for the wives whose husbands didnt cry when you walked down the aisle

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
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Busy bee

schuyler :  Your comment is crazy to me. Men have feelings as well and don’t have to hide in the privacy of there own home to cry. That’s ridiculous. We teach my boys that it’s ok to cry, it doesn’t make them less manly. 

Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

No tears shed by anyone. It was a happy day, after all 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Neither of us cried.  My husband was very excited and I had never seen him smile so much before.  Actually, many people commented so much on how much he smiled because his nickname is Captain Serious.  My voice did crack when we were saying our vows but I was able to keep my composure.

When we went back to our hotel room after everything was over, we had a really long hug and that’s when I noticed my new husband had some tears.  He’s not usually an emotional guy, but he told me how happy he was and that in turn made me cry a bit.  He said it was by far the best day of his life and it was so sweet to see that raw emotion on his face.

OP, I would not put too much stock in the fact your husband didn’t cry.  Emotions can be shown many different ways.  I am an ugly crier, so I try not to cry in public too much.  I also can cry at the strangest things (like sappy commercials) yet be completely stoic in instances where one is expected to cry.  Emotions are weird like that.

Post # 19
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Worker bee

I’m not married yet, but I don’t think my fiancé will cry. I am still looking forward to that moment walking down the aisle but he’s just not a big crier. I’m interested to see if I’ll cry. Honestly, I think if my dad or fiancé cry then I definitely will. Seeing people cry gets me going.

On a somewhat related note, I thought I’d get emotional dress shopping and have that moment like on “Say Yes To The Dress” but it just didn’t happen. I still love my dress but definitely no tears. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Lol! My husband didn’t cry when I walked down the aisle. In fact, he had a strange grimace on his face the entire time. Like, he kinda looked constipated… It cracked me up, because I knew he was doing his best not to cry. Poor guy. If I’d known he’d react like that in advance I’d have reassured him that crying was okay! He thought he needed to be tough. He didn’t crack a smile until I reached the altar and took his hand : ) 

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

He didn’t cry and I didn’t expect him to. He laughs when he’s happy, he was holding in giggles. It was super cute. 

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My husband didn’t cry, and I’m glad he didn’t, because that just doesn’t fit him. He’s emotionally strong and doesn’t show those kinds of emotions in public. I did see a big smile on his face, and that’s what he does when he’s happy, so that’s all I needed to see. 

To be honest, I didn’t cry either, and I am unfortunately a crier. I did get teary eyed when I read the letter my mom wrote to me and during our vows,  but nothing major. 

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

Soon2BMrsFredericks :  You can raise your boys to be as emotionally expressive as you see fit. It’s a good thing there’s a wide variety of people for us all to choose from. I think it’s ridiculous for someone to start out their marriage in a funk because the ceremony didn’t pan out the exact way they envisioned. I get the sense that a lot of brides would prefer their partner to fake tears than have an authentic response to the moment 

Post # 24
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Neither of us cried, I didn’t think anything of it at all.

shadesofbay :  

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Neither of us cried! Crying is not what we do. It would’ve shocked the hell out of me if he cried.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Neither of us cried.

Post # 27
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Neither of us cried. We aren’t those kind of people.

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m a wedding photographer, and 95% of my grooms don’t cry as their bride walks down the aisle. #facts

This is one of the reasons most of my couples have First Looks, because they get much more real emotions. During the ceremony most people are full of nerves and having tons of eyes watching them, so they often hold back.

Post # 29
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Helper bee

shadesofbay :  Is that a thing I was supposed to expect? No one balled and I am glad for the sake of our wedding pictures! However, my husband did get teary when the photos came in which was sweet. Other then that. I was not expecting crying on my wedding day. 

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