Post # 1
While I can appreciate a traditional style wedding, it just isn’t my style. Anyone else out there feel the same? How are you making your wedding reflect who YOU are?
I am early in my planning but here’s is my personal twist list…
1. Wedding with a Japanese flair
2. Cherry Blossom theme instead of specific colors
3. Orgami Menus
4. Sake Toast instead of champagne (with bottles and cups being favors)
5. Red dress with cherry blossom embroidery
6. International style buffet dinner (ranging from Japanese to Ethiopian to American)
7. No wedding party
I am officially ready throw the Miss Manners Book of Weddings on the bonfire. Please tell me there are others who feel the same way :).
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m fairly untraditional but with a few traditional elements
- Wearing an ivory dress
- Having a wedding party
- Wearing bright pink shoes and a birdcage veil
- Making my bouquet out of brooches
- The bridesmaids will be carrying Spanish fans instead of bouquets
- There is no Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man – just 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen
- The bridesmaids will be wearing whatever they want, within a few parameters.
- The boy and I will enter the ceremony area and walk down the aisle together
- Our friend got ordained online and will be marrying us
- No bouquet/garter toss. No cutting the cake (we’re having cupcakes)
- No planned dances, except MAYBE a first dance. We haven’t decided yet.
I’m sure there are some more things I’ll add to this list. I’m drawing a blank. But the untraditional things aren’t SUPER untraditional. Nothing is that out of the ordinary these days.
Post # 4
We were both traditional and non-traditional:
Things that were traditional:
– I wore a white dress
– I had a Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids
– We cut the cake, did the first dance, and danced with our parents
Things that were untraditional:
– I wore a short dress
– No veil
– Black shoes
– My mom walked me down the aisle
– We didn’t announce the Wedding Party into the reception
– No bouquet/garter toss
Post # 5
I’m wearing bright orange heels (i love them) to match my bright orange flowers.
No garter toss/bouquet toss
Pictures beforehand – we will be at cocktail hour with our guests
No seating assignments – we’re calling it a Strolling Reception
Other than that…it’s kind of, sort of traditional but with my own personal flair.
Post # 6
I love the idea of the cherry blossom theme and having a whole color palate to work with rather than picking one or two colors.
Post # 7
I think we ended up being a pretty solid 50-50 on this one.
- White/Ivory dress
- Wedding Attendants (although only 1 each)
- Not seeing each other day and night before
- Cake cutting
- Giving out favours
- I wore a short dress
- No sit down dinner, instead passed canapés were served
- Our flowers were fake – very good fakes!
- We had no toasts or dances, we didn’t even do a wedding playlist! We just had the background music at the pub
Post # 8
YES!!! ME!!! ummmm… there’s a Miss Manners book? hmmmm….. must’ve gone in the river with some of the other books….
- fantasy themed – wedding party will be in costume complete with weaponry; including ME, the bride!
- guests can come in costume
- no dressy-clothes (casual/street clothing preferred)
- centerpieces are little salsa bowls that look like minature cauldrons filled with candy
- bridesmaids are keeping their bouquets
- ribbon roses will be the flower of the day, as well as fabric black/gold jacquard-type fabric (the kind that makes you go blind and dizzy staring at it…i’m evil, lol)
- 15 minute ceremony
- party afterwards and we’re suggesting BYOB (we’re also giving our photographer friend $$ to get the gooood beer he likes)
- cardbox is to look like a gothic church and will probably have our assassins’ guild logo on it.
- The guestsheets are faux character sheets (we’re gamers, also, and so are a lot of our friends)
- we’re having no seating arrangement
- we’re allowing kids
- we plan on having foam swords for the kids (and adults) to play with
- UNITY BONFIRE!!!! (did I mention we love fire???)
- Cupcakes with a small cake for us to cut for the fun of it (and to appease family)
- Buffet-style reception
- Friends will be playing (musicians) as will my Fiance
- Our centerpiece for our table will be a prop made by a friend and based from a line in the first novel we co-wrote (will need A LOT of rewriting before we can even TRY to get it published!!! LOL)
- We’re dressing my son and nephews up in monk robes and giving them toy weapons
- my daughter and neice will be flower girls “escorted” by my nephews (my son in ring bearer)
- will be wearing a underbust corset with wedding gown and non-weddingly jewelry
- will be changing into a medieval/fantasy gown later so I can walk around and have fun without worrying about the damned train on the wedding gown
I’m sure there will be plenty more, but it’s also going to be more of a party than a wedding. There will be dancing and drinking (by our friends), and lots of fun times to be had.
Post # 9
Although there are some things that will be traditional, I think there’s going to be plenty that isn’t. I want my parents to be happy, but I also want things to be representative of FH and I. 🙂
Post # 10
I love all of these personal touches everyone is sharing. It all sounds amazing. Keep the comments coming!!
I just realized my poll question said “Ton-traditional”. Oops. I guess that’s my non-traditional way of saying “Non-Traditional” ;P. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.
Post # 11
Ryna, your wedding sounds super-fun & so personalized, I’m a bit jealous!
So, we are fairly non-trad, my parents are progressive-traditional.
Traditional: I am wearing a long, beaded dress with a train, purchased at a wedding dress shop.
Non-Traditional: It’s GOLD!
Traditional: My 4 BMs are wearing the same dress in navy.
Non-traditional: I let them pick the dress, and they’ll be wearing their own jewelry. My Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a different dress, in a different color (bc she ha a different body type than the BMs).
Traditional: We will be doing all those silly scripted dances…
Non-traditional: to awesome songs you never hear at weddings!!!
Post # 12
@Ex Libris: Thanks! our main goal is to have it fun and enjoyable for everyone.
Our venue has cabins for rent and instead of asking for gifts, we’re asking for them to chip in and just rent the cabins. (it comes to about $30/person, which is far cheaper than ANY of the hotels around here AND it’s ABC ON. Not to mention, no worry about driving to there or from there for anything!!!
Oh, we’re also probably gonna offer breakfast for those who rent cabins, if they want to join us. (who DOESN’T like cooking out?!?!)
one other thing: we’re swapping a “ring pillow” for a decoupaged book that has a dagger-shape cut out in the center for the rings!!!
Post # 13
you wedding is about you and your husband to be not every other person , People will reamber your wedding because it was SOOO you ! good luck sounds BEAUTIFUL!!!
Post # 14
Sorry for double post..weird errors!
Post # 14
I would say we are non-traditional with some elements of traditional:
-Flower girl/ring bearer
-Boutonnieres and corsages for special family members
-Buffet Dinner and Dancing
Non-(This is a very small list, I’m too tired lol)
-Chinese themed wedding in red and black
-I will be wearing a red and black gown!
-I will carry a parasol and bms will carry hand fans in lieu of flowers
-Our pit bulls are our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man (who says you need to have opposable thumbs?!?)
-FH will be wearing a chinese embroidered brocade jacket, as well as the groomsmen instead of tuxes
-No Bouquet or garter tosses
-No wedding cake-we’re having an ice cream sundae bar instead!
-No father walking me down the aisle (Our son will do this job!)
-Encouraging guests to come in costume
-Many other things too…
I am LOVING seeing offbeat brides coming out of the woodworks in the hive! YAY!
Post # 15
@tiffinapit: We have some things in common with our weddings :). In fact, I am now taking a quick break from pulling off beading from my dark red dress. Love the dress, Hate the beading. Last thing I probably should be doing right now, but insomnia has me in its grip. May as well make good use of it while my honey is asleep.
I love the idea of your pets being Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man. Our cats just don’t take direction all that well, so I guess that’s out for us :P.
check out my crazy cake post. Love to know what you think.