Post # 1
How long did you date? What made you decide to get married so soon? Was it a first marriage? How long after did you wed? How well did you feel you knew your partner before saying yes?
Im just being nosy and looking for some info. I am 27 and my new fiancé is 32. I had been married previously which a major let down and am in the process of obtaining a divorce. We both a son from previous relationships and have good relationships with each others kids. We are very much in love and the relationship has completely clicked for us. We are together five months and are not making our engagement official until my divorce is through. We currently live separately and spend 1 or 2 nights a week with each other. By the time my divorce is completed we will be together around a year. We will move in together around the year mark and spend however long it takes getting used to our blended family and comfortable with the situation before thinking of dates for the wedding. We have similar outlooks on life and are settled in good careers. I know we likely have a lot more to learn about each other and I hope we will keep on learning about each other forever. We plan to cross every bridge in the road together and are keen to make this commitment to each other. Never have I felt happier in myself or a relationship and we are very much lookin forward to a wonderful future we will build together. That’s my story, I’m curious to hear of others in similar situations of you would like to share?
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park
We date a year before getting engaged. We expected to have at least a 3 year engagement, but then he found out his unit was getting deployed. We decided to have a small civil ceremony after an 11 month engagement. We just wanted to be married so bad and knew that after this deployment there would be enough money in the bank to buy furniture and have a larger wedding. It was a last minute ceremony. We planned it in a week!
Post # 4
From meeting to marriage was 3 months. We pretty much knew from the very beginning that this was it. It was my first marriage bot not his. Its a May-December relationship. We eloped be cause I didn’t want negativity on my wedding day. We’ve been married 6 years, and are now planning a vowel renewal to have a wedding to include our family in (hopefully no one has a reason to be negative now, but there is always at least one sour apple). I’m looking forward to having my daughter as my MOH! I don’t think there is any “right” timeline for engagements. Everyone’s relationship is unique and special. I do sometimes tease hubby that I didn’t make him date me longer so I could have milked the “wooing” a little more, LOL.
Post # 5
@bohemian_coconut: Not the shortest engagement, but…
How long did you date? First marriage 5 months. This time 16 months, but we moved in together after 5 months because he was sleeping at my house every night anyway.
What made you decide to get married so soon? First marriage, I just wanted to get married and get out of my mother’s house already! I already had a child and felt like my options were limited. I was a complete idiot. For him he was 29 and his family was like “When are you ever getting married?” This time, we were already living together for 11 months and I knew after 2 days of dating that I wanted to marry him. The only reason we waited this long was so he could take his time.
Was it a first marriage? First time: For both, yes. This time: For me, no. For him, yes.
How long after did you wed? My first marriage was 8 months from the day we became a “couple” to the day we married. Engaged for 3 months (and we had an actual wedding, how’s that for planning!) This time we will have been together for 2 yrs. 2 mos. when we marry (hopefully, still not set in stone). Engaged for 10 months. Which may not seem very long, but for a courthouse wedding it feels like forever.
How well did you feel you knew your partner before saying yes? My first marriage, not very well at all. It was a LDR and we didn’t even live together before we got married. This time we will have been living together for 1 yr. 10 mos. by the time we get married. I think we know each other inside and out. We’ve been through a lot and we’re completely comfortable with each other and speaking our minds.