(Closed) For those of us who don't want kids

posted 7 years ago in No Kids
  • poll: If you got pregnant, what would you do?
    adoption : (4 votes)
    2 %
    abortion : (61 votes)
    31 %
    keep it : (100 votes)
    52 %
    not sure : (29 votes)
    15 %
  • Post # 3
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    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    This is exactly why Darling Husband got clipped, then there is no “what if’s”.  Best $72 I EVER spent, thank goodness for insurance.

    Post # 4
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We had this conversation, and I informed Mr. Lk that if it were to happen despite our diligent prevention efforts, we’d be having a baby, and he’d better be prepared to rub my back and feet for 9 months or so. At this point in the conversation I do believe that a vasectomy started looking more and more appealing. LOL

    I am pro-choice all the way, and would gladly go back to the front lines to protect that choice for all women. I just already know what my choice would be. I couldn’t terminate. It’s just not right for me.

    Post # 5
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @MrsSl82be:  I’m exactly with you.  I feel like it isn’t right to give a kid the life I would provide for them.  I’m gonna be honest – I love spending money on traveling around the world and doing things for myself.  I would end up being super resentful toward the kid, and they don’t deserve it, so it’s best for all parties involved if I just didn’t go there.

    Post # 6
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    1037 posts
    Bumble bee

    @MadameTussaud: Couldn’t have put it better myself and I think it’s so awful we’re made to feel sub-human and guilty for this choice.

    Post # 9
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    266 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We’ve talked about it (and I’m trying to get him snipped too!) but we’d keep it.

     I couldn’t live with the thought that closed adoption or no that someone would be out there able to find out their parents were married and could have had a family, not some 14 year old girl that didn’t know who fathered her baby and her parents just wanted to make it go away, because those kids normally go looking for their parents

    I’m all for everyone’s right to choose, who am I to force you to go through labor. It just isn’t for me.

    Post # 10
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    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Abortion. No doubt in my mind, no hesitation. Fiance is on board with this 100% as well.

    Post # 11
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @skyeatnight:  yeah, why is it so wrong to want to live our lives for ourselves??  I’m so tired of being made to feel guilty or terrible.  I see how much people sacrifice their own lives for the sake of their kids… good for them, but I would much rather spend quality time with my FH doing things we love instead of obligations like sesame street, disneyland, and soccer practice.

    Post # 12
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I voted not sure. Fiance and I are in the works of getting the snip, snip but the main problem is we face discrimation because of his age (24) so it has been an uphill battle of doctors trying to convince me I’ll be changing my mine (I have not ever wanted children, I think my first sentence ever was “I hate kids” *age 3). If I were to get pregnant however I am not sure what I would do. I am pro-choice but I would have to weigh the pros and cons of situation at that time. 

    Post # 13
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @lovekiss: I feel exactly the same way. I’m fully pro-choice as well but yeah, I couldn’t terminate.

    Post # 15
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    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @expecting rain:  will they do a vasectomy on a guy who hasn’t had kids?  My Fiance wants to look into that, but I figured we’d get “no” from every doc because we haven’t had kids already.  I’ve already been told lots of no’s for me to have any procedures done to myself, and I get super bad migraines from birth control, so it’s been pretty frustrating.

    Post # 16
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @MrsSl82be: It really pisses me off. It is our relationship, our bodies, our choice. I have even had a shrink give his a-ok on it. It would be foolish of us to have children with Fiance having genetic defects that WILL be passed on to our offspring. It just doesn’t make any sense. I wish doctors sometimes would stop playing God and do their jobs. 

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