For fun: what was your baby name "criteria"?

posted 4 months ago in Names
Post # 16
521 posts
Busy bee

Hmm… well, our boy name has been picked out forever bc my hubs gave me two options and I picked. It’s after a street fighter character.. haha.. 

we had our baby girl last December, and it was so hard picking a name. I wanted something simple, easy to pronounce, spell, not too common, have a nice meaning,  sound good with our 3 syllable last name, no “son” bc our last name ends with a “son” nothing made up or too trendy. I loved all “C” and “L” names. I’d tell people our name choice and get horrible reactions, making the process even longer. So, we have our boy name picked and I *think* we have our girl name picked.. I’m still kinda iffy on the girls name for our second baby (if a girl) bc it’s similar to our daughters name but was what my husband loved/wanted. But I guess kinda cute, since it’s sinikar and they will be sisters. We’re planning to ttc in December when our daughter turns 1. So, we’ll see what we have. I’d be happy with either a boy or girl, but secretly hoping for a girl, so they can share clothes/toys.. but it would also be nice to have a boy bc that’s what my hubs is pinning for.. gosh, names are tough though. Glad we have ours picked but who knows, it may change for girl. Boy name has been set forever. I’m not in love with it but my hubs is, and it’s unique and I say, “okay” haha 

Post # 17
521 posts
Busy bee

Oh, my hubs doesn’t want a family name. He wants our baby to have its own individual unique name. I wanted Sophia after my grandma but he says “no” bc of that reason and it’s way too common/popular. 

Post # 18
1235 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

So my first is only 10 weeks old right now but already thinking about #2- haha! I recommend the Baby Names app which is like Tinder for baby names- you swipe left or right and then see what comes up for you/your partner as matches. Our criteria:

-No names that have two or more roughly equally common spellings (like Kristin/Kristen, Lindsey/Lindsay, Stephen/Steven, etc) in an attempt to slightly lessen the amount of times kiddo will have to spell their name for people in the future

-Nothing that ends in an S sound because our last name starts with S and it would just alll run together (which is a bummer cause I LOVE the name Alice)

-We’d give them a first name that we’d actually call them by. Not like a nickname “his name is Joshua and we are going to call him Josh”, that’s fine, but more like “his name is John Michael and we are going to call him Mickey.”

-Preferably not too trendy/within the top 10 names (However there are a couple names we do love that we may end up breaking that rule for. I mean, there’s a reason they are popular names, right!)

-No bad monograms (my Brother-In-Law was almost an ASS before his mom realized Stephen probably wasn’t the best choice for middle name!)

Post # 19
1564 posts
Bumble bee

Seeing a lot of kids names as a teacher I have definitely formed some opinions!

 – no names that are typically used for one gender used for another gender. No calling a girl ‘Dylan’ or a boy ‘Leslie’. I usually have to deal with teasing and the kid crying that they hate their name. 
 – no names that can be easily used to tease, like naming your kid ‘Fartinay’
 – no names that involve complicated spellings or pronunciation
 – names that might sound problematic or too cutesy as a professional adult. At least give a more usual middle name so they have the option
 – names that are super trendy

Post # 20
8785 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

No kreati’v spelling or a made up yooneek name. Not a name which sounds like a baby , ie will grow with them, not a Candy or a Lulu or something. Not already shortened like Nate or Joey. 

AnonBee2019 :  

Post # 21
6648 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Our rules were:

Nothing “made up” and no “unique” spellings.

No nicknames, so no naming a boy Ben instead of Benjamin or a girl Margot instead of Margaret.

Classic, known names only, nothing people would struggle to pronounce.

No names that were notably from a different country or culture – in other words, no using Siobhan because we aren’t Irish.

Nothing that creates bad or suggestive initials, so if our last name were Davis we wouldn’t name a child Stephen Thomas.

Nothing ending in an -ee sound, as it would clash with the surname. 

We were open to using family names, and we weren’t particularly fussed about it being popular or not. We wouldn’t have dismissed a name that was in the top 50 or anything. And I teach, so I have a lot of associations and names that were eliminated from the start, even though objectively there was nothing wrong with them. 

Post # 22
39 posts

My husband is French, so we needed a name that would work in both the US and in France, and something that he could pronounce due to his heavy accent lol!  We had LOTS of vetoes back and forth…I loved “boy” and gender neutral names for a girl, but he wasn’t into it.  I also loved more old timey names, but he also wasn’t into that.  It was hard!  And even though I’m not at all religious, I adore biblical names for boys, but again Darling Husband gave me the smack down lol.

We finally narrowed it down to Sophie, Claire or Alexandra for a girl (although my favorite girl name of all time is Ainsley, but he struggled with pronouncing it), and Mateo or Nicholas for a boy.  We ended up having a girl, and only one child, so I never got to use my boy names, but our daughter wound up a combo of two our top three girl names, and it really suits her. 

Regarding other “rules” – we were very cautious about initials, potential rhymes or nicknames, and no cutesy or overly-clever spelling.  Also, one-syllable names were omitted because our last name has only 2 syllables, so single syllable names sounded too short and harsh.      


Post # 23
3529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

My only requirements are that it’s not the same name as someone I very much dislike and that Dh and I both like it. He’s got more requirements than I do, though. 

Post # 24
6710 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

AnonBee2019 :  traditional ‘western’ name spelled ‘correctly’. None of husband’s brother’s names (12 gone including his own) – we try to add a nod to family without showing favoritism there. Nothing too generally popular.  Nothing super long because it’s hard to learn to write.

Husband has worse rules: nothing for a boy ending in a vowel sound because it’s too feminine sounding 🙄. Nothing shared by people he knew once and didn’t like. My only other rule is not to use a name that’s overused in the family or that of a close friend’s kid. So Michael is out for that reason. 

We wound up with a Nathaniel, which doesn’t fit the rules: too long, too popular.  We used my dad’s name as his middle name since he’s the last of the naming line. If we have a girl this time, we will use the name I already picked: baby’s great great grandma on my side and grandma on his. If it’s a boy… lord we are in for it, and one month left to decide!

Post # 25
4242 posts
Honey bee

Our current and past criteria was fairly short:

– A name that can be pronounced in English and in French

– A name that has a short version/nickname already built in

Post # 26
2153 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

A proper name that isn’t made up with traditional spelling. Also a decent meaning.

Post # 27
2099 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Ours are:

1) classic name with classic spelling. We both have common names but uncommon spellings and only about 25% of people to our wedding got both names on our cards spelt correctly.

2) no family names with a few exceptions. So if we have a boy the middle names will be my husband’s middle name (his grandfather) and my surname (both of my grandfathers) but we won’t be using a name that is “taken” by an uncle or brothers or mums. We see those as our names vs family names like which of the 3 brothers should we name them after.

3) no naughty boy/girl names. So at my school there were a handful of people all sharing the same name who were all in the naughty boy group, so they’re discounted. We grew up on different parts of the country, so his naughty boy/girl list is different to mine. People we don’t like are also added to that list.

4) catholic but not too catholic. So his family are catholic and we’d like them to acknowledge and agree to the name but we don’t want anything which is overtly religious (Eg Gabriel).

5) like the full name and the shortened name. So for example, I like Anthony but I don’t like Ant or Tony. However, I do like Charlotte, Charlie, Char and Lottie so that was a contender

And most importantly:

6) works with his stupid surname. The kid will take his surname and not many names goes with his surname. So despite my previous point of liking Charlotte, Charlotte does not goes with my husband’s surname so it’s out.

So after that we’ve got one boy name and girl name. My friend recently had a little boy and called him our boy name, I had to check that she was ok with stealing the name if we ever had a boy because we cannot agree on  anything else (we only plan on having one so it could be a non issue). 

Post # 29
14979 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Not super popular, but not made up either.  Nothing with a different made up spelling.  Nothing with a nickname we didn’t like.

Post # 30
81 posts
Worker bee

Most important was for it to work with the last name, which eliminated a lot of names. Nothing ending with -er, or an -s or -x type sound. (My favorite boy name, Alexander, was a huge NO)

Our first ended up with family names because we each chose a name that was a meaningful family name so that ended up being our thing with our other kids. At least variations of names that are meaningful to us. 

Also just regular, well known, easy to spell names because our last name is tricky. Although with our youngest we have to clarify the spelling because there are a couple different ones but it’s not a unique spelling. 

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