Post # 32
I never think of this as weird.. I thought it was normal :/ All the women in my family do this so I suppose its tradition. Its too bad because I really love my middle name.. and I hate my last name so I might not do it.. not sure yet!
Post # 33
I did something similar. I have kept my maiden name, but we don’t have the option here of putting it as our middle name. I have two last names without a hyphen. It’s pretty common here.
Post # 34
I was all set to do that but I decided to use my current last name as a middle name for my first son instead 🙂
Post # 35
It’s so funny- i did this, but by accident! I literally filled out the form wrong when I was applying for my marriage certificate… I was too busy chatting with the lady about my shoes! So everything came back with my middle name removed, and my maiden name as my new middle name… But i like it! It works for me, personally and professionally. More power to you girl!
Post # 36
@Brielle: I didn’t know the historic implications! Very interesting.
OP, I think I am going to do what you’re doing, but also legally keep my original middle name. So I will be First Middle Maiden Last. I probably won’t use the original middle name a whole lot, but it will still be there. One of my grandmothers did it this way and I’ve always liked it.
Post # 37
My name is tricky.
I haven’t gone by my first name in about 6 years, so I use my middle name as my first name and then my first name as my middle one.
So once I’m hitched, I’ll do what OP wants to do. I’ll probably apply for a full name change.
So I’ll be:
Middle Name, Maiden Name, Husbands Name
Post # 38
I did this and no one thought it was weird. My son has the same middle name as I do now (my maiden name).
Post # 39
My maiden name is now my middle name as well. I’ve only gotten one confused look from a lady at the ER who verbally double checked my middle name.
This thread made me think of something I saw on Facebook a few weeks ago. Someone posted that they didn’t recognize the names a lot of women on their list while scrolling through because those women were married and changed their last names and didn’t have their maiden name anywhere. It is kind of add when you add someone you’ve always known as Jane Smith and someone by the name of Jane Doe adds you. I generally deny those requests. If someone added me as Jane Smith Doe I would recognize them.
Post # 40
It’s EXTREMELY common my area! Your friend needs to get out more.
Post # 41
that’s how my mom did it. i always thought this was normal. didn’t really think much of it! i recently saw some other post where someone (sorry don’t remember whose) described this method as “asian-style” i am asian but didn’t realize that changing last name to middle name had anything to do with this. i wonder if this is customary of some cultures/areas vs others?
Post # 42
The only issue I had with this is according to the SSA my name is “first (middle maiden) Married. But the uni I attend and the DOT can’t do that apparently so it is hyphanated on everything else. Socially I am First Married.
Post # 43
No one thought it was too weird, DH was the only one that had a small problem with it. I’ve always used First, Middle, Last; because my first name is only 4 letters and my last name is only one syllable. So now i’m First, Last, Married. Although I do have to say signing all the checks at the bank using all three names was a pain.
Post # 44
I dropped my middle name and now my maiden name is my middle name. My mom did the same thing. I think it’s kind of nice…I definitely did not want to lose my maiden name, but also did not want to hyphenate.
Post # 45
That’s pretty much the norm around here. I thought about just adding my new name to all my others but I just Ended up dropping my middle name. I thought two middle names would be too much but I sometimes wish I did keep them all. As you can see I go back and forth, lol
Post # 46
I did this! The only person who thought it was weird was the lady at the DMV, who COULD NOT wrap her mind around it. She was set on the idea that “MaidenName LastName” was my whole last name, and no matter what I said, she couldn’t get past that.
It wouldn’t have bothered me if she wasn’t the one processing the application for my new license – so when I got my license in the mail 2 weeks later, it was legally incorrect. I had to go back in to change it, but no one else has had a problem with it. I do make a point to be very clear what my legal name is when I am changing my legal documents now.