(Closed) For Those of You Who Did Not Do a First Look…

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Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I can’t wait to hear these answers, we are still going back and forth as well

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@ktisthatbees: Me too! Fiance doesn’t really want to do it and I’m always on the fence (but usually leaning more towards the not doing it side…). I think we probably won’t, but who knows!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I do not regret not doing a first look!  I loved seeing my husband for the first time as I entered the church!!!!  We tried to do as many pictures before that we could, now, saying that, I didn’t get many pictures before, because I locked myself out of the church and had to wait forever for someone to bring me the spare key, so I regret locking myself out, but we did the rest after the ceremony and then headed to the reception!!  Our guests were busy eating while we were getting our pictures done, simply so they didn’t have to wait around twiddling their thumbs waiting on us:) 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’d love to hear the answers. Fiance doesn’t want one, and I don’t care either way, except that means a longer cocktail hour and I just worry about the cost & if guests will be bored while they wait.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Aggg, sometimes I really wish we had a first look, but other times I am so glad that we had that moment of first seeing each other as I walked down the aisle (alot of this had to do b/c I had the perfect song picked out and it made the moment of first seeing each other so special.)

My husband was the one who really didn’t want to do the first look, and I wasn’t all for it, so I didn’t push it. Overall I am still happy we didn’t ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t do a first look. Some of it had to do with scheduling as well as my desire for him to see me in my dress for the first time down the aisle. For me, the first look spoils the surprise of the dress. I’m glad that we didn’t do any couples pictures before the ceremony especially the first look.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I recently decided that we ARE going to do it. I want awesome pics and have been at weddings where waiting on the bridal party took forrr-evvv-errrr. I totally get the “wanting to see each other on the big day” idea, but i’ve talked to lots of brides who said that the big day was totally different emotionally anyways, so it was still special. I also know that some photographers will charge a little less if you opt to take bride/groom photos early, which takes some stress off of them that day. I cant wait to display our photos at the reception!

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Did you regret not doing the first look and getting photos done prior to the wedding?

No, not even a little bit. While first look pictures are beautiful I loved the anticipation of not seeing him until I was walking down the aisle. Seeing him for the first time at the end of the aisle felt amazing – he was about to be my husband!

Did you feel rushed doing the photos or did it all run smoothly and you loved not seeing your groom until you walked down the aisle?

No I didnt feel rushed at all. We took lots of wonderful pictures after our ceremony while all our guests were at cocktail hour. It felt like a long time and we still had private time together. After our bridal party photos it was only us and the photgraphers so it was very intimate!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Did you regret not doing the first look and getting photos done prior to the wedding?

Nope.  We both wanted to see each other for the first time that day as we were walking down the aisle.  It was perfect!

Did you feel rushed doing the photos or did it all run smoothly and you loved not seeing your groom until you walked down the aisle?

The only thing that made us feel rushed was the fact that we had to scramble to figure out hair/make-up because the person I’d made arrangements with was a no-show.  If we’d have had a first look planned, it would have been cancelled anyway and would have added to my stress!!  ๐Ÿ™‚  It worked out perfectly the way it happened and I loved seeing him for the first time that day as I was walking down the aisle.  I know he feels the same way.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My wedding isn’t till next year, and we have decided not to do a first-look for this exact reason! I AM doing a first-look with my Dad because we have always been close and my wedding will be really emotional for us, but I’m glad I’m not doing it with Fiance. As long as you have a photographer who can corral a group of people and be organized, everything should flow smoothly. Just have a cocktail hour or something…people will wait as long as they are fed and watered:)

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We did not do a first look.  We had two photographers, so we spent about 30 – 45 minutes before the wedding on opposite sides of the church doing family photos.  I took pictures with my family, my husband took pictures with his family, and then the families switched sides so we did not see each other.  We did not have a bridal party, but if we did, we would’ve done bridal party photos this way at the same time.  After the wedding, we spent about 15 minutes taking photos with both families together, and then my husband and I used the cocktail hour to take photos with just the two of us.

I did not feel rushed at all.  Everything was well organized and ran very smoothly.  I’m glad we didn’t do a first look because it gave us the opportunity to have a little alone time after the ceremony when we were so pumped up about being just married.  I was glad we had a few minutes to just be together and not entertain guests, even though it meant we did miss out on our awesome cheese table during the cocktail hour.  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

This makes me feel so much better about us not doing one!In my heart of hearts I knew I really didn’t want to do it.

@Bride2BeKatie:Thanks for starting this thread! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We did not do a first look, even though I pushed for it, Darling Husband did not want to see me before the ceremony.

Yes, I would have loved getting to our reception a little earlier, but other than that, it was really smooth.

The look on his face when those doors opened was absolutely priceless.

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