for the wives whose husbands didnt cry when you walked down the aisle

posted 11 months ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I didn’t cry at all in our ceremony, it’s just not really me (nor did my mom). My husband teared up a little I think, as did a cousin he is as close to as siblings. I was very happy, I love him very much, and I hope he doesn’t hold me not crying against me. I don’t think it says anything about how your husband feels about you or your marriage, maybe he’s just not a crier? Or a public crier?

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

shadesofbay :  Not everyone cries when they are overwhelmed. I almost certainly will cry, but I don’t expect FH to do so. It’s just not his nature. 

It’s okay to have hurt feelers, but it doesn’t mean he wasn’t moved. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

My husband didn’t cry, he had a silly shit eating grin on his face the whole time haha. I’ve never seen him cry from joy or get choked up over something really positive – I’ve only ever seen him cry over things that upset him. 

There’s a small, petty part of me wished he had because I definitely AM a joy-crier (I’m an everything crier actually) and I was weepy all by myself. But I know he loved the ceremony and was emotional about it, he was just excited rather than weepy. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

My husband didnt cry, nor did I. Both of our voices cracked up a little while talking to each other, but there definilty wasn’t any tears. Didn’t even think to be upset over this; hope you can find a way to not to let this effect how much you think you mean to him!! Everyone shows emotions differently, and I’m positive he loves you no less than a man who cried when his wife walked down the aisle! Was he happy on the day? Did you guys have fun, is your marriage and relationship strong? These things would all be much more important than a tear or two for me!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Neither of us are criers. We both smiled cheerfully through the whole thing. Neither of us cried at the birth of our daughter, either.

I think it’s a silly expectation to have of anyone – people experience joy in very different ways and outward expressions.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

It would have been so out of character for my husband to cry. He looked over the moon as I walked down the aisle and I wouldn’t trade that expression for anything. I don’t know why people get so caught up on crying…that’s not the only way to express emotion.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

My husband didn’t cry; he had a huge smile on his face. And to be honest, I have rarely seen grooms cry.

Why are you fixated on the fact that he did not cry? Is there an underlying issue?

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

I’d be not so happy if he cried. He has shed tears with me in privacy, but I don’t want a man who tears up in public (all the dudescrying on reality tv shows these days makes me sick), except for when maybe he gets real old his mind starts to go. I’ve only seen one groom cry, and it looked so fake and forced that it took away from the ceremony. It felt like a show. 

Post # 10
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Newbee

schuyler :  Yeah, people showing a normal range of human emotions makes me sick too. Completely rational view to hold. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

shadesofbay :  is he typically an emotional guy?  And does he have fears of being the center of attention?

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

People can’t control their emotional responses and it has nothing to do with what he actually feels.  I’ve cried over missed trains and been dry-eyed when overwhelmingly happy. It’s just how I work.  If he shows love other ways, it’s fine.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Neither of us cried during ceremony. We both just had big, stupid grins on our faces the entire time and made eyes at each other. I’m actually not sure how I would have reacted if he had cried. I wasn’t anticipating him doing so and would have been caught by surprise. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Ugh, the poster asked for our opinions. And yeah. I stand by it. If I cried on Top chef or some show for getting eliminated, my mom would tell me to shape up. The poster’s groom could cry his heart out, and if she’s happy with it, so am I. But I personally wouldn’t want that, whether I married a man or a woman 

ramonafrances : 

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