Post # 1
Just out of simple curiosity- for those ladies who must have a larger ring- like you may not have said yes unless it was xxx carats, what’s the reasoning? I’m not judging, literally just wondering. This is coming from someone who doesn’t really value jewelry that much (but yes, I wanted an e-ring, and I wanted a diamond)-
How did you decide what carat wieght you had to have? And why?
Post # 3
I would have said yes to a bread tie, but I did want a stone (not necessarily a diamond) of at least one carat. The reason is that I have fat fingers–5/8 or 3/4 looks great on some women, and they certainly aren’t cheap for a diamond, but on a finger my size, it would have LOOKED like he cheaped out. I wanted something that looked porportional and to not have to deal with people being judgmental of him or of our relationship or saying things like “it’s cute” or “oh, bless your heart, you can always upgrade later!”
Post # 4
I wanted a better diamond more than I wanted a bigger diamond.
I did want at least a 1 carat sine I NEVER want to upgrade or change anything about my ring. My husband did get me a 1.5 carat ring. It is perfect for my finger which is long.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t have said no if I got a small ring, but I certainly would want an upgrade or to exchange it. Why? Cause I want what I want and I/we could afford it… no particular reason. Everyone just has a certain taste. With that said, I dont think my ring is *large*, but I don’t think it’s small either. Would I have wanted larger? sure! But I’m ok with this one and never plan to upgrade. I decided what I wanted by how much I liked it on my hand and I wanted at least 3/4ct.
Post # 6
He is divorced so I want my ring to be better than his ex’s ring.
Post # 7
i would not have said no if he gave me a crackerjack box ring, i know his finances. but i did want a nice piece of jewelry that i could wear the rest of my life.
fortunately, my mom gave FI my grandmother’s diamond to use.
we are both very thankful.
Post # 8
i just prefer larger rings on my fingers. i only wear rings on my ring fingers (left and right). my rhr are all larger stones too.
trends have definitely changed over the past 30+ years. back then, 1 carat was considered a very substantial ring. my mom had one from her 2nd husband and it looked huge. it was the first time i had seen a ring that big. now, it’s almost the norm. celebrity rings have definitely influenced our expectations.
Post # 9
@MrsEME: I would have married him without a ring at all – BUT if he was going to buy me a ring, it had to be something I felt looked nice on my fat fingers (2.5″ long and size 9). For me that meant at least a 1 carat stone, which is what I got.
@dianaross: +1 (me too…lol)
Post # 10
@MrsEME: I did not have a carat contingency, and I would have married Mr. 99 no matter what. But I do want a larger stone, he knew that going in, and we’ve always said that when the time was right for a larger stone, we would get one.
I think its an aesthetic thing, AND a symbol…we aren’t the same people we were when we got engaged and married, so why leave the thing I wear every day as a representation of that in a time capsule?
We change and it changes, I’m fine with that rationale.
Post # 11
My ring definitely isn’t considered “large” by most, but it’s 1.1tcw, which is larger than most of my friends (we’re 26). But, it wasn’t me who necessarily wanted the larger ring. FI has heard our friends and women co-workers of his complain about their rings and talk about upgrading. FI was insistent on getting me a ring I wouldn’t want to upgrade, and one I would LOVE- and he succeeded!
He picked the ring style (3 stone halo) and got the largest size center stone that could fit in the setting, and he upgraded the clarity.
Post # 12
We had a choice of some family stones. We ended up setting a 3ct. Diamond as my engagement ring. We chose it simply because it was the largest stone offered to us. There were a couple 2.75 diamomds but the stone we have now is of impeccable color and clarity.
Post # 13
@memo: What is a 3 halo stone? I have a halo ering…but i haven’t heard of the 3 halo stone before. Do you have a pix u don’t mind sharing? *sorry to be nosy LOL*
Post # 14
I wanted a large stone bec I’ve always dreamed of having one. FI and i have worked hard to get where we r and to earn the things we have. We agreed on the budget, and I picked out the exact ring. it feels great to have hard work pay off and to enjoy having the things we want. Its just my preference to have a big shiny versus a tiny shiny.
Post # 15
@dianaross: I think I love you! That was s totally something I thought but was never brave enough to admit!
Post # 16
I just like the look of bigger rings on my size 8 fingers..I wouldn’t say no with a smaller ring, but we went with moissanite so I really could get the size I wanted.