Post # 1
First off I would like to say that I am in no way trying to be the authority on waiting nor am I going to tell anyone what they should or should not do
I wanted to get engaged at the two year mark, We ended up being in the middle of building our house then so the money wasn’t there for a ring. I waited until we moved into our house to bring up an engagement again, he knew I didn’t want to own a house with someone who was just my BF.
This was in march that we had our little talk about it. We started looking at rings in may I believe and I still was anxious about a proposal it was quietly eating away at me.
He actually ended up proposing to me in mid Oct, and now all I can say as an engaged bee who had to wait a bit.
I feel totally silly for having so much anxiety ! He has been commited to me the whole time, the engagement although wonderful has not made him anymore commited than he was before ( he has always been a very good partner), and I wasted so much energy being worked up about it.
If I could go back I would just relax and let things take their course because in my case he had engagement plans the whole time I just didn’t know about them
So hopefully this helps bees still waiting
Post # 2
I’ve been feeling sort of silly lately… it’s calmed me down a lot that the ring just isn’t done yet (well, until he picked it up yesterday and did a horrible job trying to lie about his whereabouts)! I know he’s been working on it for months and months. He now gave me an end date, and it’s great! But, man, I wish these feelings were all somehow avoided in the first place. Why couldn’t he have just surprised me when I wasn’t quite ready to decide whether we should get married, but really when I was almost there? lol
Post # 3
sway0060: I’m waiting but I don’t feel any anxiety. But then again my SO makes me feel at ease because he keeps his word and is consistent so I don’t have anxiety that suddenly his character would change and he would begin to “lead me on”. If he changes his mind about wanting to get married I feel pretty confident he will communicate it instead of saying one thing and doing another. If he ever starting saying one thing and doing another I wouldn’t want him as a life partner anyway. I would probably still love him but I would choose to love him from afar and move on…
I guess your words are coming from a good place…so thank you lol
Post # 4
I hear you on that I was in the same boat about wanting the engagement before it even was on my radar.
Hopefully it will come quicker than you expect.I waited almost a month knowing that he had a surprise trip booked for us it was so hard to wait patiently
Post # 5
sway0060: Haha. The “end-date” he gave me is November 24th, so I know it’s coming really soon. I think I was more upset around the one-year mark from when we wanted to get married, because we already chose a date and venue, and I didn’t want to panic about booking things because our date was reserved – we both agreed to book everything without his proposal. Then, we went to a wedding where everyone asked about our wedding the entire time (turns out my SO spilled ALL the beans at his friend’s bachelor party because the bride knew the little detail of wanting a gemstone over a diamond). It’s all really humorous, and it was at the time, but I just felt like it all could have been avoided!
Now I feel like I’m twiddling my thumbs, and just trying to keep my nails painted 😉 It’s less exciting since I’ve been thinking he would propose “any day now” since June.
He actually made a joke a couple nights ago, saying, “What if I wait until the last hour before the deadline.” I told him, “I wouldn’t put it past you!” 😉
Post # 6
I am having trouble staying calm! We’ve been together for 4 years now and I’ve made it pretty clear I want to get married. He has recently mentioned that he plans on proposing this year which for some reason has made me even more anxious and impatient!
Post # 7
sway0060: Thanks! That’s how I’ve been feeling for awhile. I was super anxious, but then I realized we’d still be the same after a wedding, and what’s the rush? Just as long as it happens before I get old and fat and look terrible in our wedding photos.
Post # 8
sway0060: thanks for the words of hope, I needed that this week 🙂