(Closed) For those going thru fertility treatment…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Ugh people are so annoying sometimes. Sorry those peeps are giving you heck, want me to beat them up for you? 😀 cause I will

Post # 4
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

People are stupid.

I honestly can’t believe that anyone who’s heard their friend is having trouble getting pregnant would respond by saying how easy it was for them. Hello, basic empathy for other people’s problems? How insensitive!

I’m sorry you’ve received so many annoying comments, and that you are going through what sounds like a difficult and draining process!


Post # 5
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Hi Heathaah,

As another person with PCOS, (a pretty bad case,) I totally relate.  It really hurts when people are so insensitive – as much as I try and be open and understand that they mean well and are just trying to help…

I don’t know if someone who hasn’t gone through the pain of infertility can possibly understand what it’s like…  The emotional rollercoasters, the hopes high and then dashed, the feeling of responsibility to be able to do this, to have a baby for you and your spouse, no matter how awesome your spouse is about it and tells you that we can adopt, etc.  

and for people to make comments that minimizes it…  I’m sure you would give anything to go through the hard parts of pregnancy and child-raising, so you really don’t need their comments!

We’re off the pill and not expecting anything to happen… my periods (if you can call them that!) are pretty much non-existent or come every few months.  We’re going to wait 6 months and then start some of the treatments.  

Wishing you the best of luck, and hugs!

Post # 6
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I totally understand!!! I am going through the same exact thing. If I hear someone tell me to “just relax” I am going to bite their head off! We are going to start our third treatment next month. Clomid failed, Femara failed so now we are moving on to injectible hormones. It has been a rollercoaster of emotions. I’ve gotten to the point where I just flat out tell people I don’t feel like talking about it but thanks for asking.

If you ever need anyone to talk to PM me!

Post # 7
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m with you too.

My friendly PCOS is getting a visit by the specialist next week. I am going to take charge of my fertility!!

I have decided not to tell anyone I know (except mother, sister and FI) as I don’t want the weight of other peoples expectations on top of mine.

I am telling people we are happy to wait (all lies) when we get the daily questions of – ”when are you guys having kids”

Post # 8
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

@heathaah:  I don’t think pregnancy and childbirth is as hard as what you are going through 🙁  I’m sorry people are so insensitive.

I have a couple friends who had to go through IVF and they said pregnancy and childbirth were a breeze and pure joy in comparison.

Hang in there!

Post # 9
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m sorry people are so insensitive. I can’t even imagine how physically draining and emotionally exhausting and painful this must be for you. It sounds like an emotional roller coaster. I hope that you and your husband have some good baby luck soon, and that people butt out!  

Post # 10
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We’re not TTC yet, but I wanted to comment and say that I’m so sorry people are being so insensitive. I can’t imagine ever making comments like that to somebody who is having a difficult time conceiving. And, I’d imagine that what you are going through, both emotionally and physically, IS worse than pregnancy.

Post # 11
1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

People are stupid and can say some awfully rude and mean things. And seriously, pregnancy isn’t that bad, so I don’t know what they are talking about. People who got lucky and got pregnant quickly/easily should keep their trap shut and thank their lucky stars.

Keep your head up.

Post # 12
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

People who aren’t going through these things don’t understand. I would give anything to have those pains of pregnancy. When I was pregnant (I miscarried) I was greatful for even the bad stuff b/c I knew it was all for a good cause.

Post # 13
5496 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2010

@colors: I totally agree. I would give anything to have the nausea and tiredness back. Even though we only knew I was pregnant for 8 days before I miscarried, I enjoyed those pregnancy symptoms!

@heathaah: So sorry you are dealing with these insensitive comments. I just found out last week that I have 15 fibroids all around and in my utereus, so I need to have major surgery to remove all of them in order to try to have a baby. (Or else I’ll most likely have another miscarriage or stillborn)  It was devastating news to my husband and I and already we’ve had a few people say, “You can always adopt” and other things like this. It hurts and it sucks. 🙁  I totally understand. I know what you are going through!!!

Post # 16
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow, those people are really insensitive! I’m sorry you have to deal with that on top of what you’re going through. I struggled with infertility also, and I know how heartbreaking it can be. It sounds like you are doing everything right and getting lots of really good medical care so try to remember that they are all on your team and they won’t give up on you! To those who aren;t being helpful, maybe you could say something like, “Right now, what we need most is your support because this process is very difficult.”

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