(Closed) For those of you who didn't do a first look

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Post # 2
294 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

is your reception and ceremony at the same venue?

Post # 4
2428 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We did exactly what you wrote. I took pictures with my bridesmaids and family prior to the ceremony, he did the same with his people, immediately after the ceremony we took our couple’s portraits, then pictures with our parents/family. It didn’t feel rushed or anything. I didn’t come up with a schedule prior to our wedding day, because I knew our photographer was capable of keeping the flow going smoothly so I sat back and let him do his magic.

Post # 5
1430 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I plan to do what your doing as well. Neither one of us wants to do a first look. Him because of tradition, and me because I think the whole tapping the shoulder thing just looks too cheesy. I think as long as your ceremony and reception are close by and you are organized it will be doable. Or at least that is what my photographers have been telling me.

Post # 6
767 posts
Busy bee

Based on my experience as a bridesmaid in weddings where there is no first look, it all works out fine.  We did all the bridesmaid pictures beforehand (same on the groom’s side) plus pictures of the bride and groom separately with their parents, and the photographer just took all the family, group, bride and groom pictures after the wedding.  Most photographers are very efficient and can get through a ton of pictures quickly – make sure yours is on board with that!  You just need to make sure your family members and bridal party are all aware of this so you don’t waste time finding people who wandered off.  You’ll miss most of the cocktail hour most likely, but should even get to enjoy the last bit of it if the venue is only 2 minutes away.

Post # 7
4057 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We did exactly what  you are planning. Was perfectly fine. Did whole group shots first after the ceremony and then released those people to cocktail hour. Then we did couple shots for like 30 minutes – we were done with 15-20 minutes to enjoy cocktail hour ourselves!

Post # 8
963 posts
Busy bee

We had a gap between the ceremony and reception. 3.5 hours or so. We didn’t feel rushed but the photographers definitely used up all the time! Darling Husband and I had to tell them that we had to leave or we’d be late.

Post # 9
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It was fine. Ceremony ended at like 12:15, reception about 3 miles away started around 1, cocktail lasted until about 2 and then we arrived. That left plenty of time for family, bridal party, and portraits AND for us to get from one venue to the other. We also bustled my dress in the middle of photos and it took less than 5 minutes (I’d been to weddings where there’s a bustling problem and it seems to take forever – i was so worried – but this wasn’t an issue at all!)  We made sure there was plenty of food, booze, and music during cocktail hour in case it went long, but we were right on time and didn’t feel rushed at all. And we had amazing photos. Our vendors were professionals so they knew how to make it all flow together.

Post # 10
1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We did the separate photos you are talking about, which really cuts down on what you need to do later (I did me and my mom/dad, Darling Husband did them w/his parents, etc.) During cocktail hour, we did family photos, and then Darling Husband and I did our couple photos a bit later (we were waiting for sunset). It was hard to sneak away, but we were only gone for about 20 minutes. Our photographer was really fast, though.

Post # 11
4370 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

annb9:  We did it exactly the way you plan to – separate before, together after ceremony – with a cocktail hour (that was actually only 1 hour, not a longer one) and we had plenty of time for all our group photos and a ton of b&g photos – I didn’t feel rushed at all.

Something that helped was having one or two family members who helped corral people – for instance, we did pictures with our grandmothers first, so they wouldn’t have to stay out in the heat for too long. After that, my mom and Mother-In-Law would help round up people for family photos, since the photographer wouldn’t necessarily know everyone. As long as they weren’t in the picture, they could be collecting the  people for the next set.

Post # 12
8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

My husband was adamant about not doing a first look. I felt the same also and we swore we would get pics done. He took some with his family and groomsmen before the ceremony. However, one hour just wasn’t enough to get good pictures. We don’t have really good pictures from that hour.

It’s our only regret….

Post # 13
2840 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

annb9:  We didn’t do a first look (although we did get a picture taken of us holding hands around a corner). Our reception hall was just a block away from the church. We had lawn games and food out for the guests while the bridal party went and took pictures nearby. It went just fine.

Post # 14
2120 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

annb9:  we didnt do a first look. there just wasnt enough time. not that i was worried about getting one. photos were took of my getting ready. an Aunt took photos of Darling Husband and his guys before hand getting ready. after the ceremony we took some pics outside the church, with the wedding party and family. grandma left really early and i really wish we took pictures with her!!! my sister and her son were in the photos but we forgot one with her husband! afterwards it was just Darling Husband and I taking photos. i had a limo scheduled for pick up which gave us about an hour and half of photos. wished i made it longer. prob 2 hours at the least! we got great photos but i felt rushed. the church scene was woodsy and hard to get around in my heels when moving from background to background. my photographer was trying to get people to listen but it was pretty chaotic. everyone was soppose to leave and meet us all later but they wanted to hang out and watch. which made things loud and hard for her to give direction. i wish i would have seen that coming and sent my BMs after them. but afterwards i was busy with hugs and tyring to do what the photographer wanted me to do. 

Post # 15
9792 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

thats my plan as well!

Have your planner, bossy aunty, or mom rally all the neccessary people. Start with the biggest group then release them into happy hour!

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