(Closed) For those of you who wrote their own ceremony

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
Bee
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010 - Al Cielo / La Laguna

I wrote ours on my own and Mr. M. really didn’t have any input. He said all he wanted was not to have to write/memorize vows. =)

What I did was search through different types of ceremony online and found that mostly I liked the parts from humanist ones. So I took a piece from here and there, changed any wording or added wording where I wanted it.

We did a hands ceremony and a sand ceremony, both of which I rewrote the words so it fit us a little more. Like the hands one I took kids out of it because we are not sure we having kids.

Not sure if this will help but I blogged our entire ceremony if you wanted to take a look. 

Post # 4
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I wrote the entire thing and then had Fiance read it over and tweak whatever he didn’t like or thought was overly lame. Needless to say he removed QUITE a bit, lol. Our officiant is my cousin who is getting ordained to perform our ceremony so she doesn’t have a clue as to where to start when it comes to writing these things.

I pretty much kept it short and sweet (well under 10 minutes) and found my inspiration online and through some fellow Bees. As far as elements go, we’re not really incorporating much. I really wanted to have our moms come up to do the whole “last kiss as single people from the person who gave us our first kiss in life” thing but Fiance nixed that idea. We’re not into unity candles or sand ceremonies so my cousin will basically just say a few words then jump right into the “I Do’s”. Afterall, that’s really the only important part (atleast to us). 

Post # 6
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our officiant gave us a binder of all his previous ceremonies and we sort of picked what we liked, mish mashed it together, and came up with something. We wrote our own vows and added in a reading we liked. I’ll bring a copy for you tonight 🙂

Post # 7
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7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@bakerella: oh yay! You’re coming!!!! hihi

I would like to write my own vows, but Fiance just wants the traditional way, so we might combine the two of them. We are booking the church in the next couple of weeks and then we will find out from the priest what we can and cannot do.

Post # 8
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I pretty much wrote the whole thing, and included a reading the officiant had that was nice.  My hubby just reviewed and took out/added things accordingly, but didn’t edit much.

Everyone really loved our ceremony because it was so us and not anything they’d heard before 🙂

Post # 9
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5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We wrote it together. First we talked about what we knew we wanted/didn’t want, then we sat down and googled different cermonies.  Once we had a sense of the general structure we liked, we went off by ourselves and each wrote something up. Then we combined them.  I loved ours – it was super short, but absolutely perfect for us.

Edit: Here’s the ceremony, in case it helps. It was about 5 minutes long.

Welcome, all. Thank you for coming today to witness and celebrate the marriage of A and B.
 
The structure we are standing in is a chuppah.  This chuppah symbolizes the home A and B create together. The roof provides protection and shelter. The four poles holding up the roof represent the love and support offered by friends and family. The open walls symbolize A and B’s willingness to welcome others into their lives.
 
B, will you have A to be your husband?
I will.
Do you promise to love, honor, and protect him and to seek with him a life together?
I do.
Then repeat after me: I, B, take you, A, to be my husband, from this day forward.
 
A, will you have B to be your wife?
I will.
Do you promise to love, honor, and protect her and to seek with her a life together?
I do.
Then repeat after me: I, A, take you, B, to be my wife, from this day forward.
 
Traditionally, the passage into marriage is marked by the exchange of rings.  May these rings always remind you of your vows to each other.
 
Repeat after me: A, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion. With all that I am and all that I have, I join my life to yours.
Repeat after me: B, I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and devotion. With all that I am and all that I have, I join my life to yours.
 
You are now husband and wife.
 
[Kiss]
 
May I present the newly married A and B?
 
[We leave]
 
A and B will now spend the first few moments of their marriage alone together. In the meantime, please enjoy drinks and hors d’oeuvres, and they will rejoin us shortly!

Post # 10
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10288 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

@tranquility: I’m at work now but on lunch I’ll see if I can find our ceremony on my work computer (I did write it here afterall, lol) and I’ll post it to give you some inspiration. It’s short, sweet and entirely non-religious. 🙂

Post # 11
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3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Like @Bakerella, we mashed together a bunch that we liked from other ceremonies, and then personalized it. I did most of the legwork, but everything was approved by Darling Husband before we submitted it to our officiant. She worked through it and let us know suggested changes based on her experience, which we obliged.

Here’s the text of ours: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/our-ceremony-script-9252010-wedding-lt3

Post # 12
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817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wrote ours on my own by doing a ton of internet searches and finding things I liked. That was when I thought a friend would be our officiant (who has only officiated a couple of informal weddings).

But we nailed down a reverend now who will officiate and we’re going to meet up with him in the next few weeks to figure it out. I hope he will use most of what i’ve come up with but I of course also want his input.

Some elements we’re incorporating are a reading from the ABC’s of Faith by Frederich Buechner, the unity candle lighting, a song performance by my FBIL’s, thanks to our parents and hugs, and also a moment of silence to honor those not with us.

Post # 13
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14496 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Darling Husband was zero help, and our officiant was his aunt that had only done his sisters wedding a few months prior.  I just took snipits of samples I found on line and pulled things I liked from it to put mine together.  Darling Husband and his aunt looked it over and just pulled things out of it, but didnt really edit anything other than that.

Post # 14
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2714 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Our officiant sent us a huge doc of sample ceremonies. We are currently trying to write it together. It was a bit overwhelming for Fiance so I went through all the material first, picked out 3 – 4 excerpts for each part of the ceremony that I liked and together the two of us are narrowing it down. Ugh. I will happy when it’s done haha.

The officiant told us to contact her at any time if we want her input. She’s been very responsive.

Post # 16
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93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I did an initial draft and then had Fiance review – there were a few places I put multiple “options” (like the vows) and had him choose which version he liked best.  Then we sent it to our officiant for his additional comments.

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