- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Here goes 🙂
Location: Harrisburg, Pennsylvania
Wedding: October 2015
Save the dates: Yes! It’s polite to send something out months before a wedding (especially if it is during a season when friends and family take vacations or are busy with other events)
Bridal party: Yes! Just a few of your closest friends should fill your bridal party, any more than five people makes your wedding party look like your high school lunch table.
Sitting dinner: Absolutely; cocktail hour and hors d’ouvres can be served and eaten while standing, but a sit-down dinner is pretty much a requirement for an evening (or even daytime) wedding and reception.
Open bar: If you can afford it. There’s nothing worse than going to a wedding with no alcohol, unless it’s a wedding where you expected an open bar and you didn’t bring cash. If you or your family can afford an open bar, even if the selection is limited to wine and beer, you should do so to ensure your guests are having a good time.
Gift registry: Appropriate, but do not put it on the invite. Gift registries belong on your wedding website.
Guest favors: Generally expected, though I personally think providing an open bar, entertainment, and a full meal is enough of a favor to guests 🙂
Dollar dance: Not for me; I have family from Western Pennsylvania so I know this is one of their traditions, but I don’t see myself doing this on my wedding day.
Adult-only wedding: Depends on your situation. We are having an adult-only wedding and reception because neither of us has close family with young children. It is more acceptable to have children at your wedding if it ends before 8 PM.
Inviting people to parties or showers, but not wedding: Impolite. Inviting people to the shower who are not invited to the wedding seems like fishing for gifts, very rude.
Bridal Portraits: No longer expected; I haven’t seen one since my Aunt got married in 2004.