sboom : tee tee hee…I honestly wanted to post this same thread, thank you!
Resounding PP, I take myself to be a polite person and I do my best to treat people well and say thank you. I wasn’t raised in a household that held a lot of parties, so I’m not a bonafide hostess.
Here we go:
– Pretend Destination Wedding and Obligatory Invites. We are getting married in Texas. We live in New Mexico. Everyone we truly want to be there live in Texas and everyone invited out of obligation live far away from Texas and our wedding is during the school year. We only expect half of our invites to RSVP yes. Not sure if this is an etiquette breach, but it is a nightmare and very unnesessary. Bringing me to…
– Houding on RSVPs well before the deadline. We gave everyone about 2 months (1 month to go) to respond. Probably too much time, but we had a lot of invites go out. Those who are travelling have already picked up their plane tickets, so I’m figuring that those who are far away and haven’t bought a plane ticket are actually not planning to attend. Which is fine… I just want to know 😀 We also reached out to family early on as well because… hello… y’all know about this. Sure plans can change and we understand that, but radio silence from family makes me crazy.
– Registry Cheese. I left a little note on our registry to the extent of “Thank you for thinking of us bleh bleh If you wish to give these are items we would love in our home bleh bleh Please consider shipping directly to us.” No one said anything, but I took it down after I realized how cheesy that was.
– Excessive Emails to the Wedding Party. I haven’t had a chance to meet the groomsmen yet, but they got the occasional reminder email from me and I think I scared a couple of them. I can be very type A and I recently left a job where I had too much time on my hands, so I was obsessively wedding planning. I’ve chilled out over the summer.
– Talking about the wedding in front of people that were not invited. Not just on social media, but at church and at work. It usually starts with someone asking me to remind them of the date as if they are going to block off some time on calendar. Makes me so uncomfortable.
– Reception Dress. I think I really do hate my wedding dress and because of how big and obnoxious it is, I am getting a second dress to wear after the first dances.
Ceremony will be traditional and I can’t think of anything strange we are doing there. We are still aiming for the hors d’ouvres style dinner with some wholesome additions. I’ll probably order another keg, but I’m not interested in watching people get sloshed.
ETA: Most of my sins so far are planning related. No one has called me out on any of this, but self reflection is a great thing 😀