for the wives whose husbands didnt cry when you walked down the aisle

posted 1 year ago in Ceremony
Post # 46
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395 posts
Helper bee

My husband sobbed LOUDLY throughout the whole thing. Couldn’t even hear the reading. The celebrant looked pretty alarmed as did the guests. It was a little bit embarrassing, and the photos look pretty weird too!!! We laugh about it now though!! 

Post # 47
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364 posts
Helper bee

shadesofbay :  wow you’re right this is silly and immature and shows you dont know your partner at all! My FH and I are great at showing our emotions to each other but in public we sometimes tense up. I could definitely see him wanting to cry and possibly even crying but if he doesnt I know its likely to do standing in front of 130 people so his emotions will easily automatically get themselves together. He’s a private person like me, we show our feelings to each other, not put on a show for an audience. Grow up.

Post # 48
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242 posts
Helper bee

Of all the weddings I’ve been to, I’ve never seen the groom cry when the bride walks down the aisle.  I don’t think that’s anything to get worked up over…

Post # 49
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2585 posts
Sugar bee

My husband didn’t cry when I walked down the aisle and I felt 100% fine with that. Both of us had our eyes well up a bit when we were saying our vows but neither of us full on cried. 

Post # 50
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1865 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

This would be like a guy saying he was upset if his fiance didn’t cry when he proposed.  Everyone is different, and so many factors play into how you express emotions, especially at your wedding.  You should appreciate each other for being your authentic selves in the moment.

I personally have only ever actually cried about happy emotions while hormonal from pregnancy.  Did not cry at my wedding.  Neither did my husband.  I think maybe our mothers did.  To each, his own.

Post # 51
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6781 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

shadesofbay :  I’d have been a little weirded out if he cried, actually.  It’s all about personality styles and you can’t force your own on your husband.  Neither of us cried.

Post # 52
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Darling Husband just had a massive grin and I got a bit tearful with a big grin too which is normal for us shadesofbay :  

Post # 53
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Bumble bee

This is a very odd thing to be disappointed about, especially since your wedding was months ago. You need to get over it. Marriage is going to be rough for you if you continuously get upset because your unrealistic expectations are not met by your husband (who probably has no clue you’re upset he didn’t cry!)

Post # 54
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3497 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

shadesofbay :  I’m trying to prepare myself for the fact that he isn’t gonna cry. He just isn’t a crier. Never had been never will be. I know full well that it is not a reflection of how much he loves me so hopefully my irrational side doesn’t manage to fight its way through lol

Post # 55
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2277 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Those Instagram videos of grooms breaking down have completely ruined expectations for some people I guess πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

Post # 56
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1528 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

Neither of us cried. We smiled at each other the entire time. This is a shot of my husband as I came down the aisle. I love seeing how happy he looks πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Post # 57
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7264 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I cry at everything and didnt cry at my wedding lol. He didnt either, but I think he was surprised that I didnt lol. I dont think this is a big deal.

Post # 58
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6721 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Dh got glossy-eyed/verging on tearing up, but didn’t actually CRY. And that was perfect. He was able to swallow and pull himself together without anyone watching really noticing, but I saw his reaction. He is a VERY stoic kind of guy, so it was a bigger reaction than I had anticipated. Had he done nothing but smile, I would have been equally as happy and never thought twice about it. It seems an odd thing to obsess about really…

Post # 59
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Bumble bee

I felt relieved. We were both smiling ear to ear that’s my preference to tears πŸ™‚ 

Post # 60
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714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Neither of us cried, not walking down the aisle, and not during the first look. I teared up a bit during our vows and my husband laughed at me (in a nice way, like awwww you’re so cute and emotional).

sparkosity :  I was scrolling by on my phone and legitimately thought “wait, she’s married to Benedict Cumberbatch?!” before looking more closely πŸ˜€

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