Mrs2b2014: I actually went to a few bees’ profiles and seems like some are still active, and many have actually gone through the whole TTC process and had their baby! Crazy
Why are you waiting?
1. We aren’t 100% sold on having kids
2. My Darling Husband wants to be 30 before “deciding or seriously considering”. But I don’t like that idea…we are 26 now and I am less enthusiastic about not planning as if we want a child in our early 30’s and leaving it to a decision when we may actually be wanting to start TTC.
3. Due to the above factors, I am trying to get him on board with acting like we will have a kid at 30, so we can change plans if we turn out not wanting kids, but are prepared if we decide that we do…or if we decide we want one before 30.
Do you have a time frame that you’re planning to start TTC?
I would prefer late 2017-2018, then I would be 29-30 when baby arrives and Darling Husband would be 28-29, but he wants to wait until late 2019 or later….I feel a bit frustrated that he is younger, since we have to wait for him to hit a rather arbitrary number, but it puts more stress on my body being pregnant older. A little unreasonable, I know.
What’s on your pre-baby bucket list?
Travel more- we have traveled a lot, but I want to do some big trips (African safari, Northern Lights in Sweden, Thailand/Burma/Indonesia)
Move to my next duty station… My plan of starting TTC late 2017 would mean we had settled into our new house and would have at least one year in the same place when baby arrives (assuming <8 mth conception timeline and 9mths gestation)
Pay off all our debt (student loans, car)
There are so many factors affecting timelines and decisions that it is really hard to plan at this time. I just am a huge planner and think that we probably will end up with a baby at some point, but my Darling Husband is attached to an age and I don’t want to pressure him before he is ready, but I also want him to meet me in my concerns with aging and pregnancy.