Post # 31
So I’m not married yet (two weeks today, though!) but I would be shocked if my fiancé cried at our wedding – it’s simply not in his nature. I won’t be upset at all when he doesn’t cry! In 6 years I’ve only seen him cry when someone has passed away – never tears of joy. I will probably cry enough for the both of us, anyway.. ha.
Post # 32
I’m not a cryer neither is fiancé. So no I wouldn’t be upset if he doesn’t cry and I’m not expecting myself to cry either. Also I didn’t cry when I found my dress, I love it but no tears. I think it’s unfair and unrealistic to apply these weird social expectations (as you do see that a lot on TV) on yourself or your partner.
Post # 33
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
Neither of us are criers of joy, only sadness and things that are upsetting. I haven’t even thought of this before
Post # 34
Cry? That would really have confused me. He was smiling, which was what I’d expected.
Post # 35
DH didn’t cry. Just had this incredibly huge grin on his face, which was great. Neither one of us cried during the ceremony either – which was strange since every time I had practiced my vows beforehand, I got misty-eyed at the very least. The wedding was just so positive and happy and we were both so excited to marry each other that neither one of us got verklempt.
Post # 36
Neither of us cried, we were both all smiles. I actually thought for sure I’d be ugly crying all the way down the aisle but not a drop was shed LOL. I cried at everyone else’s wedding except for my own.
I wasn’t upset or anything about the lack of tears. I’m kinda glad he didn’t cry actually, otherwise for sure I would be sobbing!
Post # 37
Neither of us cried, definitely not our thing. We were both smiling, happy and with just a proud grin on our faces (honestly him crying would have thrown me off). Do you mind elaborating what you were expecting to happen (and what actually happened?)? I am sure he showed emotion in other ways besides crying.
Post # 38
I guess that would be me. I had a huge grin on my face the whole time and DH balled the whole way through. It was hilarious how opposite our reactions were, looking back.
Post # 39
No he didn’t . Like many others here have said about their husbands it wasn’t his style ( not then anyway, nowadays he is more openly emotional ) .
I do think it is a pity OP seems to see it as some sort of measuring stick for love .
PS I just have to say , the colloquial term for crying is ‘bawling’ . ‘Balling’ is …something else.
Post # 40
my husband didn’t cry when I walked down the aisle and I didn’t think anything of it. Crying when your so walks down the aisle doesn’t mean you love them.more than someone who doesn’t cry.
Post # 41
It seems very rigid and controlling to me to have a preconceived idea there is one and only one acceptable way your husband could have expressed strong emotion on your wedding day. Do you have a bigger issue with the way he treats you?
Post # 42
We were both grinning, not crying. Lots of people don’t joy-cry. Does your husband normally cry when he’s extremely happy? Or did this expectation come from somewhere else?
Post # 43
Neither of us cried, and in fact I had uncontrollable giggles during our vows which had never happened to me before. I would not take it personally.
Post # 44
Neither of us cried but we get very anxious when there’s that much attention on us so we were smiling from ear to ear and trying not to mix up our words!
I do however cry at every wedding I go to, I LOVE love! I feel like being a guest in the back is when I’m most comfortable to let my feelings flow freely.
Post # 45
I didn’t feel disappointed but also soon separated from the guy. I would focus more upon asking yourself if he seems to feel passionately for you in everyday life and why you’re fixated upon this particular incident