(Closed) For ladies who MUST have larger rings…..

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 77
2903 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Midland, TX

DH wanted me to have bigger and better than what I got from my douche ex DH.

Post # 79
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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He is divorced so I want my ring to be better than his ex’s ring.”


That is such an awesome answer 🙂  I felt a bit that way too.

Post # 80
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

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@MissNoodles:  you know, the ladies I know with the most amazing rings all give this as their answer lol, and I TOTALLY agree. If I didnt get the first wedding, I want the best ring.

Post # 81
4697 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I didn’t need a big ring, I wanted one and my Fiance wanted me to have one.

Post # 82
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would have said yes to my Fiance even if he proposed with no ring or just a plain band. In terms of my taste in rings the only thing I ever really hoped for was a brilliant round cut, but other than that I didn’t really care about the size. If my Fiance had spent an astronomical amount on my ring I would think he had lost his mind! I’d much rather spend that money on a trip to Italy or toward our house. While I ADORE my ring, it was just never that important to me. Mine is 1.03ct and anything larger than that on my 3.5/4 size finger would be a little overwhelming for me.

My stepfather had my mom’s ering custom made and it cost him a FORTUNE. We’re talking a “he could have bought a luxury vehicle out right” kind of fortune. Its almost appaling how much that little thing cost. I can’t even imagine that. I’d probably make my Fiance return it! LOL

Post # 83
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@diamondsragrlbf:  This is my second marriage too and since we’re both doing pretty well at work and I knew it wouldn’t break the bank I wanted to get something I could see myself wearing for the next 40+ years, perhaps even pass down as an heirloom.  So I also went bigger.  Plus I have thick fingers so bigger looks better on me.  He got me a 3 carat, A-grade blue solitaire sapphire with split shank white diamonds and a separate customized white diamond wedding band that I will not see until the wedding when he puts it on my finger.  I could have gotten just the usual white diamond. But my birthday is in September (birthstone), my wedding is in September, blue is my favorite color and it’s my favorite month.  And I love Princess Di’s/Kate Middleton’s ring so it was perfect for me.  I get a ton of compliments and I don’t think anyone should feel self-conscious for whatever they have as long as they love it.


Post # 84
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

i actually didn’t help Fiance pick out the ring at all so i was SHOCKED when i saw it was exactly what i wanted. a 2 carat cushion with pave. ( i secretly wanted something bigger than 1 carat, but would have said yes to whatever, even a band)

it seems like all the bees here are so knowledgeable on rings!! i honestly i didn’t do research i just knew i liked that vintage look with the cushion and the pave. i think he appreciated that i didn’t tell him what to get me. 

he said he tried to use everything he knew about me to pick the ring, then he confirmed with my sisters. 

(i also have size 3.75-4 fingers, so anything bigger than 2 carat center would prob look too big on me. he wanted to keep it classy)

Post # 85
366 posts
Helper bee

Like other PP’s have said, I would have said yes to my Fiance even without a ring. But if I was going to get a ring that I was to wear every day for the rest of my life, I had some ideas on what it should be.

My Fiance asked for input on my centre stone, so I said I’d love a 1ct stone but that 1.5 would be dreamy. At one point he had me looking at a 2ct, but I couldn’t see myself washing dishes with it on! lol We also decided to go for a canary diamond. It had always been a dream of mine and Fiance loved that it was different – like me. (fyi – a good canary is about the same price as a D flawless, so it had the same impact on our budget).

We chose the size that we thought looked the most proportional on my 8.5 finger – a 1.48ct oval (that shows face up like a 2ct). I love it.

BUT, now that I have it and wear it every day, I’ve realized that it’s big. Well, bigger than the average among MY friends and coworkers. It gets noticed – and sometimes I’m not sure in a good way.

If I’d chosen my diamond based on what others would think of it, I would have a) gone smaller and b) not had yellow.

But I didn’t. My Fiance and I chose what we liked within our budget (I actually negotiated the price of my own e-ring and brought it down 20% to 2/3 of Fiance max budget. Yay!).

The most important thing is that it represents the commitment we have now made to share our lives together.

Post # 86
1019 posts
Bumble bee

Much like PPs, I would never reject a proposal from the right person simply due to the carat size of the ring. However, I’d ideally want to wear the same e-ring for the rest of my life, so I’d prefer something that fits me and my preferences.

My taste in jewelry is rather bold to begin with, and I also happen to have large hands (my ring size is about an 8, but my fingers look perfectly propoprtional to the rest of my hand). Also, I’d want my e-ring to stand out from the rest of my rings, so I’d want something a bit on the bigger side. Honestly, any ring significantly under .5 carats (or the equivalent thereof) would be too dainty for me, and depending on the setting, I’d be afraid of it disappearing on my hand.

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@polyblonde: I’ve noticed that attitude, too. If a bee starts a thread to the effect of “Is my .3 carat solitaire too small?”, you’ll see a ton of regular users calling the e-ring a symbol of their FI’s love for them. I have never seen a bee say that about a much larger ring. However, the “I just got engaged!” threads featuring bigger engagement rings tend to get more comments. If I had to guess, it’s probably jealousy.

Post # 87
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I would never turn down my fiance, but Fiance knew if it wasn’t a “good size,” I’d be a little disappointed.  He has no debt, I know how much he makes, what he has in his bank account, and I see how much he spends on computer/video games.  My ENGAGEMENT ring better cost more than all that…



Post # 88
6107 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I didn’t have to have a certain carat but we both just kind of agreed that we wanted a diamond that was no less than 1 carat (or something very similar like .98 or .99, etc). Not sure how we decided that, but we did. My ring has a 1.01ct center diamond so we got exactly what we wanted. But I would never had said no regardless the size.

Post # 89
8036 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Well, I didn’t demand anything, but a larger carat size (not that mine is huge, but the 1.33 carat yellow diamond I have is a good size, I’d say!) was important to me because I love diamonds.. always have… and I guess aesthetically I just prefer a slightly more substantial stone. We’re in good places in our lives financially, and so it was an opportunity to get a good sized diamond. If we were starving students I definitely would not want to go into debt for it, though. For me it’s a combination of quality and size. I wouldn’t want to dip below a carat, but I wouldn’t go up to say 2 carats by diminishing quality. With that said, our wedding is going to cost like $2,000. We were happy to put the money into the ring… the one day party is not really important to us.

Post # 90
108 posts
Blushing bee

I live close to Beverly Hills/Hollywood area so it’s not uncommon to see big blings. Besides I love flashy stuff (I wear huge jewerly and big cocktail rings) so it is intuitive that my Fiance proposed with a decent sized ring. 

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