(Closed) For those not changing your name…

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We did “Mr. and Mrs. HisFirst HisLast and MyFirst MyLast!” at the end of the ceremony and didn’t do an announcement at the beginning of the reception (we had a small wedding).

People keep sending us mail to Mr. and Mrs. HisFirst HisLast, so this won’t be the first time you’ll face annoyance, especially if your mother doesn’t get why you didn’t change your name and sends stuff to you as Mrs. HisFirst HisLast… grr…

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

We didn’t do an announcement at the reception, but at the end of the ceremony there was a “HisFirst HisLast and MyFirst MyLast HisLast as husband and wife blah blah.”  It was fine, and then at least my family all asked me what I wanted to be called so it was kind of nice to have a little clarifying announcement.  Because holy geez, EVERY SINGLE check we received (and we got mostly checks) was addressed to either Mr & Mrs HisFirst HisLast or HisFirst & MyFirst HisLast.  It totally surprised me that every single person assumed I was changing it.  I’m sure it’ll continue, we’ve already gotten tons of mail that way, but eh, constantly correcting people is worth it to me.  I love my name and I won’t have them all dropping it all the time 🙂

Post # 5
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75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - The Narragansett Towers

We’ll probably go with our first names only: “Introducing for the first time as husband and wife…Potato Chips and Potato Head!”

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Congratulations on keeping your name! We eloped, so I didn’t have to deal with the announcement, but in retrospect it would have been useful. We’ve received some emails with Mrs. HisLast in them… and I just roll my eyes and reply to the next email, “sincerely, MyFirst MyLast.” So far, so good, but my community is accustomed to gender equality.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We just did, “for the first time as husband and wife, HL and E!”  I almost think you have to do it this way or just not do an announcement, because I can’t think of another way to say it…it also gives people a clue that you’re not changing your name without you having to explain it.  If you’re introduced as Mrs. Hisname, people will DEFINITELY start calling you that and it’ll be hard to stop them.  Even though I let it be known long before the wedding that I was keeping my name, some people (mostly those who I don’t see very often) still wrote it incorrectly on cards and checks.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ll probably go with something like “For the first time as husband and wife, J and P!!” I have a good friend who isn’t changing her name and that’s what they did at their wedding. It’s actually become part of a running joke now, which I love.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Glad that I saw this thread. This is something I’m wondering about too, since most of our family is assuming that I’m changing my name and I am hoping the announcement will help clarify things. 🙂 

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