Post # 1
Change? I am wondering how/when to do it.
I want to wear my beautiful wedding dress for as long as possible on the day of but my future in laws really would like me to wear a traditional red Chinese qipao for at least part of it.
I was thinking I could wear the qipao just for the sit-down dinner since nobody would have really seen my wedding dress anyway behind a table.
However that means my timing for changing back and forth would be pretty tight! We will be serving cocktails and appetizers to our guests between the ceremony/reception (everything in the same building but different rooms) while we take 1.5 hours of pictures. I am worried about taking another 15 mins on top of that to change before entering the reception room. That’s almost a 2 hour cocktail hour! And then after dinner we will be doing cake cutting and first dance (so back to my white wedding dress). Is it weird to leave guests hanging at the tables another 15 mins between dessert and the other stuff?
We will have a photo booth open (except during dinner) so this can help occupy guest time.
But does anyone have a better suggestion for handling this issue? I just feel like the way I am planning will be a busy and rushed PItA.
Post # 3
I will be wearing a qipao too and I’m planning to do it for the cake cutting part. I would like to change back into my white dress for the garter, grand exit, etc. Most Chinese brides will change mid-way into the reception (or near the end) and usually not at the beginning. Your idea sounds fine though, but I would try to cut down the time alloted to take pictures so your guests aren’t waiting too long. Good luck!
Post # 4
i changed at 10 pm , i have kids so when i took one of them upstairs in hotel to get something o cant even remember why we went to the room i changed into a shorter dress and was out for 55 minutes, i called it a night at 11pm when all three of my children were finally crashing. so the groom and grooms men stay up til the end while guests were leaving.
Post # 5
I think you will find it extremely hard to find time to change twice. I had a reception dress but wore it only after all the formal stuff (cake cutting, bouquet toss, garter) were done, and not even right away. I changed maybe 45min-1hr before the end of the reception, and it was hard to get a moment to do even that! You truly won’t have 20 min to change, it will be like 5 min. I had someone come to help me out of my dress, went to the bathroom and changed while choking down a piece of cake in less than 5 minutes.
Post # 6
Why don’t you wear the qipao for the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 7
@instantcoffee: I would love to do that but I doubt we will do any formal dinner for that. Not really common in my circle.
Oh and my fiance’s family is Chinese but I am white.
Post # 8
What time is your wedding? I went to a friends where she did a chinese tea ceremony. She wore the traditional chinese dress and did the tea ceremony before the wedding. It was her and her Fiance, his parents, her parents and I think a grandmother there. They had the photographer take some pictures of them all with her in the qipao, and then she went back up to her room. She changed into her wedding gown and everyone headed to the church for the ceremony. (She had done hair and makeup before the tea ceremony). She stayed in the wedding dress for the ceremony and reception. It made more sense to her to use the qipao with the chinese tea ceremony, then to change midway through the day “just because”. It also gave them all a special moment together before the ceremony, and her groom still got to see her in the “wedding gown” for the first time when she came down the aisle. Maybe this would be a possibliity.
Post # 9
My wedding will be 4:30 (probably), but we will be leaving for the venue at 2:30 to get some pictures done before the ceremony – bride and groom side of the family/friends separately, and see the venue set up, etc.
I figure we will start getting ready around 10am because of that, but even if we did have time for a tea ceremony I wouldn’t want to do it. I want the first time my fiancé sees me that day to be at the ceremony, no matter what I was wearing before that.
I wouldn’t mind doing a tea ceremony the day before, so that is something to bring up with his parents. They have never mentioned it before so I’m not sure if it’s common in their particular culture.
Post # 10
I changed immediately after our first dance. I was so glad to change, I couldn’t dance a bit in my dress. It took me about two minutes to strip out of the dress and throw on the other and I did it in the bathroom at the reception.
Post # 11
I did it no problem I wore wedding dress for reception from beginning (7pm to about 10pm) and changed into my red dress for the father daughter dance. If people are freaking out I am gone for at most 15mins I couldn’t have cared less.
I have NO regrets wearing my gorgeous chinese dress!