For fun – Wedding budget discussion

posted 1 year ago in Venue
Post # 2
9080 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

I think we are going to come in at £12.5k which to me is a price I am happy with. I didn’t want to go mad but I did want to have what we wanted. We only wanted 50-day guests so we didn’t really have to compromise. I still got a gorgeous dress and FH got a stunning suit, we are having a fancy wedding car and a great photographer. I have done lots of DIY and crafty stuff which I have loved. I can’t wait to see it all come together! 

Post # 3
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!

Our guest list has ballooned a bit, but we decided we don’t want to stress too much about making cuts to the guest list, and our hard budget cap is 10k. We’re inviting a little over 100 guests, hoping for around 75, and expecting a minimum of 50. My two budget splurges are the venue and photographer. I was thinking of making it so that anyone who wants to stay overnight at the camp has to pay a small fee (to cover the additional charge the venue has for overnight guests), but my fiance vetoed that after we booked… Which means an extra 1k or so for our venue. Our photographer is going to be around $1500 for 5 hours, including engagement photos. My mom is guilting me about photography costs, but I just want to guarantee I’ll have at least a few beautiful pics to frame after spending all that money. We’re skipping the DJ, cutting in other areas. I found out that the average cost of a wedding in our area is 40k (and the other areas where our families lived were even pricier), so I need to accept the challenges of our area. 

Post # 4
338 posts
Helper bee

We started estimating the number of guests and estimating price of food & beverage per head.

We are inviting a little under 100 and maybe getting closer to 60-70 people, F&B would be about $100 per person (base cost is $55, plus beverage, plus tax and tip) – so food & beverage alone our budget is $8000. This isn’t a super fancy place, it’s literally a luncheon reception, but weddings are just expensive anywhere.

We skimped on outfits (maybe $1500 for both of us), photographer ($1800), and decor (we aren’t doing much, very minimal). Rings will be about $800 for him, $500 for me. We are paying for accomodations for family from out of country/town, so that’s about $2000. Our budget is around $18000, a lot of that we’re spending on guests.

Post # 5
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

We splurged on our venue… but in reality our fee will include both ceremony, cocktail hour, and reception, all rentals, linens, and food. We spent $19k. The food is AMAZING and the venue is to die for with a retractable roof that allows us to see our city’s skyline while being surrounded by ivy and gorgeous stonework. Our guest list is capped at 100 people. We are getting an amazing deal on our DJ as FH is in the music industry, my Brother-In-Law is the officiant (free!) and I’m keeping my dress rather simple (sheath style, lace, very flowy). The most expensive dress in my wishlist is $1400. 

Post # 6
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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MsBeer :  your venue is ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Post # 7
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

We started by saying that we would cap our budget at 30k for about 100 guest; however, the guest list went up to 138 people and right now we are seeing the weeding being closer to 60k,

I splurge in flowers, food and the venue, and maybe a little on my dress because I did go over budget on it, and I don’t even love it which is even worst.


Post # 9
143 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Initially I wanted 10-12k but as we were planning we decided to expand it to balloon the guest list more and just because things cost more than we anticipated. So we decided 15k (we are over budget a bit like 16.5k instead but that is not too much so it is ok). I would say a majority of my costs was just the food and reception stuff (around 90% of our total expenses was for the reception). We went over budget because we decided to upgrade our menu and have more alcohol but that is ok with me because i would rather the meal be good if you are going to pay all that money for food. 

I was lucky that everything else cost really little. But at the same time there were things I did not add into the budget that other people may have because I do not necessarily consider it a wedding only item such as the groom’s suit. He went and got a suit that’s just formal that he can use and wear for any kind of event so I did not feel the need to really include that in our budget since it is not solely for the wedding. 

I managed to get my centerpieces down to $1 each by using Mason jars, sand, and a votive candle. I was really moreso focused on spending money for the larger things like the food, dj, photobooth, alcohol. Small details like centerpieces I was better at researching for a cost effective method. 

And also I have 260 guests so I would like to say that I did well for that amount of people ahah. 

Post # 10
10351 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We spent around $12K for 65 people. Most of the budget went to food and the venue.

We got a great deal on our photographer $1600 for 6 hours and they brought a second shooter.

We only did flowers for the ceremony and spent about $750.

We DIY’d our centerpieces. They were probably $5 per centerpiece.

My dress was $2000. Veil was $50. Shoes $30.

So yeah, almost the whole budget went toward the venue, catering, and an open bar.

Post # 11
1483 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

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XxCharmedxgrlxx :  thank you so much! We cannot wait for next September!

Post # 12
2314 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

I think the original aim was to spend $8-$9k In reality we’ll probably spend about $12k


That includes international travel costs AND our honeymoon. So it feels pretty reasonable to me. 

The main way we kept costs down was by having a very small guest list. Including ourselves, there will only be 26 people in attendance. 

I splurged on the photographer. FH and I are both pretty avid shutterbugs, so the pictures are to me, literally the most important part of the day, after actually getting married. I chose the photographer off of Instagram by searching wedding photography and the location of the wedding.  His work literally makes me gasp sometimes it is so beautiful. Plus, since this is a destination wedding, I really wanted someone who was familiar with the area who could tell us where to get the best shots. 

The other fairly big splurge was actually staying at the hotel where we’re getting married. Room rates START about $600 a night, and I needed a room big enough to get ready in with 3-4 other people so got a junior suite, which was closer to $800. 

The cost of hosting the wedding was actually fairly reasonable. The room charge is $1k and we have a $4k minimum food and beverage buy, but we cleared that pretty easily. Plus, those prices are CAD, so in reality about 30% less.  

On the whole, as much as it does seem kind of crazy to spend $12k on an event, I’m happy with our budget. It’s completely affordable, and exactly the kind of adventure I wanted our wedding to be. 





Post # 13
1644 posts
Bumble bee

I am super thrifty. Both my ex and future dh aren’t into fluff luxury. As a second time older bride, I cut almost all the fat. 

Things I need are a nice venue, nice dress, nice ceremony and formal photos. 

We are doing without wedding party n favors, limos, garters etc, showers n bach parties no dancing reception. No floral other than my bouquet. 

A midday outdoor wedding, cocktail n appy hour, plated catered meal. The venue includes basic tasteful linens. My fh nephew is a recording artist he is playing some music at the cocktail hour/dinner.

We are paying for the flights of a few important guests.  Not included , about $600 per 

My future sil’s are making the cake, I gave them full discretion. ๐Ÿ™‚

I made formal announcements, will make the invites. I did them double sided, English and French 

I just bought my wedding band off ebay, lol. 

Total cost less rings about 5k for up to 60 guests. 

One important thing was I found a bilingual officiant, and she is doing a dual ceremony for the regular price. Which is very important as he and most of his family are all French, and some are not bilingual. 

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