(Closed) If you are having/had kids at your wedding but didnt necessarily want to….

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
1037 posts
Bumble bee


I can completely sympathise with you.  I have always said that there were to be absolutely no kids at our wedding and while I have lost the battle it hasn;t been lost entirely.  My future husband has a niece (4 years) and a nephew (won’t even be 1 year old) and he wants them at our wedding.  Personally I don’t see the point of a 4 year old and a baby under 1 coming to what will be a long day but we haven’t invited any other children! and it’s staying that way!

I am very interested in what other bees did though 🙂


Post # 4
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

There was a thread yesterday about what one of the brides did for entertainment of the kids at the wedding.

Post # 5
3564 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We had four kids at our wedding (our nieces/nephew) and two other kids who only stayed for the ceremony/cocktail hour. They were all really well behaved, and it’s really only the parent of two of the kids that bothered me (he was walking around with his youngest ALL NIGHT–during speeches, the first dance, cake cutting) because she would’nt sit still. So you can see him walking around during all the photos. not a big deal, it just annoys me. 

Post # 6
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I actually had a dream last night that all these people brought kids who weren’t supposed to and i had a melt down lol. We’re handling the kids situation in a less than traditional way…. we’re inviting some but not all. We both really did NOT want kids at our wedding (mostly bc we’re not a fan of them, but also because of cost), but there were 3 families that we encountered some issues with. Fam 1- it would have caused a meltdown in my family if we’d not invited them. I know this bc my cousin just got married this summer and didn’t invite them, and there was a meltdown. Fam 2- FI’s uncle’s fam who prob would’ve either not shown up or just shown up and brought the kids anyways (did this at my shower). Fam 3- FI’s other uncle would’ve just not shown up. 

So…… we invited those 3 fams with kids and no one else’s kids. Luckily all the other kids are my cousins’ kids and they are all pretty cool with the situation. They know how I feel about children and honestly they like a night out without them sometimes. There are 2 other families I think might give us some issues but if we’re questioned I think I”m going to make an age argument bc they have younger kids (under 5) and the kids that are coming are mostly older. 

Post # 7
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Wow! This is exact battle I am in the middle of right now. I really don’t want kids at our wedding, specifically cost and because of the space there. I get 100 chairs, and I really would like to use that for adults rather than little kids, who are not going to behave. Since most of our guests are travelling 1-2 hrs, my Fiance thinks that we need to invite their kids as well. I was thinking that we could do seperate room for the kids, but I am just not sure how that’ll work out? Is that ok to do? Any ideas?

Post # 9
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My cousin brought her baby, which I was not keen on (because I have an aunt who always gushes over the baby and I find it a bit annoying, especially since Darling Husband and I do not want kids), but the baby behaved quite well so it wasn’t bad. Other than some initial gushing when she got there, nothing else happened.

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