Post # 1
…talk yourself into accepting how you are, and loving yourself for how you look? Ive always been under weight, from day 1- I have never ever experienced a ” chubby phase”- I have a very high metabolism. Sounds good right? But its not really. So many times I hate looking at my self in the mirror, I’m a very thin petite girl. my legs are the issue. I just CANT gain weight there- at all. Literally. Im feeling very self concious to wear anything short becuase I hate how thin my legs look. So I make myself feel better by looking at all the thin models at victoria secrets and Im probably as thin as them.. so I think to myself..” well, theyre jus as skinny — how can they accept it and I cant ? ” Im also pretty short — so If I were taller then I would probably feel better abou the ” you look like a model ” thin phrase, but being short and thin just upsets me. Now I feel a little iffy about my upcoming wedding because My Fiance hasnt seen my legs since I always cover them up anyway.
What are your tips? how do you deal with your struggles? What makes you feel better?
Post # 3
well I’m the opposite end of the spectrum but I think it’s the same either way. I think about how much I would hold it against my friends in they were that way (any way I’m feeling about myself…too fat, too lazy, too bad at running) and then I realize that I should love myself as much as my friends and that I would be really mad at anyone that dissed my friends like that.
Also, i’m sure your Fiance will be fine with your legs.
Post # 4
Don’t let yourself be defined by your looks!
Your soon to be Husband is not marrying you based on your figure alone 😉
Post # 5
@mcklough: Your right. My friends and family love me for who I am and how I look, I feel the same way about them as well.
@Eva Peron: haha Very true. I shouldnt define myself based on just my looks theres more to me then just my appearance. but its so hard to just feel that youve tried to accomplish something and its just not working. I do eat a lot though, but like I said metoblism.. Will try to find a way to look at the bright side though.
Thank you both!
Post # 6
I’ll let you know if it ever happens. I am always trying to lose weight. I am about a size 4 (can go down to a 2 or up to a 6 depending on the particular item, but most consistently a 4), and have spent the last 10 years wanting (perhaps not exactly trying) to lose 15 pounds. I actually like the skinny look. You probably have my ideal body type.
My friend though, is in the same boat as you. She is 5’10 and maybe -if she wears a heavy sweater and eats something right before getting on the scale- 110 pounds. I think she looks healthy but she gets a lot of criticism as well as random strangers yelling at her to ‘eat a sandwich’ and referring to her as ‘that anorexic girl’. She does not have an eating disorder; she is a healthy eater with a sky high metabolism.
She also hates her legs (on top of being so tall and thin, she is also a little disproportionate, with a shorter torse and longer legs. That combination makes for some pretty thin legs!). For a long time she refused to wear shorts and skirts. You actually might be better off being short and thin. My friend, on top of her insecurities, also has the hardest time finding jeans that fit.
Anyways, it’s the most basic advise, but remember probably less than 1% of women feel that there isn’t something they wish they could change. I might even venture that 100% of women would change something about their appearance if they could. And obviously, some people are going to be attracted to and appreciate every body type. As much as I wish I could lose 15 pounds and by skinny, there is probably someone out there who wishes they had my body. There’s probably a lot more women out there who wish they had your body.
Post # 7
I’m overweight (5’4, 190lbs) but I loved my body most of the time. I try to focus on what I like. I like my face, my hair. Some days when i’m wering my good undergarments and look in the mirror I think about how sexy certian parts of my body is (esp when I suck in my stomache).
Yes I would feel ashame of my belly rolls sometimes and am embrassed when I can’t fit into any clothes at a certian store even when I have their biggest size but I try to focus on the good parts. That’s the only advice I can give you about trying to love your body as a whole. As for legs maybe you can do some legs exercises and gain some muscle to give them some shape. They will always be skinny but maybe you awesome rocking some skinny jeans or chunky tights with a long sweater. Also you can wear heels to feel taller but takes some getting use to.