Post # 17
I can’t believe how many people have dress regret. Why is it we put so much pressure on ourselves over this decision? Maybe it is because we want this dress to say so many things about who we are while at the same time pleasing everyone else. No dress is every going to be everything to everyone-please yourself first whether that means keeping it or not, please your Fiance next and then worry about your friends and family.
Post # 18
Your dress is stunning, and very flattering. I tend to do the same thing to myself. I Jiddah have dress regret, but i just dealt with my dress. Dh loved it.
Post # 19
Gorgeous dress!!! I had dress regret and bought the new dress- no regrets now!
Post # 20
I had and am still slightly having a little bit of regret.. I went shopping with friends and family several times. They all loved a specific dress or several dresses but none were the one for me. So I went to browse at a local coutoure store by myself after work one day and found a dress that was everything I’ve said I wanted since day 1 (and opposite of what the people I shopped liked or wanted for me, so my problem is slightly opposite of yours). So I buy the dress and to this day, I truly love it and think it’s gorgeous. Everyone says the same, it’s really pretty, totally you, etc. But no one is enthused and it caused me some anxiety. Everyone looks at the bride right? So I want them to look at me and say WOW!
Post # 21
Its a stunningly beautiful dress. Looks expensive too.
Post # 22
@AlmostHisWife: I really love the bodice on this.You look wonderful!!!
Post # 23
Thanks girls for the reassurance. Do you guys think if I have them add another layer of crinolin (I only had a crinolin skirt on underneath since it does not come with any crinolin in the dress), that it would look any different? Better? Worse? I think the first picture is just throwing me off… it looks very flat. But in the mirror in the 3rd picture, it doesn’t. I need to stop obsessing over this. The dress is the only wedding detail that is giving me anxiety… Lol..
Post # 24
I went with my mom and sister and would recommend to everyone that when dress shopping to go with the most important people to you, and then to go back alone to make sure the dress is what you truly want. I had minor dress regret,in comparison to some girls on here, it wasn’t an option to buy another dress so I put it out of my mind. If you truly regret your gown- figure out what it is you don’t love about it and see if it’s fixable. What I was doubting and not loving about my gown was the sash. I changed it entirely and now I’m in love with it and can’t wait to put it on. Good luck!
Post # 25
i regretted my dress AFTER the wedding. I do love it, but its SO not what i wanted. I got a cheap dress for $250 and paid $500 in alterations when i could’ve gotten a $800 custom dress or something. My cheapness beat me. I love my dress, but I wish i would’ve looked more before commiting!
Post # 26
I understand this and Ill share my experience.
I got engaged in Dec 2011. I went dress shopping for the first time in Jan 2012 (a year ago). The first salon I tried i went too because I had a $150 store credit there (long story). That being said…I was on a pretty strict budget, AND we were having a Sept wedding in our backyard in the country. I initially wanted a lace dress of some kind. I ended up buying a gorgeous dress…chiffon dropped waist ball gown with ruffles. My party that was with me all loved it and ind of talked me into it, as the only lace gown she had in my price range wasn’t very flattering and it was heavy with beading.
Well, we had to call off the Sept wedding for multiple reasons, and ended up re setting a date this past December. I had my dress at my home, and was able to try it on with a belt I made and guess what….I didn’t love it anymore.
I spent over 2 months telling myself I was being silly, i just wanted to go try on dresses again (because hoenstly I could play dress up ALL DAY lol). Eventually I came upon a little extra $ and decided that do or die, I wanted to give it a shot finding a new one. I had one dress I sort of liked at Davids bridal, but decided to try a local salon that gets sample dresses/consignment of newer gowns first.
And low and behold the last dress she brought out was lace, poofy, sparkly…and by a designer label. I put it on, it fit like a glove. I’m tall and with the lace on the skirting portion I barely need any alterations.
I’m still sad over the other dress,…its gorgeous, I have it for sale for 30% less than what I paid 🙁 which stinks , but I know that looking for another dress was meant to be no doubt.
I say go looking again, if you are not happy now you will not be happy ever and you owe it to yourself to go looking for the one 😉
Good luck and let us know how it turns out!
Post # 27
I think your dress is beautiful and fits quite flatteringly on you. I think the pleats in the back are what give it the gorgeous draping and Peonyinparis had the terminology right when she said you looked ‘regal’ in it. I agree.
When I looked for my dress I had a budget max of $1500….which ended up being $2000 because I fell in love with a pre owned but never worn Kenneth Pool ‘Botticelli’ gown (I even fell in love with the name of the gown lol I’m guessing it is a reference to Botticellis Venus with all the scalloped beading). I agonized over it for all of an hour when I rationalized that Ive blown $500 on worse and I just knew I wouldve been sick if I second guessed myself or tried to save or settle so I jumped at it. Also, I looked for and picked out the dress myself. I did not have anyone really helping me as I picked my dress before I picked my bridesmaids. I think its harder when you have gf’s or mom shopping with. Just my opinion.
I looked for several months online and when I stumbled upon ‘the dress’, the seller happened to live about an hour away from where I was going to spend my vacation so I asked if I could try it on and she said yes and the rest just fell into place. My father and my stepmother took me and when my dad saw me in it he was silent for a full 7 seconds. He told me it was classy and he left the room (I think he was tearing up!) but he definitely loved the dress!
I felt like Cinderella in that gown and I’am SO not the hokey cheeseball type but if you watch the runaway bride with Julia Roberts, when she’s standing in the dress shop and swaying back and forth in her dress, THAT is how I felt! lol BUT if it did not flatter me, I would’ve backed off. I have a fashion creed: Thou shalt not wear sh*t that does NOT fit!!! and thats the end all be all for me.
All that said, hun, YOU make that dress look fantastic!
Post # 28
Thanks everyone. I still have some anxiety over the dress and still have some doubt. But really, there isn’t anything I can do about it. I can’t cancel the order or exchange it, and I don’t have the money for a different dress. Soooo… I bascially have to get over it. lol. Once my hair and makeup are done and I figure out the accessories, I am sure I will feel better…. I hope… lol
Post # 29
@AlmostHisWife: I think not being all done up is the hardest part! As silly as it sounds, I never feel like an outfit is pulled together until my hair is done (down and straight) and makeup is good and not worn off. I’ve really been trying to at least wear my hair down and go earlier in the day so I look my “freshest”. Even with that, though, we never know what we will look like on the day of! It reallys sucks! FWIW I think the dress looks amazing on you, but YOU have to feel good about it. I’m learning that the hard way.
Post # 30
@AlmostHisWife: That is a beautiful dress and it looks great on you! I had dress regret and was battling with myself on whether or not to lose my deposit and keep looking.
I thought, I can either take a loss now and never look back, or I can look back at the pohotos and wish I had kept looking. I decided to keep looking. I didnt cry when I found “The” one, but I just new my search was over. I couldn’t be happier with my decision!
I’d say do what your gut tells you to do. Good luck!
Post # 31
I had the regret! Cell phone pics really kill the beauty of any dress!! And the model pics online were absolutely awful. But when my dress finally came in (it was a different color than I had tried on and it wasn’t beat up like the sample) I was so relieved!! Yes, you get caught up in the moment, but there’s a reason why there is a moment!
I think just being away from a dress (which is typically a huge purchase, btw) makes a lot of people uneasy. You remember it differently than it actually is. I plan to do a few alterations to make mine “PERFECT” but yours looks great! I’m sure once you’re done with your alterations you’ll know you made the right choice!