Post # 1
So, while I won’t be in this camp (I know he has my ring already and I was involved in picking it out), I have a question. For a LOT of my friends and a cousin whose proposal came “out of left field”, they all thought their SO was breaking up with them because he was “acting weird”! Is this a common thing? I think it’s hilarious that so many friends of mine have said this happened to them!
They say while they had talked about marriage briefly, they never went to look at rings together and had no idea he had a ring. My cousin said because he husband had been doing so many “errands” alone and was being so secretive about his whereabouts, she thought he had another girlfriend! Another friend is in med school and told me that she was so upset thinking that he didn’t love her anymore because he was so nervous he’d give away the surprise that he was trying NOT to act affectionate or overly loving! I just think it’s so cute and funny…would love to hear your points of view!
Post # 3
When my ex proposed, it was a random day and we went to our favorite spot and he was acting REALLY weird. Like asking me if I really loved him and if I saw us together forever. Like just asking reassuring Questions. But the way he phrased it and was acting I got REALLY scared. I remember crying and i thought for sure he was breaking up with me and I couldn’t believe it. In retrospect I wish he had, because it would have saved me months of heart ache. Lol.
Post # 4
@CharleighT: LOL I have a friend who had this happen. She and her Boyfriend or Best Friend had been dating for like 8 years. They said they’d get engaged when they both had steady jobs.. but then that happened after like 4 years and she was still getting tvs and necklaces for every holiday & birthday! Then he started “acting weird” for a few weeks before a trip to the beach with her family. She thought he was feeling weird at the prospect of spending time with them because he wasn’t sure about the relationship anymore. The night before the trip she finally flipped out and started yelling at him on her parents’ front porch. She was saying things like “If you’re going to break up with me, just do it! I can’t keep waiting for you to propose! If you don’t want to be with me forever why are you putting me through this?!” Yeah… he started crying, got down on one knee and pulled out the ring he had been carrying around with him for weeks. He’d planned to propose the next day, at the beach in front of her family. She felt like a HUGE ass and hates that her sister told a few of us the story. LOL
Post # 5
@CharleighT: Not at all. If anything he was more loving.
Post # 6
My husband’s actions didn’t change at all. He told me one day he was getting a package from work delivered to the house that needed to be signed for. This was questionable but not really “out of the ordinary” so I thought nothing of it. His personality didn’t change a bit.
Post # 7
It came out of left field for me for sure. It was a totally random day and totally random time (he did it in a cute, but unsuspecting way). I was so shocked that at first I couldn’t even process what was happening, let alone form the words to say yes. I had obviously hoped for a while (we had been together 4.5 years), but after a few times of being let down when we did romantic things and there was no proposal, I told myself to stop thinking about it and just go with the flow. And a couple months after I told myself to stop thinking about it, he proposed! It’s like that saying about the moment you stop searching for love you find it, well the moment I stopped worrying about if/when he would propose, it happened! I really don’t remember him acting strange at all though.
Post # 8
It came out of left field for me! He proposed at a BYOB Italian restaurant (we make wine and wanted to test out our ready-to-drink pineapple wine). The entire week leading up to it, he kept talking about our date at this restaurant. I just assumed he really liked the place!!
Post # 9
My Fiance was not weird at all! I knew an engagement would be coming (I hoped) because we had been together for 6 years and talked about our future. However, he made it clear a few years ago he would be picking out the ring. So one saturday we went out for breakfast and he dropped me off at work and little did I know he went and picked out my ring. He picked it up later in the week (I had no idea) and proposed while we were hiking at a state park the following saturday.
Post # 10
We had looked at rings together, and I thought that he had it, but there were some other complications with our lives/relationship in those months. Caused him to act weird, and I think he didn’t want to act as loving as before, becuase he was “saving it up”. We’d talked about future before, and now if I mentioned it, he was very distant.
I tried to convince myself of what he was doing, and why, but it was hard! I’m glad that part is done with!
Post # 11
Yep! He was acting kind of weird, kept “staying late for overtime” and “helping his mom with something” (yeah right, he avoids that like the plague). I thought it was kind of suspicious, but thankfully he proposed pretty quickly so I didn’t have time to get too crazy, haha.
Post # 12
Mine was a complete shock! We had been together just shy of 4 years and the whole time we had been together he always said he was never getting married. The first couple years I was hoping that he wasn’t serious. Then I finally realized that I love him and want to be with him married or not. If he doesn’t want to get married that is part of who he is and I accepted that. A few months later he proposed in our kitchen while I was cooking dinner. He never acted any differently, I didn’t know he had a ring let alone went ring shopping. He never asked what kind of ring I wanted or even let on that he was thinking about proposing. He did great by the way! The ring is perfect!
Post # 13
Total surprise, and Fiance was completely cool about it! I met up with him in London at the tail end of his business trip…he had invited me to go but never, like, pressured me or made a big deal out of it, so I just thought it’d be another adventure for us. We were walking through Kensington Gardens in the rain when he asked me to hold the umbrella so he could tie his shoe…I turned around when I realized he wasn’t standing back up and there was a ring! I honestly had no idea and no reason to be suspicious.
Ironically, for months we had been having an ongoing discussion/debate about getting engaged before or after moving in together…my preference was for before, his (allegedly) was for after…in hindsight, I feel bad about the constant rehashing of my position when he was secretly in agreement!
Post # 14
The day my FH proposed, I did not have any idea! We had talked a few times before the day that he wouldn’t be proposing for a little while. That night, he left me at dinner for almost an hour to “charge our phones”. We we’re on vacation, so after 20 minutes I thought he stranded me!! Lol I was starting to panic. Apparently he was calling my Dad to ask for permission and checking out the hotels jewlery stores to find a ring. He told me it was a spur of the moment decision, and I believe it. If he had been planning it I would have noticed, he’s a nervous wreck when he’s hiding something.
Post # 15
Mine was a total surprise for me but he played it very cool, no changes at all before the proposal. He’d made a point of meeting me at my parents house for dinner the week before which was unusual but he works in that area and we live about half an hour from there. As it turned out he wanted to get there without me so he could ask my dad for permission, which I thought was beyond adorable. He did it Christmas Eve in front of my family and his family who’d come from out of state, and they all knew it was coming except my aunt and uncle, so not only did he have to keep the secret but 6 other peopld there were in the know and didn’t let on a bit. The ring was his grandmother’s, he’d brought it back home the last time we’d visited his parents which was Thanksgiving, so aparently it’d been sitting in our house somewhere for a month. There’d been no talk of getting married in the months before it and never any talk of rings, and I had absolutely no idea it was coming 🙂
Post # 16
@CharleighT: I didn’t think he was breaking up with me, but I thought it was really weird how he wouldn’t let me go with him when he was running to the city one day after work. He made some excuse that coming to get me was out of the way and I was like “umm…okay…?” Then the night he asked for my dad’s blessing I was trying to call him and he texted me saying he was in a meeting. At the time he was involved in an organization with some guys and I thought it was one of their meetings. It didn’t help that I already felt like all his free time was sucked up by them so I automatically got pissed off because that was supposed to be his free day! After he proposed he explained everything and I was like “d’oh!” Lol