(Closed) For those of you who got pregnant right after the wedding…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We thought a lot about having a baby right after our wedding, and it just seemed right for us. We’re getting older, we lived together before we got married, and we both really want to be parents. We ended up getting pregnant a few months after the wedding and then I miscarried. I’m pregnant again now, 17 weeks and our 1st anniversary is at the end of the month. No regrets yet!

Post # 4
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Not married yet but we are already trying for a family.  We are older, we already live together, we have the house, we have the pets all we need is the vows and the baby.

 

Post # 5
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246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t think anyone would regret it, but I have a friend who had an unplanned pregnancy right after she got married. While she loves her son she wishes she could’ve had more time just as husband and wife.

Post # 6
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10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@hrev2010: I would regret it. I think that the time right after we get married is important – for us, it definitely is different for each couple! We are traveling all over Asia together for 6 months, moving, changing jobs, possibly buying a house. We are also almost 30/early 30s, so it isn’t as though we are “young”. We just have a lot we’d like to do before kids enter the picture in a few years!

Post # 7
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6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Nope!  For a while after Addie was born, I thought, “Geez this would be so much easier if my husband was out of grad school.”  But now that I’m trying to go back and get my Master’s, I think having her now was the right choice for us.  If we hadn’t started our family when we did, we probably would’ve waited upwards of a decade, which would’ve thrown off a lot of our plans for the future.  And, we didn’t really feel the need to just be newlyweds for a while.  We’ve been together for a long time, own a couple houses, are financially ready, etc… so the timing just seemed to fall into place for us!

Post # 8
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2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We got pregnant 2 months after our wedding, but we had an Angel Baby before the wedding. Honestly, it’d be nice to have time together before a baby, but we’re in our 30s, so we decided kids now and we’ll get our time as it comes.

Post # 10
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I will bite a bit on this one. 

I am regretting it a bit this week (14 weeks pregnant) and its probably mostly due to hormones.  We got pregnant right around 6 months of marriage, will have the baby 2 months after our 1 year anniversary.

We had the check list of items.  Been together for many years, bought a house together, did the home repairs we wanted to, traveled, I finished my masters and have a stable job, we have our debt under control and have a decent amount of savings, etc. 

However, it is still overwhelming to be pregnant right now.  There are SO many costs associated with having a baby.  However, I think all of these concerns and issues would be happening to us even if we had waiting several years to have a baby.

Even with my insurance covering 80% of my expenses, we are estimating that having the child will be over $2,000 when its all said and done.  We know the OB bill is about $500 (not including any ultrasounds or bloodwork), but we don’t know exactly what the hospital bill will be. 

On top of that, we have a rough budget of the big ticket items that we need to buy before baby gets here (crib, car seat, etc).  We will hopefully have showers to get some of the smaller stuff, but we added up anything that will cost over $100.  The total cost is another $2,000. 

So that is $4,000 we have to cover in the next 5 months before birth.  After birth, then comes the expenses of diapers, formula, etc and hopefully not any unforseen medical expenses with the baby.  Its just a bit overwhelming. 

Again, most of these things are expense related money and just my feeling of being overwhelmed.  I am completely comfortable with where my relationship stands with my husband and I can’t wait to start a family with him!

Post # 12
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1645 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

There is a small part of me that wishes we had been able to buy our home and still take a honeymoon before getting pregnant! But we had made an offer on our home after we were pregnant (but before the positive test), so no honeymoon for us. Darling Husband is 30 and I’m just 27. We are both really ready for a family and both really want to be parents. Thankfully we both have fairly stable jobs and DH’s health insurance covers 100% of the prenatal care and labor/delivery costs. Overall I’m ecstatic that we’re expecting and don’t have any regrets.

Post # 13
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

I’m not married yet (or engaged) and pregnant (Surprisedsome bees are clutching their pearls in horror,LOL) and I won’t regret having our baby before we get married. We’re 29/32, have our home fully paid for, our degrees and jobs. We were planning on kids right after the wedding anyway so no biggie.

We’re quite happy with a little family coming soon. 🙂

Post # 14
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538 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@roxy821: Yea I guess you will always have the unknown but the types of things that I wrote about you can plan for and account for.  

My perspective could change once baby gets here.  We still haven’t figured out the whole daycare thing.  

This wasn’t exactly a planned pregnancy for us, so even with all these costs, we are still going to make it and be just fine.  

Post # 16
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219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I do kind of regret the timing. My husband & I got married on Oct. 2nd & found out I got pregnant just a little over a month later! We just thought with my history of being on BC for so long & my age (37) the ONE time we had unprotected sex definately wouldn’t produce a baby! Well we were wrong! I wish we had at least had a year together to have “just us” time & for financial reasons. BUT at the same time the way it happened showed me it was God’s plan for us. I was on the fence about whether to have a child & was driving myself INSANE about the decision….well decision MADE!

I had about 3 weeks of freaking out & “mourning” my child-free lifestyle but then I processed it & am extremely excited & happy about it! I also feel fortunate to have gotten pregnant so easily. There are so many girls that have to go to major efforts & it can be a strain on them & their marriages.

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