(Closed) For ladies who MUST have larger rings…..

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 62
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

In my case, I always dreamed of at least 2 cts. I have long fingers / large hands and i love the idea of wearing the same ring forever. My Fiance originally picked a 1.7 ct. diamond that was F color and VVS2 clarity but he wanted to show it to me before proposing. Despite the outstanding specs, the diamond wasn’t impressive at all. It didn’t sparkle that much, it looked smaller than 1.7 and I didn’t like the proportions either. I told him that he could probably get a better deal online and that’s when we started looking for diamonds together. I suggested going down in color and clarity to get to a 2 ct. with a similar price of the one he originally chose. I would have been perfectly happy with that. But then he “fell in love” with my 2.5 ct. G color, VVS2 clarity diamond that he found online and it is so perfect to me. It sparkles like crazy! Yes, it’s considerably more expensive than the one he picked initially but every single jeweler that has seen it could not believe that he paid “so little” for such an amazing diamond. It appraissed at A LOT more than what he paid for too. We’re both delighted with it. 

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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@MrsEME:  I like the way you went about this thread! It was an interesting read and I liked hearing all the different responses. 

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - old cheese factory

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@MrsEME:  i should have sent my Fiance onto the bee to learn a thing or two about diamonds before he went shopping the first time. lol id take quality over quantity anyday.

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@MrsEME:  I see, thanks for the explanation! Again, I wasn’t directing all that at you, more so the general issue, and because even within this thread some of those sorts of comments were starting to bubble up.

I can understand a general wondring of why people prefer something different than you, unfortunately I think a lot of people post threads similar (sounding, at first) to this one because they are actually making some kind of jab. And then come all of the backhanded responses that are riddled with insulting the look of large rings, questioning the character of the wearers, making assumptions about financial situations or choices, you name it.

I just never understood why it’s ok to say negative things about large diamonds that didnt even end with the diamond, but creeped into character judgments and baseless assumptions….but would result in world war three if the negative judgment was directed at small diamonds or their wearers.

As for you, I don’t think it’s strange that you don’t want a small ring at all. People think it’s strange that I don’t like sushi, that I hate changing of seasons and cool weather, that I prefer all my clothes to be perfectly tailored and form fitting even if they arent comfortable. The list goes on. Everyone has different preferences. I’m sure some people do want larger diamonds for some of the examples you listed, but plenty want them just because they do. 🙂

Post # 68
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have small fingers (something that I was completely unaware of until WB), so my half carat looks pretty big on my size 4 fingers.  Because of this I think I understand the desire for a bigger stone if you have bigger fingers – it looks mroe proportional!

Post # 69
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

If we’re calling “large” rings as 1ct and up, I fit in that category, but not in the sense that I would say no if the ring was smaller!

Part of it is because I’ve always worn a lot of rings, and I wanted my e-ring to really POP in comparison. The other part is that Fiance in a fairly high-paying field, and all of the wives of his coworkers have blingy rings. I wanted to fit in. And Fiance wanted me to fit in–he wanted me to have a nice ring.

At the same time…I’m frugal. We went with a purple sapphire instead of a diamond. Fiance likes the pop of color, and I’m mildly obsessed with purple. So now I have (what I calculate as) a 1.25ct equivalent purple sapphire on my 4.5-5 size finger. I think it’s a fantastic size for my finger. My ring looks fantastic, and I think it’s a great size and style for my finger. I had a blue topaz I used to wear on my left middle finger that was acutally a larger stone, but the quality of this ring is so much higher that it puts it to shame.

Long story short…I like some sparkle!

Post # 70
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I have a 2 carat cushion, and to be honest, the way cushions are cut, I eventually want a 3-3.5 carat. He can afford it, we’re also a little older getting married as well (30’s) I specifically asked for  2 carat +, has to be a diamond, and a cushion cut, and I told him I didn’t want anything else and not to ask me until he had all of that. I did assist with a lot of the researching and finding a variety of options for him to pick from. As superficial as it sounds, he wanted to make me happy and he knows I will want to upgrade, so we both made sure there was an upgrade policy in place. I could care less if women think it’s gaudy and I do have small hands, so it does look rather large. But for me, it’s the same reason why some women prefer Gucci over LV or plain frozen yogurt over chocolate yogurt, or why I only dated men 6’0 or taller (he’s 6’3!)(and because I love wearing heels and I am 5’5) because this is my life and what I prefer. To some women, the size AND quality is important in their diamond, and to other it’s not, and that’s really all there is to it! 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 72
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Blushing bee

I want a big ring. Because I want my ring to reflect my personality. I have a big, over the top personality and a small stone doesn’t exactly communicate that like a large ring does. I also have big fingers and so, esthetically, I want some finger coverage. I would be very unhappy if I was given an ultramodern ring because I am a romantic vintage type of girl. So the size is important as well as other characteristics because I want my ring to be me.

Post # 73
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My husband picked the ring out himself. I had no saying whatsoever. He likes flashy things. 

Post # 74
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@MrsEME:  You are not strange at all, we are just both sides of the same coin 🙂

 

Post # 75
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - The Crystal Ballroom at The Rice Hotel

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@EffieTrinket:  +1

PP nailed it on the head. I too have bigger fingers and a 1ct. just isn’t going to cut it without Fiance looking cheap… My ring is going to be 2 or 2.5 ct.

Post # 76
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I love what @dianaross said….and I would feel the same way if I were in that same situation!  I always wanted a larger diamond just simply because they’re beautiful and fun! I didn’t choose the size of mine, my fiance did (1.53).

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