(Closed) For fun "last name" poll!

posted 4 years ago in Family
  • poll:

    Kept maiden name (didn't change name when married)

    Took his last name, kept maiden as middle name

    Hyphenated maiden and his name

    Took his last name, no trace of maiden name

    He took MY name

    Another, I'll tell you in the comments!!

  • Post # 16
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    334 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I dropped my maiden name completely and took DH as I wasn’t attached to that name or part of my family. Was looking forward to a new chapter and starting our own little family.

    Post # 17
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    585 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I’m not changing my name because Fiance has a hyphenated last name. I don’t want to take a full hyphenated name, it feels weird to pick just one, and he doesn’t want to drop one for fear of insulting one part of his family.

    Post # 18
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    1451 posts
    Bumble bee

    DH wasn’t planning on me taking his name because his first wife didn’t.  I thought about keeping my middle and maiden name and adding his but it would be a mouthful (my first & his last each have 8 letters).  I took his and dropped mine, pretty much the norm around here so nobody batted an eye.  

    Post # 19
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    382 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I will be taking FI’s and dropping my own. I have no middle names and both of our surnames are only one syllable each so would be really easy to hyphenate or keep both but honestly, I just don’t want to. Fiance is happy for me to keep my maiden name and Ive been told by some friends how old fashioned it is to change your name but I kindof like it and for me, I like the unification of having the same name.

    Also helps that my maiden name is VERY boring…

    Post # 20
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    835 posts
    Busy bee

    my last name is muslim. I am not anymore. My first name is quite common all over.

    I get a lot of flack for my last name, in airports for example but mostly from muslims when they hear my last name and start asking intrusive questions. I fully intend on taking my guy’s american last name and drop kicking my last name into oblivion. New chapter in my life, new identity, new start, I’m so excited!

    Post # 21
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    3030 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2016

    Not married yet. Wedding in Nov.

    I’ll be taking my FI’s last name. I don’t want my maiden name for personal reasons and Fiance understands this. He wants me to do whatever makes me happy so it doesn’t matter to him. We have a second wedding ceremony out of the country though which I need to get my passport for in advance…so he thinks I should hold off on changing my name till we get back so we don’t have problems with the passport/ordering tickets. I don’t really know how it all works so I’m assuming he’s right. Little bummed I can’t get it changed right away though.

    Post # 22
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    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    If it were entirely up to me, to be honest… we’d both change to Awesome-Smith hahaha. I’m not attached to my last name at all and generally go by “Caitlin the Awesome” online and in other non-professional settings (like college! A professor once corrected my name to “Caitlin the Awesome” when I passed something in with my last name).

    But unfortunately we both have jobs in which we have to have SOME air of authority and professionalism so I guess I’ll be taking his boring old Smith. I’m not close to my dad’s side of the family at all and see them once or twice a year on average (holidays/funerals/weddings basically). If I had my mother’s maiden name I’d keep it, but I don’t identify with my dad’s family so I’ll be glad to drop it). Just weird that all of my logins at work will still have my old last name, but hey, on the bright side it’s one character less to type.

    Post # 24
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    2308 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

    I intended to move my maiden to my second middle name and take his last. But, after we got married, I realized I was more attached to my maiden than I realized. I didn’t want to change it. so although on our marriage license it is amanda jane maiden his last, i never legally changed it. so i go by maiden-his last socially, all my legal stuff is remaining the same.  going through the hassle to change it on everything seemed like more trouble than it’s worth to me. 

    Post # 27
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I’m not getting married until fall of 2017. I have no idea what I’m doing with my name yet. I’m considering changing my middle name to be part of my first and using my maiden name as my middle. 

    I.e. First & Middle, Maiden, Fiance Last

    Post # 28
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    833 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015 - Family Farm

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    pipsqueak:  I got all the names! Tacked DH’s last name on to my name and made my maiden name a second middle name. I got rid of nothing! Lol

    So it goes First, Middle, Middle 2 (Maiden), DH’s Last Name

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by  Olgarie.
    Post # 29
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    3874 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    pipsqueak:  For my DH and I, this has been such a non-issue. He never once brought up his wishes for me to change my name. I’m still in the process of changing my last name (hello laziness), but it really never comes up. On Facebook I go by my married name, but I still use my maiden name for other things until I officially change it. Honestly, laziness is the only thing in my way right now. I’ve never felt a particularly strong attachment to my last name and while I love my family dearly, it was always important to me to take DH’s last name.

    Post # 30
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    341 posts
    Helper bee

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    FutureDrAtkins:  
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    SithLady:  I think I’ve seen in past threads that you’re both scientists. How are y’all planning to deal with publications published under your maiden names? That’s one of my concerns.

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