Post # 1
I’ve read some of these rules, some I will follow, but others, I’m like this is hogwash and to heck with it!!! This is my 2nd marriage (the first was just a courthouse wedding) and I have 3 children (2 by FI). When I saw in the etiquette rules that a 2nd time bride is not supposed to wear a veil or pick a tiara or any type of headwear, I just threw up my hands and said forget that!!! This is my 1st wedding where I actually get to wear a wedding dress (I wore a white pant suit at my 1st wedding). Im going to do what I want!!! Ladies what rules can you not stand or are doing away with??
Post # 3
@lindseyl06: i was reading through wedding ettiquette rules today at work, i already have a child from a pervious relationship and i will be wearing white, i will where a headdress of some sort. i will pretty much do as i please as long as i don’t offend any religious rules as i am marring in a catholic church and i’m not a catholic fi is. i am very respectful in that way. i think everything else is upto the couple as long as it’s tasteful
Post # 4
We’re wearing more formal attire than a daylight ceremony should allow for.
Post # 5
We’re putting registry cards in our invites. Come at me bro.
Post # 6
Our guests will have the option of drinking beer from bottles. My mom was pretty appalled by that idea, don’t ask me where that came from.
Post # 7
I’m wearing white, even though all my guests know I’m not a virgin (I have a child). Oh well, I think everyone deserves a chance to wear the white dress and have the whole shebang. I’m usually a stickler for etiquette, but this I could really care less about.
Post # 9
We’re requesting phone call or email/website RSVPs instead of doing response cards, because… I like trees, and everyone we’ve invited uses email.
A girl on this board pretty much went out of her gourd when I posted about this a while back – but – ummm – I don’t care. Like, at all.
Post # 10
We’re hardly giving plus ones because we can’t hold people. We know it’s rude. We don’t care. 🙂
Post # 11
I know I will be slaughtered at the stake for saying this, but its MY WEDDING (not yours) and we want to have a good time party atmosphere without spending my life savings…….
We are doing a one hour open bar, then its cash bar afterwards.
Post # 12
@mandypop: That’s totally NOT an etiquette no-no. In fact, I think response cards were etiquette faux pas when they were first introduced!
Post # 13
I probably wont’ do this but something inside me wants to skip the table-hopping during dinner. As a wedding guest, I always always make a point to seek out the bride and groom to greet them and offer congrats. I feel it saves them a trip. I honestly think guests should do the same, though I know it’s “right” for Fiance and I to make our rounds to them. I want to enjoy the reception and don’t want to spend it making small talk with hundreds of people!! We’re going to make it quick no matter what…I am not missing out on dancing w/ friends and family. I am a little bitter about likely not getting to fully enjoy the five-star meal we’re providing for our guests though…
Post # 14
@mandypop: I am doing the same thing. Do not feel like you are obligated to send a response card. I feel as if when etiquette rules were written, everyone was at a better state in times, not a recession like we are in now. I cannot afford to buy invites, THEN buy stamps to put on the invites, THEN buy response cards AND THEN buy stamps for that. That is rediculous!!! Im sorry if I offend but if someone REALLY has a problem with this, you tell them that you would be more than happy to allow them to pay for what they feel is “necessary”. Dont forget ladies, wedding industry equals money.
Post # 15
@LovebirdsSC: I’m with you on this. And I am a crazy stickler for etiquette (some of these things here make my skin crawl and I’m still doing this!) I’m learning that it’s ok for us to all do things differently 🙂
Post # 16
Oh boy, where do I start?
Registry card included in the invites (I had no clue that was a no-no before I got on this board, almost 100% of weddings I’ve been to include it)
Email/phone RSVP – no response cards
Beer/wine only, rest was cash
Didn’t do the table hopping. I nixed this after my BFF’s wedding. She spent the whole night talking to people they barely knew, and had very little time to actually enjoy her reception. So no, we didn’t do the table to table as a conscious effort. Everyone was pretty much on the dance floor all night anyway, so it worked out. I think though, between the two of us, we did make it to most of the tables. I remember going and talking to several people because I wanted to. And obviously the elderly relatives got a visit.
Like a PP, I always make an effort to go find the bride and groom anyway.