(Closed) For Fun: Ladies, what etiquette rules are you breaking ON PURPOSE??

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 212
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Big NO NO we are doing reception only invites….Oh the horror!!!! lol but we are paying out off our pockets sorry

Post # 213
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

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@heliabel:  If he will do the punk band thing, go for it!

Post # 214
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

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@sweetcrackers:  Yeah, I think including a link to the website is becoming accepted because it seems unnecessary to add in all those map cards, reception cards, etc.  They waste paper and are expensive. Because websites usually contain registry info, some argue that we shouldn’t put the link on an invite. I imagine this debate will go on for about a decade and then we’ll settle on it being just fine to put a website down. In the meantime, those more etiquette-conscious will probably not put one and those more carefree or who are confident their particular guests would rather have the link than not will put it on.

Post # 215
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

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@heliabel:  i like the sweetheart table idea, we’re probably going with a head table for the bridal party, but the size of most head tables over here wouldn’t accommodate the bridal party and their dates, so i have definitely considered sweetheart table ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 216
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Jacqui90 I’ve seen some set ups with the couple at a sweet heart table and then a longer table to each side for the bridal party and dates to sit at.  That might work good for a large wedding party too

Post # 217
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

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@heliabel:  thanks, my Fiance is having two best men, and I am having a Maid/Matron of Honor and two bridesmaids, each of whom we will give a +1

Post # 218
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

This thread made me happy! I’m a HUGE fan of doing what you want because it’s YOUR wedding! 

Although, I’m trying not to freak out about how many people are including registry cards in their invites! Ahhh! To me, one of the biggest invitation faux pas! ๐Ÿ™‚

Is a cash bar an etiquette no-no?? I’ve only been to ONE wedding that had an open bar. I think maybe around here it’s pretty normal to have a couple free kegs but everything else is cash. 

 

Post # 219
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

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@ashkat:  It depends on your area, but in most places, a cash bar is a no no because people feel that guests should not have to pay for anything at an event you invited them to, so either you pay for the alcohol or you don’t have it (and by pay for it, you can always reduce what;s offered to just beer and wine or a signature cocktail). In some places and in some circles, it seems that a cash bar is normal.

Post # 220
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012 - El Faro Convention center, Aguadilla, Puerto Rico
Post # 221
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think Fh’s parents and mine will meet at the wedding. I am not going to go out of my way to introduce them earlier (we live in three different states).

Post # 222
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@kerensa:  same here… but I’ll also probably be meeting my own father for the 1st time at my wedding… well at least I will send an invite, don’t know if he’ll show or not.

Post # 223
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Y’all can lock me up and throw away the key!!

  • Honeymoon Registry that will be slipped in with the invitation.
  • No RSVP card(except for the elderly) email and txt
  • Adult Only Reception printed on invites
  • Printed labels (just found out that was bad)

I know I’m doing more stuff but I just can’t think of it

 

Post # 224
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Love this thread!! I think that at your wedding you should do whatever you want, and if guests dont like it guests can stay at home! I think it depends what your priority is for your wedding – mine is to have a massive drunken celebration with all my friends and family that mean something to me. I dont think I have actually stuck to ANY ‘rules’, for example there are lots of family members I am not inviting for the simple reason that I do not know them very well, if we didnt share the same surname I wouldnt know they existed, certain peoples partners are being invited, others arent. Some of my friends are bringing kids some arent. Im currently 9 month pregnant so definatley no virgin ๐Ÿ™‚ and I am wearing a (diamond) white wedding dress on the big day. We get married at 11am but I wanted my wedding to be formal attire so thats what it is.My partner is wearing a modern skinny fit tux but the ‘groomsmen’ are wearing whatever they like. I dont particularly like being photgraphed so at the moment we arent bothering with a photographer, I dont like the idea of standing around for ‘hours’ posing (and no matter how casual they seem your still posing) I get bored so easy and would rather spend the time celebrating – all the guests will have cameras so that’ll do me fine, I didnt send STD cards, im not including rsvp cards in the invites (phone/text/email/facebook will suffice) oh and no free bar but i have never been to a wedding in the UK with a free bar – i dont think british people and free bars mix lol plus we would prob end up having to re mortgage just to pay for it ๐Ÿ™‚ we have champagne on arrival at the wedding breakfast and champagne with the toast other than that you pay for your own, we have 2 guest lists – 1 for the whole day (60 people) and one is evening reception only (another 60 people), i think that is it – by the sounds of it i’m going to etiquette/tradition hell (and no I dont know all the differences between the 2 but dont really care either Tongue Out). I think you should do what you want to make you and your partner happy on your wedding day – if sticking to etiquette or tradition makes you happy then go for it…if having something crazy and out there is what you want then why not? Im sure the majority of people you invite to your wedding know you and share a lot of your sentiments and will have a blast. I’d hate to look back at my wedding day and regret not doing certain things just because I was afraid of offending someone – you cant please everyone anyway.

A new one I have learnt from this thread is the whole honeymoon thing – we didnt want gifts as we have been living together for years we were just planning on telling people by mouth, if they ask, that we dont want gifts but if they want to give we are wanting ‘help’ towards our honeymoon. What is this whole honeymoon registry thing????

Post # 225
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@fayrhiannon:  Do a search on this site for “honeyfund” or honeymoon registry” and you will find tons of answers, experiences, and opinions on that topic! :o) 

Post # 226
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@heliabel:  Wow! Can’t wait to see those recap photos!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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