- 8 months ago
- Wedding: May 2021
So I’ve been engaged for only a month now, however I started pulling together venue names a year or more ago, as well as doing some general research on vendors, costs, and general wedding planning. Because of that preparation, we have our venue picked and are about to book it by the end of this week for late May, I’ve already gotten a chunk of the wedding website done, I’ve saved a bunch of ‘favorite’ templates on Vistaprint for invites to review with my fiance, we’ve pretty much picked out colors, I have a general idea of flower looks, pretty sure what we’ll do for center pieces and the cost, we bought napkins and will likely rent white linens through the caterer (which we’ve also narrowed down pretty well), I’ve already looked at dresses online and know what style I want, and my mom is going to make a semi-naked cake for me. I’ve also researched and compiled a list of possible bartender services (though will likely go through caterer if possible), photographers, and DJs.
At this point.. I need to find a coordinator (not right this second of course, but it will need to happen eventually), and saw one recommended in a local FB group that seems very suitable for our budget. I’d anticipated about $1000 for a day-of coordinator – it’s required by our venue and I wanted one anyway. She doesn’t seem to be listed on WeddingWire so I haven’t been able to see any reviews beyond the raves on her website, but for 6 months planning and day-of coordination, it’s $1000 base (may go up for guest count/distance).
We are still open to other caterer suggestions, I wouldn’t mind someone handling vendors and helping with understanding contracts (though we’ve seen venue ones and they seem pretty straight forward), I already have a budget spreadsheet, and intend to do flowers through a local grocery chain that does great wedding work… We live on the edge of a fairly major city so we have a ton of options for everything it seems!!
My fiance is a great human but he seems to think he’s being nice by letting me handle all the decision making. I’ve TOLD him that it means I have ALL the pressure and responsibility and that I will want him to help with some things, but of course that only helps so much (plus he just doesn’t have much of an opinion except for food, drinks, favors, and what he wears). I do enjoy projects and think I can handle it, but on the other hand I really wouldn’t mind having someone who is a professional at this who can help with research, advice, managing everything… My mom is retired and happy to help be my planner but she doesn’t know any more than me – and, in fact, since she hasn’t done all the research I have, knows less.
Did you use a planner? Had you already done much? Did you still end up doing a lot? Did you find it worth the cost? And, speaking of cost, how much was it for you?
For reference, our venue will be about $3700 for full day, but we are going to initially book their micro option (<40 people) for about $1900 and see how covid goes over the next few months. Looking at about $2500 for 30 people catering (seems like a little expensive to me but great reviews, on every preferred list, has variety). Flowers probably $500-900. The dresses I like are $1300-1900. Bought 50 fabric napkins for $30, renting plain white linens. Wood slices, tealights, and bud vases (likely repurposing a few bouquets or getting a couple extras) as centerpieces. Vistaprint invites ~$1 each, any add ons are cheaper than the Knot and others. Addressing them myself and adding wax seals, possibly incorporating some vellum paper.
Originally I’d written off having a planner as not fitting in our budget, but if I get that still within what I’d expected to pay for a coordinator, it seems a bit tempting?