Post # 1
those who are pregnant/have had a baby, were you where you wanted to be in your career before getting pregnant?<br />I have recently started a new career in HR and i believe that where i want to be in my career will take about 2 years – but am planning on children in about a year. im feeling pressured to reach my goals ASAP although i know i need to bide my time.<br />I realise that a career doesnt die when you have a child and that i can always go back to working and building my career after a baby, but id much prefer to be set up already before they come along – if possible!!!<br />just wondering where you all were when you had a baby.<br />any advice/feedback is appreciated!! 🙂
Post # 2
I started a new job when I was pregnant with my son, but I had been an attorney for 4 years at that point. About 3 years later, I was promoted to my current job. I have remained in this job (federal government staff attorney). I am a GS 14 and I don’t really want to supervise or move, so I am kind of stuck in this grade. I am perfectly ok with that though. It’s a really good job. I do hard, interesting work for the most part. It’s a pretty nice career I can balance with family.
Post # 3
Choosing between the first two was hard for me. I want to do well in my job, but I am not career driven to the extent that a lot of people are. I just got a new job and it is an actual management position, as opposed to the two jobs I had previously that had the same responsibility without the pay/title.
I got pregnant a month after starting here, and I would be happy to quit and stay home, but I do like it, so I’ll probably try to go part-time.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I’m doing a job I love in a career field that I love. I wouldn’t say that I’m “right where I want to be” because I’m always interested in moving around in an organization and doing different things. I am happy with where I am right now, but definitely don’t want to stay here forever.
I am highly career motivated, and will be returning to work ASAP after baby.
Post # 5
My baby is 7 months and I would say I still have a long way to go to reach my ultimate career goals but if I waited around until I reached them I’d probably be too old for babies simply because what I want to do involves a lot of dues to pay and time spent. I love my current career. Not working was not really considered for various reasons. I took 12 weeks for FMLA but other than that having a baby hasn’t changed anything in relation to my career path. I’m still moving up!
Post # 6
I’m definitely not as high up on the ladder as I ever want to be, but I’m satisfied with where I am in my career at the moment. Actually I feel like having a baby now is kind of strategic in that my career development has to branch off in one of two directions: a more event-focused direction in which I have to travel a fair amount, or a more communications-focused direction in which I don’t. I would strongly prefer the latter, and by starting a family now, it dissuades the higher-ups on my team from trying to push me in the direction of the former. It also helps that I work in tech, which, despite not always being overly female-friendly is surprisingly family friendly; I should be able to take 5-6 months of (partially) paid maternity leave, and my schedule is pretty flexible – I can work 8-4 instead of 9-5 to avoid rush hour traffic, or work from home if I’m sick or have appointments. Based on what I’ve seen with coworkers, I don’t think motherhood will set me back in any way, unless I mommytrack myself, which I don’t plan on doing.
Post # 7
nowma I have the career I want, but I’m still temporary. My job us trying to make me permanent, but it is complicated (I’m government and it’s really hard for a non-veteran to be hired).
We are TTC now. I Will know by Christmas if I can be hired permanently. If I got the job, fantastic. If I didn’t, then we will need to either stop TTC so I can go on the job market or if I am pregnant I will finish my term with maternity leave.
It is far from ideal, but this job is awesome and worth waiting for. TTC is too important to put off.
Post # 8
nowmarriedgirl: I’m currently 13 weeks pregnant with our first child and I would say that I’m somewhat satisfied with where I’m at right now. I’m an estimator for an electrical contractor, that I started about 3 years ago, but left about 1.5 years ago when DH and I got married (I moved to where DH was stationed). I came back to work for my boss in September when we moved close enough I could have a shorter commute, but found out I was pregnant about 2 weeks after coming back.
I’ll essentially have to leave the company again since the commute is too long to transport a newborn and childcare would be through the roof. Not to mention with the hours I am working, daycare hours wouldn’t be feasible.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I wasn’t even finished college when DS was born, so I was a very, very very long way from where I wanted to be with my career. I’ve built my entire career while being a Mom, and spent the first 12 of those Mom years as a single parent. I think there is a lot of handwringing by women over this, but there are ways to have both. The “trick” is to choose a career that allows for flexibility. Being able to work from home, start work as early as 6am or as late as 10am on any given day, and carefully choosing who (management) you work for make all the dfference in the world.
Post # 10
Haha…no I was not where I want to be. But I got a late start even working due to grad school so I doubt I’d be where I really wanted to be until 40+, as most people who do what I would want to do have much more experience than me (years). But at the same time, I am pretty happy with where I am at, even though I’d like to do more eventually. So it wasn’t really a consideration for me.
Post # 11
nowmarriedgirl: I see other women my age who are managers and I think that’s impressive but then everyone is at a different stage in her life at different ages. I’m quite satisfied with where I was at the point I went on leave (yesterday 😉 ) to have my first baby. I achieved everything I wanted to before having a baby: several years practising experience, high income, a good reputation. There is still the bulk of my career to come, however and I will be about 55 at my career peak I guess.
Post # 12
thanks for all the comments ladies!!!!
i appreciate your time. and it makes me feel like im not the only one whose not quite there.
like i said, life doesnt end when you have a child, i can always go back to work after! 😀
Post # 13
I’m working full time while I’m in school part time and I have a four year old. Being a single mother was tough and with out my FI help idk if I could do it all. My son is from a previous relationship. My now FI and I have decided to ttc when I’m done witch school. We’re getting married next summer so then I can be on his Heath insurance and finish school up full time and cut work down to part time. Then while we have kids I’ll just work part time and then go full time when their older. I think part time is the way to go for me. I love working (I’m an LPN now going for my RN) so I’ll have the option to just move up in my current job and work part time.