(Closed) For those of you who did a first look before the ceremony….

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Post # 3
1129 posts
Bumble bee

I just got married a month ago – we did a first look and I wouldn’t have changed it for ANYTHING!  I just logged on to post some recaps tonight – one of which will be about our ‘first look’ and my reasons why it worked for us.

I’m a crier – so much in fact that my nickname is Christa the Crier.  I cry about everything – happy, sad, embarassing, you name it.  I would tear up at the mere THOUGHT of my wedding (before it was my wedding day!)  I definitely cried at our first look, but I TOTALLY held it together from that point on.  My hubby was a nervous wreck on our wedding day – and he too said seeing me ahead of time was the only thing that keep him from fainting!  🙂  I will say that I wavered on the choice many times over – we literally decided to go through with that part of it only a few days ahead of time.  However, I’m very glad we chose to see each other.  I don’t feel like I missed out on anything and I don’t regret any part of that decision whatsoever.

I honestly think not having the gap between the ceremony and reception was a HUGE bonus for the guests, too.  Plently of people commented on it.  We had a small gap while we signed our license but that was it.

Ultimately it was a personal choice – one that many traditional brides might feel strange about.  I had a lot of traditional elements in our wedding, but a first look to me felt right and perfect – and it was.

Post # 4
53 posts
Worker bee

I did it and loved it!!!!!!!!

Reasons why it was awesome:


– More time for photos

– Guests didn’t have to wait around for ages between ceremony and reception

– Got to spend some relaxed time with Fi and bridal party

– had a picnic (sit down and food!)

– less nerves (we were both nervous but neither of us are criers!)

– the photos are awesome, his face 😀

Post # 5
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I posted a similar question a few weeks ago and since receiving the responses from the hive, we have decided to do a first look. There are a ton of bees on here who did a first look and most of them now say that it was their favorite part of their wedding day. Our reasoning behind doing a FL is similiar to the PP’s. I’m a crier, so I would like to get some of that out of the way before walking down the aisle. Anxiety. Seeing eachother before the ceremony will ease both of our nerves. We probably wouldn’t have enough time during just the cocktail hour to do pictures and I’d prefer not to have to rush. We’re spending alot of money on our cocktail hour and I would really like to enjoy it with our guests. And last but certainly not least, I want that few minutes alone (err, well with our photog too) with Fiance on our wedding day. So many couples hardly spend any time together on their wedding day because they are pulled in a million different directions. Once you add 100 guests into the mix, that one-on-one time will be few and far between.

Post # 6
1756 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We did a first look and I have no regrets. It allowed us to get all of the photos out of the way, so we (and our wedding party) could attend the cocktail hour and maximize the time we got to spend with our guests. I’m also a tad selfish, and I didn’t want to save that moment for when we were surrounded by a bunch of people. I wanted it to be just us. (Well, us and our photographers Smile)

Post # 7
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It was my favorite part of the day!  I was so nice to see my husband before the ceremony.  I was so much more relaxed afterwards!

Post # 8
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m really glad we did it!! I just wish I had been more forward about how I wanted it to be set up–similar to Mrs. Buttons, it didn’t happen exactly as I had imagined. But I loved seeing Darling Husband before the ceremony (very calming ) AND we got to enjoy cocktail hour! 

Post # 9
405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We did a first look as well and I have absolutely NO regrets. As a matter of fact I consider it one of my favorite parts of the day and one of the best decisions we made. Like others have said it gave us time to spend some quiet time alone together and get ready for all the fesitvities headed our way. Plus it made for some really fun and beautiful photos…our photographers captured our first look moment beautifully!

Post # 10
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We did the first look.

When I first suggested it to my husband he did not like the idea of it. Until I told him that it’s the probably the only time the whole day we will get a moment alone.
We are both really glad we did it. Because it was the only 5 minutes we grabbed -semi- alone. And it provided a nice time to take our couple pictures as well.

It’s such a special personal moment and I’m glad it was just the two of us there. Rather than all the wedding guests and trying to see what his reaction is 10ft down the aisle.

Absolutely would not change it.

Post # 11
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so happy we did ours. It was so intimate and it was really the only time we had for just the two of us which was amazing. I wore my bolero and no veil, so that when I cam down the aisle in my dress and veil (no bolero) I would look a bit different at least.

And yes, I got a lot of crying over with before the ceremony (although I did cry during the ceremony still). But to just be able to see each other, take it in, have a few minutes to talk and laugh without 150 pairs of eyes on us was awesome. I swear DH’s mom was going to come with me, I had to forcefully tell her that was NOT okay. She kept saying “But I want to see his face the first time he sees you!”, sigh. So with family like that, a few minutes alone was great 😉

Post # 12
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

The first look was AMAZING! I would not change a thing!

They also turned out to be my favourite pictures of the day – you can check out my recap here if you like.

I loved that I had that moment with him and then we got to enjoy taking pre-ceremony formals with everyone before the ceremony. It cut down the gap between the ceremony and reception and it calmed us down to have a moment alone together.

And it didn’t take away from walking down the aisle at all – that still was an amazing moment.

Post # 13
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I haven’t done mine yet, but I know I for sure won’t regret it. It will help me with my emotions/nerves; it will be an incredibly special and intimate moment; we’ll get great pictures; and we’ll be able to go straight to our reception after the ceremony! Woo hoo!

Post # 14
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@bakerella: I love the idea of wearing your bolero and not your veil so there were still some surprises. I can’t believe your Mother-In-Law wanted in on the first look. It actually sounds like something Future Mother-In-Law would want to do.

Post # 15
2820 posts
Sugar bee

I was really happy with ours, even though I was initially resistant to the idea.  We didn’t have a private first look like a lot of people but instead I came down the stairs and he was waiting at the bottom to give me my bouquet.  Our family (immediate and some extended family members), wedding party and even dog were also there.  I’m glad we got to share our first look with them too.  

I don’t think it took anything away from walking down the aisle, he still looked like a happy, emotional, proud peacock standing at the alter and I still cried walking down the aisle seeing him there.   

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