(Closed) For the brides who didn’t get many/any presents

posted 7 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Never heard that before in my life.  It sounds crazy to me.

Post # 4
8599 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d never even heard of the dance before coming to this board. I’d pass personally.

Post # 5
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

That sounds like BS. 

Post # 6
4693 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve never heard of someone not giving a gift because they were counting on a money dance.

Post # 7
2086 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

She pointed out that skipping out on the money dance could mean eliminating the way many people choose to gift us.

MOST?!?   Where is your planner from?  

The money dance is tied to regions and some cultures.  I have never seen a SoCal bride on these boards talk about the money dance.  I do not think it is common in your area.

ETA: I have seen brides with roots in Southeast Asia and Eastern Europe (esp Poland) talk about money dances on these boards.  I’ve also seen it discussed by people in the upper mid-west and parts of PA and NY. 

Post # 8
13249 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve never been to a wedding where there is a “money dance” nor have I ever even heard of it before now (I had to google it to see what it was!).   I would be mortified if I ever saw it, and would honestly want to take back whatever gift I had given. 

Post # 9
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Where Darling Husband is from, they do a Polish dollar dance. We actually do give a tad less in money (like if we were giving $200, we write a check for $160) and then Darling Husband and I each put $20 in the dollar dance bag.

BUT to do this with the intention to get money is tacky. What DH’s family/region do is more culture based.


Post # 10
2320 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve photographed a few of these before, they seem to be common in this area because I was just at a wedding last week and they did this. 

Personally, I strongly dislike this idea and would pass pass pass on it.

Post # 11
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Well, let me tell you that I never heard of a money dance, and that shouldn’t be in a wedding… maybe a stag or a shower. I don’t know where the coordinator got his/her information but I certainbly wouldn’t bring money to the wedding for a money dance! Sounds like a strip club… YUCK! So tacky!

Post # 12
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

We did not do a wedding dance and I’ve never heard of someone forgoing a wedding present and planning to give money at the wedding with the dance.

I do think it’s becoming less common to bring a present to the wedding, since online buying and shipping usually make it easier for the couple (instead of transporting guests after the event).

We had people coming up to us, waving money, asking if we were going to do a money dance. I think people are happy to gift the couple with extra cash, but I wouldn’t think it’s in lieu of a present!

Post # 13
2854 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

FWIW, I’ve never been to a wedding with a dollar dance. I’d never heard of it before planning.

And I’m right there with you based on the fact that I’d find it mortifying. If your guests intend to bring cash as a wedding gift, they’ll give it to you or put the card in the card box.

Post # 14
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Catholic church followed by a botanical conservatory

We probably received gifts from about 80% of the attendees. If the rest were banking on the money dance, they missed out. And I lucked out, because those were NOT the people I wanted to pay to dance with me. LOL.

Totally don’t miss not doing a money dance, don’t regret it at all and didn’t even think about it day of! If you’re not comfortable with it, just say NO! 🙂

Post # 16
196 posts
Blushing bee

I’m from the upper midwest (Wisconsin) and I’d never heard of a money dance until I came here.  I’m with you – I would never do it and I would never bring money for it if I were attending a wedding.  Unless it’s common in your area, your culture, or your family, I wouldn’t even consider it.

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