Post # 1
My biggest pet peeve is when people L-O-V-E to give you “advice” on how to raise your child! I have done sooo much research yet I still get, “don’t get them vaccinated, they will die; buy the hard soled shoes, they will never learn to walk without them; if they don’t start feeding themselves at 9 mos., they will never feed themselves… Ridic!
I also don’t love, showering 2-3 times a week, having to start packing an hour before if we leave the house…
But it all comes with LOTS of joys and love too! Totally worth it!
What is your biggest parenting pet peeve?
Post # 3
I have to say I am with you on what your pet peeves are. My Mom seems to like to put in her 2 cents on how to raise my daughter at times, but she is just being my Mom, lol. I would have to say my biggest one is when my nearly 4 year old doesn’t like to mind very well. We tell her to sit down, and she runs around and drives us crazy, lol. But she is just being a kid, that’s what they do.
Post # 4
My son already does the same thing. If i tell/ show him someting once or twice he does it but from then on; he does whatever he wants! Ex. He used to LOVE opening and closing a particular door at our house so once we childproofed it; he watched us do it and hasn’t touched it! since!! It bugged me at first ’cause I was paranoid about his development. I’ve come to learn he just has a stubborn personality! Hmm. I wonder where he gets that from??? Hehe.
Post # 5
When I was pregnant, I loved(not) when people would tell me how I HAVE to do things or its BAD for the baby. My husband plays in a band so I’d go to his shows every once in awhile when I was pregnant. These shows were usually at bars and drunk girls(usually childless) LOVE to tell you how it is, especially if “someone they know” told them. Really? BEcause your sister has a bad experience with(insert scary pregnancy situation here) means I HAVE to do X or I’m a bad mom. Once I had an aquaintence(also drinking) tell me that my husband had gained more weight than me and that I’d better “nip that in the bud.” (OT, but so annoying). Everyone is different and weather that baby is inside or outside of you, YOU know your self and your child better than anyone. What made me feel better was knowing that most of these girls would experience the same thing when they had babies someday. Just a longtime coming shut-the-heck-up…
When Alice was born, she was pretty colicky and my mom acted like it was a disease and it must have come from my husbands side of the family because none of “hers” were colicky. Like there was something wrong with my child. Then I decided I wouldn’t come to her with questions because she has such an unattainable standard that I’ll always feel like I don’t measure up. I’m making my own rules and if I have questions I have mom friends and my sister and my daughter’s doctor.
Post # 6
My pet peeve during pregnancy was touching me or analyzing how I looked. I did not want to be anyone else’s science experiment. Bad enough that I was my own science experiment.
Now my peeve is how everyone says, “Just wait until she’s 13. She’s gonna be awful. You’re going to want to send her back!”. Yeah, it may be hard, but let me enjoy the moment… OK people?!
Post # 7
lol Mrs DG! People LOVE to comment on how you look – I got a lot of “you don’t look pregnant”. um thanks?
The one I really dislike now is how people feel the need to constantly tell me to enjoy my freedom now. REally, life is going to change? Thanks for telling me. Anytime I post anything on FB about “we are going out for our anniversary” or something like that someone needs to chime in to tell me to enjoy the freedom while I can.
Post # 8
I hate when people tell me how to raise my kid! I also hate when we go somewhere and people feel that they need to do everything for him, he’s 2, he can feed himself!
Post # 9
Still pregnant over here but already getting the unsolicited advice. My favorite so far? And bear in mind, only 4 people know I’m pregnant besides me and Hubby… My Mother-In-Law is already (at 7 weeks) concerned about my potential weight gain. I’ve fortunately always been thin and haven’t suddenly ballooned up or anything. But she needed to tell me that she gained 17 lbs with my husband. I was thrown. I think any doctor would be furious with me if I gained so little and yet she’s concerned about me becoming fat. Sigh…
Post # 10
I think that my biggest pregnancy pet peeve was people telling me every weird, off-beat, horrific story that they could think of while I was pregnant the first time. I mean, there were some seriously messed up babies born out there according to most of my co-workers at the time! And it all gave me nightmares…that’s not what a first-time mom needs to constatnly hear! Now on my second pregnancy, I know better how to tune it out a bit…
My biggest pet peeve about children and raising them is other people telling me that I’m doing it wrong and how they’re doing it right. While I might have wanted to smash them in the face at the time and go about my merry way, I restrained the impulse and just learned to smile and say “thank you.” If they were especially annoying about it, sometimes I would sit there and argue with them over their viewpoint, but most of the time it didn’t do any good. If they know enough to tell you how you’re doing it wrong, you’re not going to change their mind, so you might as well just save your breath…
Post # 11
My pregnancy pet peeve is definitely people who tell me ‘you should have a girl because they’re fun’ or ‘you should have a boy because they’re easier’ and so on. We don’t know what the gender is, and not by choice, so I really don’t want to hear everyone else’s preferences for what gender our baby should be.
Also, in the beginning at least, it bothered me when someone would comment on how small I am. In a way, it made me feel somewhat inadequate as a pregnant woman, like maybe I wasn’t doing enough to take care of myself (though nobody said this or even actually seemed to mean it in this way).
Post # 12
@Superstitions – Totally agree on the small point! People love to comment on your size – and when I am told I don’t look that pregnant, there is this part of me that thinks I am not doing it right, although intellectually i obviously know that isn’t true!
Post # 13
@superstitions-and like you have control over your babies gender?! The funniest thing was when people would tell me that I didn’t look pregnant from the back. I was like, am I supposed to? I wasn’t small but my son was pretty small and when people would comment I felt that way. I AM feeding him!
My latest comment I got was, “He would start walking if he wore shoes. Nice hard soled ones.” Actually no, it’s the opposite By The Way. I told her that I had actually heard the opposite, bare feet and soft flexible shoes are best. And she just argued with me about it!!! Sheesh people.