Post # 1
For those of you saying a destination wedding is selfish… YOU have a lot of balls! First of all it’s not about you. It’s about your friend or relative. It’s their special day and if you weren’t a selfish person you would see that clearly. Stop being a HATER! Getting married is supposed to be a once in a lifetime time thing and you should be honored that you were even invited to partake in such a special occasion…especially if it’s in a tropical paradise where you get to attend your friend or relatives wedding in addition to a vacation. If you legitimately can’t afford it, be honest with your friend or relative. Tell them upfront. Frankly, perhaps if you had planned better you’d be able to go. My FW and I are getting married in Puerta Vallarta. Some people have declined but took the time to tell us upfront. We can respect those individuals because at least they were upfront and honest. On the other hand, I HAD a friend of over 30 years who simply declined. No call or text. That was a coward move. Especially since I spent a good amount of money being in his wedding and our parents are also close friends. If you cant save up the money that’s YOUR problem but to hate on someone for making the most of a special moment such as this is WRONG. This is going to be a life long memory for your friend or relative. Who are you to pass any judgement on how they choose to celebrate this life milestone? It’s not supposed to be for your convenience. It’s their wedding ! Smdh
Post # 2
This can’t be real. Are you even getting legally married there or just having the pretend ceremony?
Post # 4
Have the wedding you want, but don’t expect anyone to spend big bucks and vacation time to attend. No one but the bride or groom should have to “save up” for a wedding. It’s a once in a life time event for you, but aside from maybe your parents, it isn’t for anyone else. No one else’s life will revolve around your wedding.
Post # 6
Lol @op. Someone’s grumpy
Post # 7
noone owes you an apology, not everyone wants to, or has the need to go to Puerta Vallarta. I know I wouldn’t want to waste my PTO on someone elses dream spot. lol. No thank you.
Your out burst has been a great bit of entertainment for me this arvo, thanks.
Post # 8
You sound very immature to be getting married.
If you invited me, I’d decline, not because of financial reasons, but because of you.
Post # 9
I’m capable of saving but your wedding is NOT my priority. My priority is getting my house done up, buying a new car, saving for my dream trip to somewhere tropical but not somewhere you have made me choose, it’s saving for a kid, it’s saving for a rainy day. You’re also not taking into account how much leave this person has and maybe they don’t want to spend it all on you.
If you make the decision to get married abroad, you make that decision that people will not prioritise your wedding. I have nothing against destination weddings when people are upfront and accept the reality of what they are asking their guests to do and accept that guests may not want to travel for a bunch of reasons.
Also – destination wedding or not, people can just RSVP no to a wedding. People can just be busy or not want to go, they don’t have to supply a reason.
Post # 10
I agree with you that it’s for the couple to decide how they want to engage in their own celebration, so if that means flying across the planet, cool by me.
HOWEVER. You lost me when you just assumed that anyone could “save up” and go. Dude, get your narrow-minded head out of your ass immediately, because that is NOT how life works. Some people have serious fucking health issues that make it impossible to save — and that’s WITH health insurance. Some people have kids and, quite frankly, their damn kids should absolutely be more of a priority than your outlandish celebration. Some people have, oh, I dunno… LIVES AND EXPENSES THAT DON’T CONCERN YOU, and it’s not for you to say what their financial priorities should be. Sit the fuck down.
Post # 11
Oh, yeah, and can we stop shaming people for not having money?! Christ on a cracker!
Post # 12
Threads started with the intention to start drama are not allowed. Closing this now.