Post # 1
Say you met your SO in college, or at work, basically any time besides K-12 (or college if you went close to home) ..
Do you think that you and your SO have hit it off / fell in love if you had met in highschool?
I do not think that we would have at all! I think about the timing and where we each were in our lives and it makes perfect sense. But if we had been in the same highschool? First of all, age-wise it’d be kind of awkward since I would have been a freshman when he was a senior, but that’s not unheard of. I just don’t think our personalities would have clicked back then.
Post # 3
OMG no way he was a total dick in high school – Mr. Cool – and I was really shy and not part of the “cool crowd” (we didn’t go to high school together but I know what he was like through stories from his friends and from him) I joke all the time that I would have hated him in high school and he would have made fun of me with his friends.
Post # 4
High school maybe, college defintiely not. (we met in our mid-twenties.) I think our personalities were reasonably compatible in high school – we were both obnoxiously pretentious in that young way. I think the age difference would have turned me off, though – he’s almost two years older, which isn’t that much, but for some reason I really don’t like the idea of dating older guys. There was a guy two years ahead of me who was a great guy who liked me back in high school, but I was really weirded out by the age gap.
In college, he would have been way too much of a jock and a frat boy for me. There’s no way I would have put up with it.
Post # 5
No way! Fiance was an artsy punk kid who attended class and got out of dodge. I was a huge nerd and was super involved at school (like, two sports, band, school plays, SADD, Academic Team, etc. etc.). I would have thought he was bad news and he would have thought I was Queen of the Dweebs..and we would both have been a little right!
I didn’t meet Fiance until he had graduated from college and was in that job step just beyond entry level, so he had natural colored hair, no piercings, owned a home, and wasn’t so punk rock. I blossomed in college and became much more social and interested in things beyond getting gold stars.
Post # 6
heehee, us too! Well, actually I’m not too sure about my HS social standing, but I was pretty oblivious. I assumed I was a nerd, but I wasn’t shy and did have friends in random groups. I just really liked all of my goofy clubs and my circle of friends to try and be popular, haha. He was class president, everybody knew him, etc. I was friends with that group in my HS, but if they were on the nerdier end of the spectrum, instead of the cool end. haha. He still does poke a little fun at me for being the drum major and various pursuits like that, but eh, it was so super fun that I embrace the teasing.
Post # 7
Not even close. He was a druggie and alcoholic who didn’t like to go to school. I was miss perfect, followed all the rules.
Post # 8
This is so funny! I would most likely not have been interested in Fiance if we had met when I was younger. It was a specific unique circumstance under which we met, after I had learned a lot and been around the block. We may have hit it off as friends back in the day, but I had different standards back then, and he was raised with… well… awful circumstances that would have turned me off. Also, men take at least 25 years to mature, a lot of times, in my experience!
Post # 9
@monita – your Fiance sounds like me to a T! I was in TWO academic quiz clubs, bahaha.
I am glad that time was on all of our sides 🙂
Post # 10
no way! just looking as his high school pics makes me laugh!
Post # 11
When I was in high school, he was finishing university… eeeww!
Post # 12
I doubt it. Our dating styles were very different when we were younger.
Post # 13
Haha! he and i talk about this ALL the time! And it’s always “of COURSE – i’d love you no matter when i met you!” but, we both know it’s probably not the case. he was really shy and i was extremely non-committal – i probably would’ve given him a really hard time 😉 we always pretend we’d have been compatible at any time in our lives but there’s no question we met at the perfect time for both of us.
Post # 14
We would not have dated in high school. i see photos of him and he was waaaaay too dorky and scrawny. we were actually talking about this last night before bed. or maybe the night before. he said i probably would’ve been too intimidating for him to talk to.
Post # 15
absolutely not—i was in 8th grade when he was graduating =p
but if we were closer in age in HS–absolutely not! i was the cheerleader, theater star, honor student and he was a long haired hippy who partied too much and thought school was “conforming to the man” (or something like that).
when i tell my friends he was a long haired hippie, they don’t believe me because now he’s a clean cut man in finance haha.
Post # 16
Well, you would have to put aside our age difference (or else, EWWW and quite illegal!), but I don’t think we would have dated in either high school or college because we were different people then, still figuring our ourselves – our interests wouldn’t have matched then. Well, and I was too busy dating a-holes! LOL we met at the perfect time for us.