(Closed) For the non-traditional Brides….

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: Are You a Non-Tradtional Bride?
    You Bet I Am!! : (15 votes)
    19 %
    Non-Traditional with a few Traditional Elements : (35 votes)
    44 %
    Traditional with some Unique Elements : (30 votes)
    38 %
    Traditional is My Wedding Mantra : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    2859 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    I’m fairly untraditional but with a few traditional elements


    • Wearing an ivory dress
    • Having a wedding party


    • Wearing bright pink shoes and a birdcage veil
    • Making my bouquet out of brooches
    • The bridesmaids will be carrying Spanish fans instead of bouquets
    • There is no Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man – just 3 bridesmaids and 3 groomsmen
    • The bridesmaids will be wearing whatever they want, within a few parameters.
    • The boy and I will enter the ceremony area and walk down the aisle together
    • Our friend got ordained online and will be marrying us
    • No bouquet/garter toss. No cutting the cake (we’re having cupcakes)
    • No planned dances, except MAYBE a first dance. We haven’t decided yet.

    I’m sure there are some more things I’ll add to this list. I’m drawing a blank. But the untraditional things aren’t SUPER untraditional. Nothing is that out of the ordinary these days.

    Post # 4
    2015 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    We were both traditional and non-traditional:

    Things that were traditional:

    – I wore a white dress
    – I had a Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids
    – We cut the cake, did the first dance, and danced with our parents

    Things that were untraditional:

    – I wore a short dress
    – No veil
    – Black shoes
    – My mom walked me down the aisle
    – We didn’t announce the Wedding Party into the reception
    – No bouquet/garter toss

    Post # 5
    3576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010


    I’m wearing bright orange heels (i love them) to match my bright orange flowers.

    No garter toss/bouquet toss

    Pictures beforehand – we will be at cocktail hour with our guests

    No seating assignments – we’re calling it a Strolling Reception


    Other than that…it’s kind of, sort of traditional but with my own personal flair.

    Post # 6
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I love the idea of the cherry blossom theme and having a whole color palate to work with rather than picking one or two colors.

    Post # 7
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I think we ended up being a pretty solid 50-50 on this one.


    • White/Ivory dress
    • Wedding Attendants (although only 1 each)
    • Not seeing each other day and night before
    • Cake cutting
    • Giving out favours


    • I wore a short dress
    • No sit down dinner, instead passed canapés were served
    • Our flowers were fake – very good fakes!
    • We had no toasts or dances, we didn’t even do a wedding playlist! We just had the background music at the pub

    Post # 8
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    YES!!! ME!!!  ummmm… there’s a Miss Manners book?  hmmmm….. must’ve gone in the river with some of the other books….

    • fantasy themed – wedding party will be in costume complete with weaponry; including ME, the bride! 
    • guests can come in costume
    • no dressy-clothes (casual/street clothing preferred)
    • centerpieces are little salsa bowls that look like minature cauldrons filled with candy
    • bridesmaids are keeping their bouquets
    • ribbon roses will be the flower of the day, as well as fabric black/gold jacquard-type fabric (the kind that makes you go blind and dizzy staring at it…i’m evil, lol)
    • 15 minute ceremony
    • party afterwards and we’re suggesting BYOB (we’re also giving our photographer friend $$ to get the gooood beer he likes)
    • cardbox is to look like a gothic church and will probably have our assassins’ guild logo on it. 
    • The guestsheets are faux character sheets (we’re gamers, also, and so are a lot of our friends)
    • we’re having no seating arrangement
    • we’re allowing kids
    • we plan on having foam swords for the kids (and adults) to play with
    • UNITY BONFIRE!!!!  (did I mention we love fire???)
    • Cupcakes with a small cake for us to cut for the fun of it (and to appease family)
    • Buffet-style reception
    • Friends will be playing (musicians) as will my Fiance
    • Our centerpiece for our table will be a prop made by a friend and based from a line in the first novel we co-wrote (will need A LOT of rewriting before we can even TRY to get it published!!! LOL)
    • We’re dressing my son and nephews up in monk robes and giving them toy weapons
    • my daughter and neice will be flower girls “escorted” by my nephews (my son in ring bearer)
    • will be wearing a underbust corset with wedding gown and non-weddingly jewelry
    • will be changing into a medieval/fantasy gown later so I can walk around and have fun without worrying about the damned train on the wedding gown

    I’m sure there will be plenty more, but it’s also going to be more of a party than a wedding.  There will be dancing and drinking (by our friends), and lots of fun times to be had. 

    Post # 9
    256 posts
    Helper bee

    Although there are some things that will be traditional, I think there’s going to be plenty that isn’t.  I want my parents to be happy, but I also want things to be representative of FH and I.  🙂

    Post # 11
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Ryna, your wedding sounds super-fun & so personalized, I’m a bit jealous!

    So, we are fairly non-trad, my parents are progressive-traditional. 

    Traditional: I am wearing a long, beaded dress with a train, purchased at a wedding dress shop.

    Non-Traditional: It’s GOLD!


    Traditional: My 4 BMs are wearing the same dress in navy.

    Non-traditional: I let them pick the dress, and they’ll be wearing their own jewelry.  My Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a different dress, in a different color (bc she ha a different body type than the BMs).

    Traditional: We will be doing all those silly scripted dances…

    Non-traditional: to awesome songs you never hear at weddings!!! 

    Post # 12
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Ex Libris:  Thanks!  our main goal is to have it fun and enjoyable for everyone. 

    Our venue has cabins for rent and instead of asking for gifts, we’re asking for them to chip in and just rent the cabins.  (it comes to about $30/person, which is far cheaper than ANY of the hotels around here AND it’s ABC ON.  Not to mention, no worry about driving to there or from there for anything!!! 

    Oh, we’re also probably gonna offer breakfast for those who rent cabins, if they want to join us.  (who DOESN’T like cooking out?!?!)

    one other thing: we’re swapping a “ring pillow” for a decoupaged book that has a dagger-shape cut out in the center for the rings!!! 

    Post # 13
    133 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    you wedding is about you and your husband to be not every other person , People will reamber your wedding because it was SOOO you ! good luck sounds BEAUTIFUL!!!

    Post # 14
    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Sorry for double post..weird errors!

    Post # 14
    167 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I would say we are non-traditional with some elements of traditional:


    -Wedding Party

    -Flower girl/ring bearer

    -Boutonnieres and corsages for special family members

    -Buffet Dinner and Dancing

    Non-(This is a very small list, I’m too tired lol)

    -Chinese themed wedding in red and black

    -I will be wearing a red and black gown!

    -I will carry a parasol and bms will carry hand fans in lieu of flowers

    -Our pit bulls are our Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man (who says you need to have opposable thumbs?!?)

    -FH will be wearing a chinese embroidered brocade jacket, as well as the groomsmen instead of tuxes

    -No Bouquet or garter tosses

    -No wedding cake-we’re having an ice cream sundae bar instead!

    -No father walking me down the aisle (Our son will do this job!)

    -Encouraging guests to come in costume

    -Many other things too…

    I am LOVING seeing offbeat brides coming out of the woodworks in the hive! YAY!

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