Post # 1
My mum is Australian and keeps insisting that in Australia, you invite people that aren’t invited to the wedding to the bridal shower. To me, this seems sooo rude and I kind of have a feeling she’s making it up lol. Can someone confirm? Regardless, it’s not the way things are done in the States, so I feel like the person she wants to invite will be horribly offended. Mum claims she won’t because the woman is Egyptian, and she insists that only people in the States think this is rude and the rest of the world does things this way. Basically, I just want to be able to prove that this isn’t true.
Post # 3
im an aussie and ive been invited to coworkers bridal showers but not the wedding and didnt think it was rude because i understand its a numbers game sometimes. i would be very cautious about inviting people to a shower and not inviting them to the wedding – it just doesnt sit right with me
aussies can be pretty laid back but i dont think a shower should have a bring a plate attitude either
Post # 4
@eloping: thanks so much for chiming in! i’m a bit worried because this woman she wants to invite isn’t an aussie, so she might think it is just as rude, you know?
Post # 5
In Australia it is generally ok to invite people to bridal showers, kitchen teas, even engagement parties, and not to the wedding. As long as its not grandma. But coworkers, old high school friends, parents of friends, etc. Its fine and people understand.
Post # 6
People do understand but it’s also a good idea to make it obvious that this is what you are doing – avoids hurt feelings e.t.c because as eloping said people know weddings are expensive and that it’s a numbers game.
Post # 7
Definately not rude at all, don’t people in the US understand that sometimes budgets don’t allow you to invite your fiance’s 2nd cousin’s boyfriend’s aunty?
I’ve even had an invite to attend a wedding ceremony, not the reception, budget didn’t stretch far enough to provide a meal for everyone, but it was nice to be invited along to see the official part of the day…
Post # 8
Not rude at all re bridal showers. Im an aussie and its all accepted.
My only gripe is being invited to the hens (bachelorette party) and not being invited to the wedding. Happened to me once, and it sucked.
Post # 9
I see no issue at all 🙂 we invited people to the engagement which arent going to be at the wedding and also the other way around.
There are also a few friends that will be invited to my hens that wont be at the wedding. (It wont be a hugely expensive night)
But ive always ensured to make it clear to people if they are invited to one and not the other so there is no surprise.