Post # 1
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Helper bee
For those of you that had dress regret, did you end up eventually loving your dress, just dealing with it, or getting a new one? I bought my dress mostly because the people who were with me loved it, especially my mom. I did like it, but I kinda think I just got caught up in the moment. After I got home and looked at the pictures, I cried…. not tears of joy. Granted they were taken with a cell phone camera, but still. I tried the dress back on at the store a month ago and liked it, but we didn’t take new pictures – I seriously wish we would have. I keep looking at the original pics I have, and hate them. I keep comparing my dress to everyone else’s … online and on SYTTD… which I know is awful to do. I just don’t think my dress is flattering. Maybe I am just over thinking it and being overly critical (I have a habit of doing that to myself)… I don’t know. I can’t get a new dress so I am hoping I love the dress when I figure out the right accessories (veil, jewlery, ect) to go with it.
Anyway, here is a few pictures…
Post # 3
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Worker bee
That is beautiful! I think this dress looks amazing on you.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
My dress hasn’t arrived yet, but I’m totally bracing myself for…well, not dress regret, more like dress what-could-have-been. I guess I’ll just have to keep reminding myself of why I chose it in the first place, and also to keep things in perspective – on my wedding day, I’m sure I’ll be focused on much bigger things than my dress!
For what it’s worth, I think your dress is beautiful and looks amazing on you. Why don’t you think it’s flattering? I think it’s completely flattering and very regal. Then again, I think almost any style of dress would look great on you!
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
i think the dress is very pretty! and your mom wouldnt let you get a dress that you didnt look beautiful in! i think with the right accesories you willl love it! have you talked to you mom about your worries? she can help point out why she loved it so much and hopefully youll remember all the great things about the dress.
however if you still really hate it, talk with the bridal shop and see if they would let you exchange it.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
its a beautiful dress, and it looks magnificant on you.
What exactly dont you like about it hon?
I think a beautiful english tule veil with some sparkle to match the bling of your dress would look smashing..
Keep your jewellry simple and elegant with an antique look. The detail of the dress with too much bling might look too much.
i also think maybe play with what hoop, netting, underskirt what ever supports the dress. I think it could have a much different and possibly better look than what is under it in the pics.
ps. if it helps you feel better, we all get a bit of dress regret
xx
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I have a similar story. I liked the dress at the store. My sister loved it and we were in a time crunch so I just bought it. I got home and looked at the pictures and my heart sank. But I couldn’t justify a whole new dress. So I got a blingy sash added to it and some really fun accessories. On my wedding day, I felt beautiful. And it is a beautiful dress. But I will admit that I still sometimes wish I had swallowed my pride and coughed up the money for a dress that I liked better. Yet, most of the time I’m glad I didn’t do that. But really, I think we struggle with wanting what we don’t have. There is always something new or different that we will wish we had. It’s tough.
Post # 8
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Helper bee
Thanks ladies. Maybe it’s the fact that it’s not like anything I am used to. Then again, I am not a dress girl. Lol. It could also be as howtobeawife said, maybe it’s just wanting what I don’t have. I don’t know. I don’t like how it looks by my hips. I don’t like the pleats or whatever you want to call them. The dress doesn’t come with any kind of crinolin or skirt. The store put a skirt on me underneath the dress to see how it would look (I have it on in the pics), so maybe I do need to play around with that part of it. They said I would def need to add something underneath so it doesn’t gather in the front and go between my legs while I walk.
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
@AlmostHisWife: I think your dress looks amazing on you. It is sucha beautiful, elegant, and classic wedding dress! I think you will fill differently when you have altered, find the type of crinoline you want underneath, get a veil, and accessorize! 
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
I had a tiny bit of dress regret right after I got my dress, I think it was mostly because it wasn’t at all what I thought I was looking for. I went in looking for a ballgown, and ended up with a fit&flare almost mermaid looking dress. Plus it’s satin, and I really thought I didn’t like satin! But when I had it on, it just felt right. I keep bringing myself back to that feeling. I also have a couple bad pictures, so they dont do it justice, which makes it hard. But when I remember that feeling, I have no regrets, that’s how I want to feel on my wedding day.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
First, I think that dress is gorgeous on you!
Second, I did have dress regret big time. I spent a good 8 months trying to deny the regret (literally regret crept in only a day or two after I purchased it). I remember many sleepless nights crying on my FI’s shoulder about how I spent big bucks on a dress that I was sure he would hate and that I disliked so much now. I really was just going to keep the dress I had, especially since my mom was pressuring me not to look at anything new.
I stumpled upon a new dress though a few days back and after the backing of bees here on WB, I went ahead and purchased the dress online, sight unseen.
I am so much more happier now and I felt that there was a big weight on my shoulders that kind of just lifted right off. I’m excited to look at other people’s dresses because I’m confident in my own and I’m not worried about any more dress regret.
Hopefully my story helps, but I really do like this dress on you and I think it’s beautiful.
Post # 12
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Helper bee
Thanks everyone. You guys have made me feel better. I can’t believe so many people “question” the dress they ended up buying. I guess it’s just because everyone wants the “absolute perfect” dress… At least I know that I am not alone though.
Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
Awww sorry you feel that way. I know pictures don’t do things justice, and I would always come home after trying on dresses and study the pictures for days. And days. I did end up having regret and went with a totally different silhouette and I’m so happy. I did rush into the first purchase too.
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
@AlmostHisWife: I think the detailing on your dress is amazing! It fits you perfectly! You look gorgeous!
I also have to admit that I am a dress regret bride and bought a “new” (used) wedding dress. My reason is I feel my first dress is just too plain and wanted something with a little more detailing. I was teased by my FI for my change in dresses and now I have a dress sitting in my house that I will probably never wear. I was fortunate that my first dress was a great deal so, my losses are minimal.
Post # 15
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Helper bee
Thanks girls. I think I am def going to play with the skirt on it – adding crinolin or something to see if that makes a difference on how I think it looks on me. Everyone keeps saying that no matter what, my Fiance will think I will look amazing on our wedding day so I need to stop stressing the dress. Easier said than done though. lol.
Post # 16
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Helper bee
That dress is gorgeous! I bought a dress impulsively because it was an amazing deal. I stressed out about it for 3 months before I finally decided to just take a look at one store. The third dress I tried on there I fell in love with. I didn’t want to buy it impulsively, but I knew I should get it when it was the only thing that I thought about for the next week. 🙂
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