Post # 1
We don’t need stuff, we’ve got plenty. I simply do not want to register. My finance is a very altruistic dude, but he is not down with suggesting donations to our favorite charities. (Also the charities we would choose are not everyone’s favorites.) I want to tell everyone “no gifts” but no one would listen.
I know it is not typically the thing to do, but I don’t care at this point, I’m not registering. My awesome Mom claims her friends will be thrilled, as they don’t have to mess with shopping for anything, and honestly that was the only demographic I was worried about. Our friends will just give us cash anyway, as they know the truth behind how awesome cash is. What I want to know is: for you brave souls who bucked the system and refused to register, how did it go? Thanks!
Post # 3
We are currently not registed. So far, my mom has been pretty shocked and appalled, and has now settled in to making “subtle” comments about it every time we see her. My friends also think it’s stupid/ridiculous to not register. I wish we were registered, because I think it’s part of the experience of being a bride, and I”ll never get to have that again. But my Fiance is adamantly against it, so I’m doubtful.
As for gifts, we have received several gifts that are not our style/not useful to us. Two of them we returned, and the others we just have to keep. I told my Fiance that’s what he gets for not registering! I’m not so concerned about getting strange gifts at the wedding (I think most people will give cash), it’s this period before the wedding when people have been sending gifts that the registry would have been helpful.
Post # 4
I will admit that registering is a strange concept. How is requesting “no gifts” more rude than making a list of what you want people to buy you? (That’s a rhetorical question, not meant to start a discussion)
You seem to have made up your mind not to register already, but be ready for some strange gifts! People gave us gifts at our engagement party (which I did not expect) and, since we had not registered yet, there were some strange items! My favorite was an engraved picture frame with my name spelled incorrectly!!
Then again, it all depends on who your guests are. Perhaps you’ll get lucky and they will go the cash, gift card, or no gift route. Worst case scenario, you will at least have a few good stories!
Post # 5
I would love a picture frame with my name spelled incorrectly, that would be front and center just for the hilarity. Awesome.
Post # 6
runskiclimb- OMG! I have no words!
Post # 7
We’ve only signed up for a honeymoon registry because we are both in our 30s so we don’t exactly need housewares. New towels would be nice, but the cat would probably just destroy those too.
So far the honeymoon registry has been fine, even his 72yo grandma figured it out. But we still got our first non-registry gift yesterday. A set of martini glasses, a book about martinis, and an inspirational book about marriage from his cousin. I know they are internet savvy since they signed our guestbook on the webpage and managed to insert a picture from their own website, Plus, the gift is from Amazon. Is it rude to return it before the wedding?
Post # 8
My Fiance and I already live together and due to graduate school circumstances in the future, we don’t even know where we’re going to be ending up in a few years. Meaning we haven’t even really settled into a “home” yet. Therefore we didn’t want to register for two reasons. 1) Because we already live together, we have basic things like toaster, blender, sheets, towels, etc. 2) Because we don’t have an idea of where or when we’ll be settling down somewhere, we didn’t want to have a bunch of stuff packed away in storage for years because the stuff we registered for would be more appropriate for house living.
And we didn’t want people to spend their money on stuff we wouldn’t end up using or finding a purpose for down the road.
I’m hoping that people for the most part will just gift us cash because at this point in our lives, with our situation, that’s really what we need the most. Although there are some people on my mom’s side of the family that are insisting they need to buy us something. Like a physical gift. So we’re even having a hard time coming up with a few “essentials”.
I guess we’ll see how it goes. I’m assumming we will end up with some strange gifts.
Post # 9
Yay for not registering….
We are a young couple that is starting out life together, while moving 3000 miles away, and we did not register because we did not want to tell people what to buy us…. so we ended up getting almost 3000 dollars in cash and gift cards as well as presents. Turned out pretty good for us. 🙂