(Closed) For those of you that had "Dress Regret"

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I did end up purchasing another dress after some serious dress regret, but I would NOT make that decision based on pictures. Your dress is very pretty, but it’s really hard to judge how a dress really looks and feels on you when you’re looking at a crappy cell phone pic with bad lighting and a sample dress. I ended up deciding that my dress wasn’t really what I wanted after I brought it home and still wasn’t happy with it even when I was trying it on.

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Lori2026:  Yes!! Cell phone pictures SUCK!

Post # 34
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow, this describes my experience to a T!!! I went with my Mom, who was visiting from out of town, and put a deposit on a dress that I thought at the time I loved. I definitely got caught up in the moment, and had IMMEDIATE regret– and kept going back to the cell phone photo! I even did a trip back to the salon a couple weeks later and tried it on again… the sales ladies reassured me that it was wonderful, etc…. finally, six weeks after THAT, my finace came home to me in tears. I just felt that there were things about the dress that I didn’t like, and that I was trying to convince myself that I loved it rather than actually loving it.

 

Long story short, Fiance encouraged me to go back looking. I went to a few different salons, then back to the first one, and I found the prettiest dress I have EVER seen… I am now truly in love  with my dress and feel so much relief and happiness! It has honestly made me so much more excited for the wedding as  a whole.

 

I think that your dress looks beautiful on you, but because of my experience I am telling you to go back to the drawing board. You want to be truly happy with your dress. Best of luck, whatever you decide!!!

Post # 35
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This sounds very similar to what I went through. I purchased my wedding gown in jan 2012. It was the first time I went dress shopping and I only took my mom with me because I didnt plan on buying a dress. We just went to see and try on different styles to get a feel of what I liked. I always had a vision of what I wanted and it was a huge ballgown with lots of sparkles.  That night I ended up putting a down payment on a dress that was exactly what I always “thought” I wanted.

Immediatley the next day I had this feeling of regret. Over the last year Ive loved my gown and then hated my gown. I would always try and fish for compliments because I was so unsure of my dress. I felt liek everyone would say “no its beautiful, you need to stop worrying.” I even went and tried  the dress on about three different times because I would get so anxious about it that i would have to go try it on again to see how I felt in it. each time I put it on I thought it was a beautiful dress but the problem was I did not feel beautiful in it (if that makes any sense). I constantly would look on here at other girls and their dresses and think , wow they look amazing, but I doubted my dress and did not feel that way about myself. 

About two weeks ago I went and tried on other dresses, even though everyone told me not to. They said I would just become more confused. I found out that my original dress was not even close to the style I wanted. I fell in love with another dress and even though people told me they liked my original better I went with my gut and how I felt in this dress. The only opinion that mattered was mine and the feeling I was feeling.  could not be happier. Its all about you and what you feel. I feel amazing, confident and beautiful in this new dress, a feeling I never had in my first dress. 

Although your dress is amazing and I think you look beautiful in it, the question you have to ask is “how does the dress make YOU feel?”

Post # 36
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Your dress looks fantastic on you!! I think you’ll end up loving it once you get to try on *yours*.

I loved it when I bought it, but had dress regret pretty much starting the day after, until yesterday when I had my first fitting. I think it was a combination of what some other bees have mentioned. The style and material were totally different from other dresses I was looking at online, it had bling (I hate bling!), and the sample was waayyy too big for me. It just didn’t seem like “me” and it looked totally different from what I had first envisioned for my wedding day.

And so the pictures I had of myself in the dress reminded me of that for the last 4 months. What a nightmare. The day after I bought it, I had pretty much worked myself up into a near panic, and was frantically trying to figure out if I’d be able to cancel my order or not (I couldn’t) and what, if anything, I could do!

I decided I’d just deal with it – my friend thought it was pretty, and I figured if anything, at least I’ll look nice, even if it’s not what I really wanted. I obsessively looked up pictures on google of real brides wearing my dress and couldn’t really find any – which definitely didn’t help the situation. And I didn’t like how it looked on the model on Allure’s site either.

Well. My fitting yesterday totally, TOTALLY took away any regret that I had. It is perfect. Absolutely perfect. I could not stop smiling the entire time I was there! I think when we make such an expensive decision, it’s natural to freak out at the finality of it, but in the end, we probably chose it for a good reason.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I had dress…um…upset. I was completely happy and in love, then found out a family member had the same dress. I was devastated and actually refused to look at the dress…

I’ve changed certain elements of the dress to make it mine and less like the other person’s, trying to fall in love with it again. Maybe you could talk to your alterations specialists and see if you can change something simple about your dress to make it more the dress of your dreams. And if you’ve never been in love with it…idk, keep looking. That “feeling” is true; it happens. 

Post # 37
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Helper bee

OMG THAT IS STUNNING!! That suits your figure SO well. Dress envy here…

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