SellyJo: Well, we got married 12 days before our 10 year anniversary…but close enough!
We waited until we were “established” in our careers, finances and felt emotionally prepared. We started dating at 15 and 17, so we were clearly very young. We wanted to finish college and have a few years of work before marriage. We got married at 25 and 27. Now, 1 year and 3 months later, we are very happy and have no regrets.
Interestingly, I never felt like I was “waiting” until a few months before he proposed. We had casually discussed marriage off and on, but didn’t have a serious discussion until March of our 9th year of dating. At that point, we decided we would get married “soon.” That September, he proposed. We had an 11 month long engagement and it was perfect for us.
We spent a long of time building a strong foundation in our relationship before marriage and wanted to be certain we were growing together, rather than apart. Did we have tough times? Absolutely, but now that we are approaching our late 20’s, we are comfortable with who we are as individuals and as a couple.
Even though we dated throughout college, we still spent time figuring out ourselves, which I am thankful for. We went to separate colleges (in the same town), both did sports/clubs, I did study abroad 3 times, I also worked abroad and we had our own groups of friends. After college, we both began to pursue our careers and develop ourselves professionally. At that time, we started focusing on merging our lives a little more and aligning our goals.
We didn’t want to “rush” anything and we have no regrets about it. I know some people will say, “when you know you know, so why wait.” But we believe, “if it’s meant to be, it will happen when you are ready.” We knew where our relationship was headed, but we wanted to take our time in getting there.
TheGridMonster: We just learned this past year how much the marriage penalty tax sucks!