, we became an official couple, and by the time I graduate, we were in love.
When the summer ended, I went off to college. Simply put, it was a disaster. My long-distance relationship with DBF was flourishing, but I didn’t exactly meet anyone interesting at college who I could count on seeing. My roommate moved down the hall from me in late September, and the one girl I actually liked in my floor section ended up transferring to another university. I slowly slipped into a state of depression, and even once I had sought counseling, it was too late to salvage my grades. My skewed priorities and continued into the spring semester, and I ended up flunking out.
Throughout this trying year, DBF has been by my side. I’m still trying to figure out my next step in life, but it looks like DBF is here to stay.
(However, I always imagined I’d meet my future husband earlier in life than most…I was assuming it’d be in college, not a high school course!)
Post # 11
I’ve always HOPED I would be getting married at this time. I’ll be 21 by the time we get married. I’ve always been a huge romantic so getting married right now does not surprise me one bit. I just had to get past my bad boy stage and find a MAN! Hopefully kids will come as soon as I hope, too! 😉
Post # 12
I’m not a spy (or a rockstar), and I am most definitely getting married (never wanted to).
Post # 13
not thought I’d meet Mr. Right in college, marry at 22, finish grad school by 25, and have my first baby a year or so later. I had it all planned.
in reality, I got sick senior year, barely passed, worked, then met FH, and am just now going back to school this fall (age 25). I wouldn’t change my life, but it’s so not what I planned