(Closed) For those recently married….

posted 8 years ago in Beehive
Post # 4
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

The thing that kept me calm was being with my husband for most of the prep.  That isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but it really helped me from getting anxious.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I am so glad we took most of the pictures ahead of time but i wish we would have done family pictures ahead of time too- or at least not have them as rushed as they were. We tried to take them between the ceremony and reception and people kept jumping in the background so it felt very chaotic! 

I didn’t forget about anything- We took most of our stuff to the venue the week of. That also helps things go more smoothly the day of.

I also had all my Bridesmaid or Best Man come over to my house for hair and makeup.. it was nice because we could all relax and enjoy ourselves. The only place we had to drive was to the venue. 

Also if you have heels- wear them for a full day before the wedding. I had worn mine around the house but that wasn’t a true test because they hurt so bad i changed into my flip flops before the ceremony. lol

Do your best to take everything in- it goes by soooo fast! It’s been a month and i still am wondering where the time went! Do your best to really make the most of everything and don’t sweat the small things. The guests don’t know about all the little details so if something is out of place or forgotten, they will most likely not even notice! 

Post # 6
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1518 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh and for pictures! I printed out a bunch of shots i liked along with a list and gave it to the photographer ahead of time. I felt like i was being a little controlling but they actually really appreciated it because it gave them an idea of what we liked. 

Also it was so fun to go by the florist a couple days before the wedding. I got to see a sneak peak with my mom and cousin– it made things very exciting! So if you have time that might be a fun thing to go do! 

Post # 7
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900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I have to disagree with one small thing Allyser mentioned.  I would NOT wear your heels the day before.  I wear heels frequently but my feet were KILLING me by the end of the night.  I took my heels off once, but I didn’t like how short I felt in the dress so I got a bunch of band-aids and put them back on.

If I had worn them the night before too, I would have literally died! : )  That said…I would not have worn a different pair on shoes.  I LOVED them.  Sorry for all the caps!

My only suggestion is to be somewhere you know you will be comfortable the night before.  I stayed at the hotel which I learned had really thin walls.  I listened to a couple have sex multiple times throughout the night (like yelling sex, gross).  I literally thought about calling a cab to take me home to my real bed.

Besides wishing the reception was an hour longer, I didn’t miss/regret anything else.

Post # 8
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m not married just yet, but I agree with Allyser… I also gave my photographer a CD with ideas of pictures I liked, and that made it a lot easier on her for ideas for our engagement pictures that she knew we would like and she went from there.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didn’t say the day before! oh no no no i just meant at some point before the wedding! So you know where they will rub and you can be preventative  by putting band-aids or shoe insoles where you will need them at the beginning of the day! 

Post # 10
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129 posts
Blushing bee

Try not to get upset if something goes wrong.  Yes, it’s cliche, but something(s) will go wrong, and it’s easy to get stressed out or upset with someone.  However, you don’t want to look back on your wedding day and feel guilt or regret for acting poorly, so make a conscious effort to just go with the flow!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Great point @lili316!

Our baker messed up every part of her job- made the groom’s cake the same as the brides cake when it was suppose to be chocolate, forgot the other chocolate sheet cake and did a horrible job on the decorations of the brides cake! But i am glad that i ignored it for the day and dealt with it later. It wouldn’t have done any good to let it get to me then. There is nothing i could have done at that point. So yes try to push any thing that goes wrong out of the way until later- and then you can deal with it if you want! 

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I got married 3 months ago, and my mom has still been complaining that we didn’t get enough family shots. My photographer asked me for a list of shots we wanted before the wedding, but it was so chaotic the weeks before, that I never got around to it. So, make sure you do this! We got a couple shots immediately after the outdoor ceremony, but none during the reception (change of scenery and clothing). We didn’t have a scheduled time during the reception to take family photos. We went to a friend’s wedding where they took some family photos during dinner, I kind of wish we did this as well. My mom and I are pretty close, she was pretty upset that there were only 2 shots of us together during the whole event.

Shoes….I had my ceremony shoes which I knew wouldn’t last me the whole day. So my Maid/Matron of Honor had a bag full of my stuff, including 2 other pairs of shoes I could wear that were much more comfortable for the reception.

Post # 13
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I wish I had test my dress more.  It seemed fine at the fitting but after about 15/20 mins at the wedding my dress starting dropping down!  It’s corset so I had my bridemaids tighten it but then it caused awful back fat which I am still REALLY upset about.

I also wish I paid more attention to taking pictures with people who travelled far.  We got our formals but at the wedding things went by so fast we didn’t take any pictures with people to travelled to see us.

I also wished (a tiny bit) I had a videographer.  At my wedding we ended up having lots of dance offs that I wish someone would have captured on video.

I tested out my shoes for days leading up to the wedding and I still only were able to keep them on until the reception.

Diffinity don’t sweat the small stuff. My uplight company didn’t call to confirm until the day of the wedding (partly my fault, week of was so busy I kinda forgot they never called me and I called them the night before) and they end up forgetting the large paper lanterns that was suppose to hang over the dance floor.  I was disappointed but nothing could be done since I didn’t see the room until the cocktail hour.  I just made sure they didn’t charge me for it.  The room looked AMAZING and no one knew it was suppose to be there.  

I also thought I would get to my bridal suite at 2pm, be able to have lunch and get ready before the photographer came at 3pm.  I didn’t get to the bridal suite until 3pm and that’s with me speeding. Which brings another point keep all your stuff with you. I was going to drop off all the bridal dresses and makeup the morning of before hair and makeup (becuase we will have an hour to prep) but my mom talked me out of it.  Sooo glad since the bridesmaid then had to get ready at the salon and was glad all their stuff was with them.

Post # 14
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1801 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would bring a shot list, but give it to the Maid/Matron of Honor or someone like that who knows who each family member is (as the photographer may not know who’s Grandma and such).  I missed a couple shots because of disorganization, mostly on our families’ part. 

Also, I wish we had waited to do the cake cutting until a little into the dancing so it was a slightly awkward staged event. 

My advice is to enjoy getting ready, because it’s a great chance to de-stress and have fun!

Post # 15
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Make sure you eat in the morning.  I made the mistake because of nerves not to eat.  Once the wedding was over I had a few drinks and had a horrible buzz.  Not something i wanted on my wedding day.

I also made the point not to stress on my wedding day about the small stuff.  I let my Maid/Matron of Honor and Mother handle most of the little stuff. Overall it was an amazing day. 🙂 GL

Post # 16
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2271 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I wish some one would have told me that I had back fat while in my dress! I also wish we had spent a bit more of photography and gotten someone more experienced. I forgot the guest book! Despite all that, it was a truly joyful day!

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