- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
I’m steaming over seating allocation palaver… please let me vent before I self combust!
The night before my brother’s wedding six years ago my family were up til 10pm sorting the seating allocations. To avoid such a thing happening today FH & I put together a proposed seating plan the day after RSVPS were back (we chased people early so had almost all in at that point). His parents made some adjustments the following day – 23/2. I sent it off to my parents, hoping that there wouldn’t be too many changes but figuring at least we had almost two weeks before table allocations were due in (today). A week passed and no sign of any decisions made. I’d ask them about it and they’d say it “looks good” and they’ll le tme know. Mum decided to come over for a few days for my final fitting and I specifically asked them to have it sorted by the time she came over. Yeah, that didn’t happen.
Yesterday I get changes in the morning and I say that looks good. In the evening they change it around again and I didn’t like what they did. Went back to them this morning and mum’s in a total tizz over it, can’t understand the changes I want to make because she’s created a “perfect” table of all my most talkative cousins which she thinks is the “best” table… yet there are two non-talkative “spares” who can only fit at a table with guests of honour like my dad’s cousins who have flown over from the US. My suggestion? Break up the perfect table a little, slot the two quieter people there and move my brother & sister-in-law, who were at that table, to the table where the problem was with the US guests (which also has my sister-in-law’s parents & more aunts & uncles so it’s perfect). No, she can’t understand that, it’s hurting her head, she can’t deal with it right now.
So today’s the day it’s due in, I have a to do list as long as my arm, want to get out but also have to have this sorted because I won’t be back to my computer. Mum’s solution is “we can do it later” or “we can send it tonight”. NO WE CAN’T. They’ve had ample time to get this sorted and mum is making it sound like my problem. Right now I’ve said I’m giving them half an hour or I’m sending it to our venue as is. It’s not actually my problem if they can’t get their act together.
I think I’m more furious at that than anything else, that they’re making it sound like the problem is me being difficult about it. It’s actually her over complicating the entire issue by trying to match people by how conversational they are. That’s fine to a point but there’s always going to be a few odd ones out and yet she can’t see that it’s best to mix people up rather than having all the fun people at one table. And I’m most mad that they keep saying “oh we can do it later” when they’ve had TWO WEEKS and it took about half an hour to sort out FH’s side.