(Closed) For the not-yet parents: Your ideas on parenting? (Parents can chime-in too)

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I cannot stand the parents who now a days video tape their children smearing the walls with chocolate instead of punishing them. I think a large reason why parents feelthey can’t discipline their children is due to the power the children now have. On the back on each school ID is the abuse hotline. The children are taught that if their parents lay a hand on them EVER to call that number. So naturally, parents now allow their children to get away with murder without any punishment. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I agree with most of your ideas. You seem like me in terms of not wanting to be too lax with kids. I see so many kids now a days who are getting away with things that I NEVER would have been able to get away with. 

I feel that there is FAR too much negotiating and not enough of “I’m the parent, end of discussion” 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m right on with most of these and I have a kid. I’m a hardass. (She’s like 18 months old, but still, I’m a hardass, LOL.) The only one I differ with you on is no TV until 2. It sounds so good in theory, but they LOVE the flippin Disney Channel and some of the shows, like Little Einsteins, really ARE educational! I still play with her and read to her during the day, but OMG for one hour in the morning while I wake up and drink coffee, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse saves my life.

My mom never let us have Coke at home or own video game systems because she thought we’d sit inside playing them rather than go outside. (She was probably right.) So I don’t like having those things in my home now, either. Also, she was a FREAK about not letting us have gum because kids smack it, and she was militant about making us chew with our mouths shut and showing proper table manners. Also, all kinds (IMO) should say yes ma’am and no sir when speaking to elders. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Today a little boy struggled to open the door for me. It’s always adorable when they aren’t quite strong enough, but insist on doing it. Afterwards his mom prompted him to give a “you’re welcome!” to our thank you. THAT is what more parents need to do. Insist on manners. Manners or no manners growing up–what you teach them sticks for life.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

No video games! I am very adamant on not having any video games at all. Too many kids spend hours and hours in front of the TV being hypnotized by killing and shooting and punching. Makes me sick!

I agree with abbyful that you will try food even if you think you won’t like it. I blame FI’s mom for the reason why he doesn’t eat ANYTHING. Don’t knock it ’til you try it!

I will encourage healthy eating and fatty, sugary foods are OK every once in a while!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

I agree with quite a few on your list. I hate to say I dislike the way I was raised but I did whatever I wanted, whenever I wanted. My children will have rules, curfews, jobs, and responsibilities. I also want my children to really have a handle on money management. I was not taught that and it has hindered me in my adult life.

I want my children to really learn about eating right and exercising. I want them to enjoy playing games and physical activity. I also want to teach them respect for my SO and I. My SO has a great deal of respect for his parents because they demanded it and it shows to this day.

My main concern: MANNERS! Please, thank you, may I, Sir, Mam, no texting or TV at dinner, doing what your told, etc. I really want them to understand that this makes you look and sound like a better person and it gains you respect.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

@MlleBrielle: UGH. My ex ate only chicken fingers and burgers growing up. No one made him try anything different. There’s a list of like ten foods that he’ll eat. Nothing else is even an option. It frustrated me to no end.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@MissHoneyBun:

LOL, when we were growing up, if we were at a store and an old person in line dropped something, our mom made us bend down to pick it up for them. I STILL do this as an adult, and I always hold doors. I get really mad when I hold the door and the person doesn’t thank me. It makes me want to go back in time and slam it in their face.

I loved in college when the campus buses would be really full and a guy would offer his seat to a girl if she was standing in the aisle. I grew up and live in the South so this is what we’re taught, but it was still always so nice to see a guy show true manners like that. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

No crap food, no home schooling, no forced religion, no bullying. Must go outdoors and have manners. I will never be the parent to allow my underage child to drink at family functions or go on dates before they can drive either.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MissHoneyBun: I hear you! His mother STILL personalizes his dinner when we come over. If breaded chicken is on the menu, she will make 4 pieces breaded and 1 non-breaded, just for him!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

@ohheavenlyday: Oh don’t even get me STARTED on the MTA! NYC kids KILL ME. Not one of them has any manners.

     Never mind that pregnant lady–I’m sure she loves standing for her entire commute!

     Oh you wanna scream in my ear and shove each other until one of you topples into me?                Sounds great!

     Yes–please turn your headphones up even louder. I can still hear myself singing along!

 

I also get super pissed when people don’t bother to say thank you. I’ve taken to telling them you’re welcome anyway.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@ohheavenlyday: Whenever I hold open the door for someone and they don’t say “thank you” I always say “you’re welcome” loud enough for them to hear it, but not screaming. Real immature I know, but I’m not going to slack on my manners just because they don’t have any.

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