Post # 17
We went to our family jeweler and we sat down and I picked out some designs that I liked to give him a basic idea. My one main thing is that I wanted the center stone to “pop” so if he were to get side stones that would have to be considered. I also talked with the jeweler to give him some idea of what he wanted. Then we left and my Fiance went back a few weeks later and picked out the setting and the ring based on what the jeweler and him knew I would like. So in the end I had no idea what the ring would look like and it was a surprise and I love it so very much.
Post # 18
I’m really type A and need to feel in control, so one day long ago SO asked me, “You wouldn’t want to go ring shopping right? You want it to be a surprise?” I said I didn’t know.
Fast forward to about 3 weeks ago, and I started feeling very much overwhelmed by waiting. I asked him if looking at them would be okay. He basically pushed me out of the door and pushed me into the jewelers, LMAO. It was my idea but he really made me go through with it.
Post # 19
We had talked about getting engaged. He was taking a long time and I found these rings that I LOVED so I straight up just asked him if we could go and he was all for it. Seriously, just ask.
Post # 20
My fiance proposed before we had the ring so we kind of had to go get one! Haha, but he was about to deploy so we went and picked one out before he did. My friend was pretty sneaky about how she got her fiance to do it though. She searched and found the one, found and add and circled it. The put it somewhere he would find it. Clever right? You could always try something like that.
Post # 21
I started being “subtle” and when we were out shopping together at the mall I said we should stop in the jewelry store….we went in. THen I just started trying on rings and asking Q’s. I wanted to see his reaction and he was very involved so after we left we kinda laughed about it. Then he asked if the rings I tried on were the style I wanted. They weren’t. I was just looking. So my mom and I went to our jeweler and her and I picked out a few that I liked a lot and showed the jeweler. Told her my bf would be coming in sometime in the future and to guide him towards these rings. So within a couple months he did go to the jeweler and she did exactly what she was supposed to do. He picked out a different ring, same style, but one I like even better because it has more design in the band. I love my ring:)
Post # 22
He brought it up on the way home from a trip. He asked if I would help him pick one out because he didn’t want to spend so much and have me not love it. Then he asked when I wanted to go, and I said “on the way home from the airport” 🙂
Have you tried on the ring you want to be sure? If so I would just have a friend mention to him that he/she knows what you want and they promise to keep their lips sealed and not ruin the suprise for you.
Post # 23
How exciting! Ring shopping was really fun with my man. In my case were were already engaged, and this seems to be not too uncommon for the proposal to come before the ring. Then I was like ” lets go ring shopping!” I knew I wanted a moissanite, and I even knew which ring I liked on Moissaniteco, but I wanted to go ring shopping to get my finger sized and to try on different styles to make sure I really wanted what I thought I wanted.
You could bring it up by saying you want to get your finger sized (your supposed to get it sized by a few jewelers to make sure it’s right). And once you walk into the stores the sales folks will take care of everything. Just be like ooue can I try that one on… It is a lot of fun and your man will get a good idea about what you like, and he will know your ring size. Your ring can still be totally picked out by him when he is alone, and be a surprize but this way he will know what you like.
Post # 24
It was boyfriends idea to go ring shopping together because he wanted to get me exactly what I wanted. It was his idea so we were walking thru the mall one day and as we passed a jewelry store I said “OOOOO look at all of the shiny things!” and he asked me if I wanted to go in and look. Well, duh! I knew I didn’t want a ring from a big name store but I just wanted to look anyway. 🙂 I recommend a local jewler, by the way.
Post # 25
I told him at the beginning of our relationship how I felt about diamonds (not my thing), so when it came time for picking a ring he wanted my help and he just took me to a jeweler. Picking the ring/dress together didn’t change how I view the proposal or wedding as a suprise, because I don’t equate the level of suprise to the item being purchased. For me, it has more to do with the moment. This might not be true for other people, but only you will know how you want to experience these things in this way.
I also second a local jeweler and not a big chain store.
Post # 26
@houstonwhodat: Omg have I ever tried the ring on. The staff at the store know me by name. I have a few other friends who are also likely getting engaged soon so I’e brought them in to look at this specific place as well, so the staff like me 😉
At this point they probably know enough about what I want that they will guide him perfectly, but I think that shoppin together just might be kind of fun as well. The last big purchase we shopped for was a bookshelf (don’t laugh, its a crazy awesome $3k bookshelf ha) and even that was really fun!
Post # 27
We knew that we were going to pick the ring together. Fi’s taste is questionable and I didn’t want to be stuck wearing something I didn’t want. If it were up to him, I would be in a solitare (because my stone is almost 4ct) but I wanted a design and didn’t want it to be boring just because of its largeness. Solitares are beautiful, just not for me, I wanted something more elaborate.
Anyhow, we spent a day going to many jewelery stores and finally picked the perfect setting. I was happy we did it together, and so was he. It was such a fun experience!
Post # 28
@bkrocks13: he brought it up one day and we looked online and he said we should go look in person, so we did.
Post # 29
@bkrocks13: Well it certainly sounds like you know for sure you want that ring!! I asked because I saw ones online I loved that looked all wrong in person on my hand… Well I hope you get to go togther because it is fun, but it sounds like you are in good shape anyway if everyone knows what ring you want and can guide him…
Post pictures when you get the rock!! 🙂
Post # 30
He brought it up whle we were walking past a jewelry store in the mall one day. He was like “do you wanna go look at rings” I was kinda taken back at first but it became alot of fun going through rings with him. Plus he knew after looking at rings with me what I was looking at for an e-ring and tada i got a ring i absoultely love now 🙂
Post # 31
For us, the conversation actually came up a while before he planned on proposing. When I was a junior in college, I had 2 senior roommates who were engaged and getting married right after graduation. One night my Fiance (then he was just my boyfriend) and I were checking out there engagement pictures on facebook and you know how most people have shots with just the hand/ring and I started talking about how I liked this about her ring or disliked this about her ring, just making conversation and because that is what I tend to do, overanalyze things.
Anyways, the summer after we attended my roommates weddings, we started talking seriously about getting engaged. We had discussed it plenty before but we were in a long distance relationship during college and knew we wanted to wait at least 6 months after we graduated college to ensure we could find jobs in the same town. For Christmas, my fiance bought me a super cute charm braclet from Jared’s and he took me in to pick out a few more charms. While we were in there, a lady was almost nagging us about looking at engagement rings and we decided why not, it might be fun since Jared’s lets you “Design your own”. We picked a pretty one out but left and I didn’t think much more about it. Three months later in March, we somehow ended back up in a jewelry store (this time Zales) because I had a birthstone ring from my dad that has to be taken in for cleanings) and my fiance asked me to show him e-ring’s that I liked. He knew I was WAY to picky for him to completely take a stab at what I liked. I ended up falling in love with my ring and he knew it. Now I knew he purchased it because the lady we worked with ended up texting ME instead of him to tell him that the ring was in 😛 However, that was April and he didn’t propose until September so I had to wait 5 whole months knowing he had it haha.