(Closed) For the brides out there who want to ditch everything they've planned so far

posted 5 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
5356 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016


We got back from our Hawaiian wedding earlier this week and there is not a single thing I would’ve done differently. We never wanted a traditional wedding to begin with, so it’s not like we changed our mind like you. We’re also straight out of college and didn’t see the point in spending so much money on a party where we eel pressured to invite everyone weve ever said hello to. We had 10 guest and despite all the negative shit Destination Wedding get on the bee, it was one of the best weeks of our lives and all of our guest loved being in Hawaii with us. That week never would’ve happened if it wasn’t for our wedding. Our day was so stress free, even though we winged some of it lol. My coordinator, photographer and videographer complimented me all day about my positive energy and go with the flow attitude because they said it’s pretty rare. I hope you have a wonderful, stress free wedding!! 

Post # 3
46 posts
  • Wedding: June 2017

This is great advice thanks! I just got engaged over the weekend but like you have not put much thought into my wedding day pretty much ever! Even my beginnings of browsing have me a little overwhelmed and more unsure than ever. I will keep your words of wisdom close when I get closer to planning!

Post # 4
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

Thank you for sharing this post! I found it helpful and very relatable. I haven’t decided either way in regards to a big wedding or something smaller, but it’s driving my Mother insane me being in limbo, haha. To be honest, I saw what my two older sisters had to go through, and they were miserable, they both had 260 and the other 300 people sized weddings, and one wanted a small destination wedding and the other wanted to elope! So, your post helps me feel like I am playing the right strategy at the moment by keeping my cards close to my chest. 

Post # 6
260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

I completely understand where you’re coming from. Even though my wedding is just over a year away, and I started planning it not so long ago, I was already getting stressed out by the amount of money everything was amounting to! Turns out we both only wanted to have a ‘traditional wedding’ to please everyone else, like family and parents etc. We’ve now settled on something completly different. A small ceremony and reception at beach lodge. We’re having 35 guests as opposed to our original 85. That includes immediate family and a few close friends. I know a lot of people won’t be happy about this, but at the end of the day its our money and happiness, and this is what we want

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Post # 7
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

YES! I feel like we are the same person to a certain extent. I was thinking about this yesterday (actually put a post up about it) and realized that I NEVER thought about my wedding growing up. Every now and then the thought of “Oh, I’m gonna get married one day!” popped into my head, but never did I think about my dress or the venue or whatever except for my Pinterest page which is just a giant mashup of randomness that really meant nothing.

Originally I want to have 50 people at our wedding. Then it got bumped to 75. Then we found our venue and they require 120 minimum so that’s the new goal. All of a sudden, the budget I set is doubled. Every choice we have made is “how can our guests have a good time” or “How can we make this easiest for our guests?” Now, I LOVE our guests, and want to make the day great for them as well, but I feel like I forgot about us.

My fiance is the big party kinda guy, so this big wedding in a grand venue with a DJ and 120 guests sounds like a blast to him. He said that is is preference (we had this whole discussion last night after my epiphany yesterday). My two personalities are conflicting (I feel like one side of me loves the high energy stuff while the other just wants to have a romantic day where I can chill with cocktails and the 20 people I really care about).

Decisions, decisions ….

Post # 8
3437 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

We’re now exploring Destination Wedding options. Like others I never thought about getting married nor was it on my priority list so none of that dream wedding vision stuff acting as incentive. We will either sign the chosen venue contract next week or change the plan entirely and get married elsewhere. 

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