Post # 1
For those of you who are planning on having kids and are keeping your name in some capacity- whether you are not changing it at all, hypenating, doing two last names or keeping your maiden name as your middle and using it, what do you plan to do with your kids’ last names? I did the MyFirst MyMiddle MyMaiden HisLast, and trying to go by First Maiden Last on everything, and want my maiden name in my kids’ names but not sure how to do it.
First Middle HisLast
First MyMaiden HisLast
First Middle MyMaiden HisLast
Post # 3
I notice a conspicuous absence of First Middle Mylast.
Post # 4
I am a product of First Mylast Hislast.
For the most part I was indifferent to it growing up. Everyone thought it was a bit strange that my bro and I had the same middle name in our mother’s maiden name.
Now it is more special to me, especially when I am in the process of changing my name- adding my maiden name as a second middle name and adding his last name as my new last name.
Post # 5
I’m keeping my name, but plan on giving the kids his last. I have control over the their first and middles, though, but his last name is just really awesome, and mine isn’t. It’s still my name and I have no desire to change it, but I just also don’t have a desire to pass it on. The kids names I have planned are all based on my family members, so that is special to me.
Post # 6
Is the first option supposed to read First Middle MyLast? It doesn’t make much sense with the question otherwise since the maiden name wouldn’t be in there at all….and that option would then be missing. We’ll either do First Middle MyLast HisLast or First Middle HisLast MyLast. (With the latter option, we’d probably use one surname with each kid, assuming we end up with two.) Fiance hates the hyphenated option. Another less common option is MyLast Middle HisLast, if you have a maiden name that can be used as a first name. (Mine technically can be, but I don’t like it as one. Ah, well!)
Post # 7
I didn’t want to give my kids my maiden name as their last name either, I want them to have their father’s name.
I think as a middle name it’s classy. I know a lot of people who do that.
For me, I’m considering naming one of my boys my maiden name, because my maiden name is a somewhat common boy name. So it would work really well. Not sure though 🙂 we’ll see.
Post # 8
@ Miss Spunkin: I love people who do this! I know a Scott and a Camp, both of which were the mother’s maiden names. My maiden name would work for this, because it is a man’s name, but it’s kind of lame, so we’ll probably go with something else.
Post # 9
We don’t want kids, but we did discuss this very briefly when we discussed our own names – we’re both keeping them as is. If we have kids, they will be First Middle HisLast-MyLast. I told him that in the event we did have kids, I was absolutely adamant on giving them my last name. He was already kind of hurting that I won’t be taking his in any capacity, though, so I told him his last name could come first. Though, to be honest, hislast-mylast sounds way WAY better than mylast-hislast.
I would have held out more for giving them solely my last name except that it doesn’t make sense to be contentious about something that’s probably not going to happen. Our names are short enough to hyphen without getting unweidly, and we’re both slightly satisfied with the solution.
Post # 10
@chicagobride: Me, too!
I want our kids to have my last name. We’ve talked about what name our kids would have, and the only thing we’ve agreed on is that we don’t want them to have hyphenated names. :/
Post # 11
I’m sure they’ll take his last name because I haven’t figured out what to do. Perhaps one of my sisters will have an illegitamite child and she can pass on the last name. I have a nice sized family but my grandfather and father both have all sisters and my dad had all daughters. I donno, I still haven’t changed my last name to his and think his last name sounds a bit like clearing your throat (it’s a French name) and I haven’t figured out how to say it without it sounding gross but him and his family hates their last name Americanized but it really sounds like you’re getting spit out of your throat.
Post # 12
My boyfriend and I have talked about giving girls my last name, and boys his, or vice versa. Equality in all things 🙂
Post # 13
I’m planning on naming my son’s first name after my maiden name! As a family we will use their father’s last name.
Post # 14
My BIL (Doug) has his moms maiden (Jones) as his middle and then his last is his dad and moms last name (Smith) so it’s Doug Jones Smith. BIL did the same to his kid: Bill Jones Smith.
I’ve often thought of giving our kid a variation/part of my maiden but doubt I would give them my actual maiden but it’s something to think about.
Post # 15
First Middle Hislast Mylast
First Middle Mylast